Truth In Others

 “Maybe it’s what we don’t say that saves us.”—   Dorianne Laux

[wovi]

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joy sullivan

[peoniepoetals]

“I go on loving you like water but / there is a terrible breath in the way all of this”

— John Ashbery, in “The Tennis Court Oath” from The Tennis Court Oath

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Time passing isn’t an apology. (via letsbelonelytogetherr)

[petaltexturedskies]

One day you’ll have whatever it is you’re now so confusedly seeking. That kind of calm that comes from knowing oneself and others. But you can’t rush the arrival of that state of mind. There are things you only learn when no one teaches them. And that’s how it is with life. There’s even more beauty in discovering it for yourself, in spite of the suffering.

Clarice Lispector, from “Gertrudes asks for advice” in The Complete Stories

[firstfullmoon]

Robert Wood Lynn, “There is Only One Ocean”

[wifegideonnav]

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

[theimpossiblecool]

Mads.

[belgiandad]

[kemetic-dreams]

[dimwings]

Loving someone is recognizing the role they play or have played in your life and honoring that presence. Sometimes, love feels like an obligation but it is one you are willing to fulfill. Sometimes it takes hard work but you are willing to put in that work. Love is the constant you hold on to when you don’t particularly like the one you love. Love is recognizing the ways in which, for better and worse, someone has contributed to your life.

Being in love is wild, breathtaking, infuriating. It is butterflies in your stomach when you think about your person, when you see them, when you hold them. It’s the electricity when your skin meets. It’s smiling at your person with wide eyes and an open heart and seeing them smile back at you in the same way. It’s wanting to hold someone’s hand, even when your hand is hot, a little sweaty. It’s lust and the heat of wanting, wanting, wanting. It’s seeing who someone truly is, the best and most terrible parts of them, and choosing not to look away from everything you see, actively embracing everything you see… It’s wanting to be the best version of yourself for your person but also for yourself, especially for yourself… It’s the pride you feel in their accomplishments and being as happy for their successes as you are for your own, if not more. It’s their hurts becoming your hurts… It’s a gut instinct. You just feel it. You know it in your bones. It isn’t perfect, not at all. It doesn’t need to be. It is, simply, what fills you up.

A soul mate is someone so deeply part of you that they feel like a vital organ, living outside of your skin. They are the hottest part of the sun, your true north, your home, the one from whom you will never walk away, no matter what the material conditions of your relationship might be. Your soul mate is the one you wait for knowing no matter what happens, that they are worth the wait. Your soul mate is the person you choose because you look at them always and think, “You… there you are.”

What Makes a Soul Mate: Roxane Gay on Loving vs. Being in Love

“It isn’t perfect, not at all. It doesn’t need to be. It is, simply, what fills you up.”

[dimwings]

Moments in the in between

[beguines]

I laugh and wake up laughing / and I want. I simply want and what dear god / is on the other side of want? I want that too. / My want is so wide I cannot cross it.

Michael Lee, "Row", The Only Worlds We Know

[clair-de-lunne]

by zorymory

[xandrehdzx]

Beginners (2010)

“Here. Here is simple and happy. That’s what I meant to give you”.

[theotreptos]

[wnq-writers]

“You’ve lost someone you thought was the love of your life and I know you think it will hurt like this forever, but I promise you it doesn’t. I’m not saying you’ll suddenly wake up one day and it’ll be like it never happened – because it won’t… There will always be a loss, there’s no if’s or but’s about that. If you lose an amazing person from your life – that leaves a hole in your heart that nobody else can ever fill… You can find happiness, you can find other people and things to fill your heart in other places… but the space that belonged to that person will always be empty. Because human beings are unique and complicated creatures, and when you combine two of them together you get a love that is just as unique and therefore irreplaceable. So don’t try to replace them because you can’t… and get out of the mindset that you’ll never love anybody as much or that no other relationship will compare to what you’ve lost. You don’t love people ‘more’ or ‘less’ than each other – you just love them differently. The way you love somebody else will be different yes – but it will not be ‘more’ or ‘less’ or ‘better’ or ‘worse’… just different… and that’s okay. You will find love again, but it’s never going to be the same love… and it’s only when you’re able to accept that and open yourself to the idea, that you’re finally ready to move on.”

— Ranata Suzuki | Don’t say you’ll never love again

[anearlymorningwalk]

“I look down at my body and think no, I will not abandon you.”

— Ashe Vernon - “For Anyone Who’s Listening” (via dostevsky)