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Therapists aren’t people who you “pay to pretend to care about you”, therapists are people you pay to teach you how to care for yourself
Me: I am violently depressed.
Therapist: Oh! Sounds like you need to do YOGA! That will help!
Me: *signs up for yoga*
Me: *is violently depressed in Downward Dog*
Me: I hate myself and only see my flaws
Therapist: ok lets refocus on things you like about yourself. This week i want you to try and journal about good things you’ve for yourself and others.
Me: *does the homework* yeah but i still hate myself but feel bad cause i shouldn’t
Therapist: feeling like you shouldn’t hate yourself is a step in the right direction. Mental health is complex and isn’t something that will ~magically~ improve. We have a lot of hard work head of us but I’ll be here to help you.
TL;DR stop perpetuating the idea that therapy is unhelpful because the results are not instantaneous.
FUCKING THIS.
As a psychologist the amount of bullshit on this site, the amount of fucking dangerous bullshit on this site about how therapy is neurotypical bullshit and isn’t worth it and how exercise is pointless and good diet is pointless and that therapy homework is pointless DRIVES ME UP THE FUCKING WALL
Exercise is fucking important. good diet is fucking important therapy is fucking important. WHY???
because pills alone don’t help. they improve the hormonal imbalance (as does exercise and good diet which ALSO are a form of very real self care as your physical being is sorta connected to your mental one but go fucking figure right?), but guess what? the suicidal thoughts, the thoughts of harm, the thoughts of hating yourself, they’re still there. suicides actually increase when medicated. why? because suddenly you have the energy to fulfill thoughts of harming yourself. which is why you NEED therapy alongside pills.
it has taken you years, or decades to create your maladaptive thought processes and behaviours. that shit doesn’t disappear overnight. core beliefs don’t change overnight. these are the very fucking core of your personhood, your being and personality. THAT TAKES TIME TO CHANGE
STOP ACTING LIKE THERAPY IS SHIT IF IT DOESNT WORK IN TWO SESSIONS
^This!!!!!
The stigma that therapy isn’t worth it if you don’t feel better after the first couple sessions is such bullshit. It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal but I kept going because I wanted to get better. I thought it was bs too when she kept telling me to think about other things and to distract myself when I have intrusive thoughts (not exact words whatsoever). Now it’s 2 and a half years later and I can successfully switch from thinking about all the ways I could kill myself to the song Slippery by Migos and immediately start laughing. You need to let it help you.
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Therapy in addition to meds is important, and finding the right therapist is important, not every therapist specialized in depression and not every therapist who specializes in depression will work for you.
Also this is in my experience: while exercise did not really help me with my depression, it did help me manage the side effects. The “do things” “muscle” in your brain is engaged when you make yourself exercise, so it gets stronger over time, and then it will be easier to do other things. If you need to start by doing simple anaerobic moves in bed like leg lifts, russian twists, and bicycles? That’s a start and you should feel proud of yourself for doing it. It’s a step in the right direction. And you might find that it actually does help with your depression!
-FemaleWarrior
“You have to find the right therapist who works for you” is part of the reason therapy has a bad reputation.
If my knee is broken, I don’t have to find the right radiologist to x-ray it or the right doctor to put a cast on it. There are doctors who aren’t really qualified for that - they won’t be offering to do the job. I don’t have to review their past histories and build a specific type of rapport with them before I can expect work that gets verifiable results.
If I want a tasty dinner, I don’t have to interview a bunch of chefs. I can say, “I like these flavors; I don’t like those flavors; I’m in the mood for [sweet/ hearty/ tangy/ etc.] food” - and can go to a place that specializes in that kind of food, and I can trust I’ll get something I’ll enjoy. Maybe it doesn’t work every time, but it’s sure as hell not, “You may need to try three or five or twelve restaurants to find an ice cream sundae you really like.”
If I’m looking for a therapist to treat depression, it is NOT UNREASONABLE for me to say, “I’ve had depression for X years.Here’s a list of other symptoms. I’m willing to fill out questionnaires or do an interview to go over other details” - at the end of that, I should be faced with a trained person who can help me.
Not, “a trained person who is qualified to treat depression.” I don’t care if they’re qualified to treat depression. I care if they’re going to help me. If they don’t have the kind of training or personality resonance needed to treat my problems, they are supposed to know that. I am not a medical expert; I am not a psychologist. Pushing the responsibility of finding a good therapist on me is an abdication of their health care responsibilities. When they say, “I accept you as a patient,” that needs to include, “I am fairly certain you will improve under my care.”
And I expect to start noticing those results - not “fix everything,” but noticeable changes - fairly quickly.
If I take a dance class, in three weeks, I can tell I’m learning new ways to move. If I take a coding class, after a few hours of work, I can spot some of my weak points and have some idea what I’ll need to do to improve them. If I take a cooking class, after a few sessions, I’ll have new vocabulary and a different understanding of safety procedures in the kitchen. I won’t know what to do with all that new knowledge yet, but I’ll be certain that I’m learning and growing.
It took me 8 months to tell my therapist anything personal
Name the other medical treatments you’re expected to pay for FOR 8 MONTHS before getting noticeable results.
I know a lot of people have been greatly helped by psychological therapy. I know a lot of therapists who actively help people, who are ethical, supportive people who wade through the sludge that is our medical payment system in order to provide that help.
But the profession as a whole is more art than science. There is no test for “Can Therapist X help Patient Y” the way there is for surgery, for internal medicine, for physical therapy.
I understand why. Letting someone change how you think and feel and relate to the world, is intimate. Allowing that intimacy with a stranger is difficult and dangerous. Some people can’t; some people do so too easily and get hurt. Therapy, more than most treatments, requires personal trust, and that’s hard.
Some therapists, like some members of any profession, are careless or ignorant of the side effects of their treatments. Many are honest but hampered by logistics - there is only so much you can do in a couple of hours a week, and adding to a person’s money worries may cancel out any benefit they get in other areas.
But understanding why therapy is often difficult doesn’t excuse the many therapists and other professionals who insist it’s the patient’s job to keep looking for someone who can help them.
If I need heart surgery instead of a cast on my leg, I don’t have to interview all the heart surgeons in my medical insurance plan to find the ones whose specialty includes my specific problem.
Therapy is often suggested as a treatment for considered or attempted suicide. A treatment designed to prevent death should have better standards than “maybe you will get along with one of the people on this list - how about you call each of them and have a 10-minute intro interview?”
But we DO tell people to shop around for doctors. This makes the really untrue assumption that people don’t have personality or diagnosis or treatment disagreements with their physical doctors. It definitely has taken over a year for me to get comfortable enough with my GP to talk about certain issues, and I think that’s reasonable. Lots of people feel trapped with doctors because they don’t know they’re allowed to decide they’re not vibing and just look for a new one.
Sure, if it’s at the ER or w/ev, I don’t get a choice, but I straight out asked for a different gastroenterologist fellow to work with me when I got hinky vibes about the way he wasn’t listening to me.
Health can be really intimate and mental health even more so. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to want to find someone you trust and acknowledge that you might not trust every doctor.
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For people who still don’t see anything wrong with cultural appropriation, who still call cornrows “boxer braids”, “Kim K braids” or whatever - our cornrows symbolize liberation and freedom, it’s not your trendy hairstyle, it actually does have a history.
Since slaves were never taught to write and drawing directions was dangerous, because they could lead to them being discovered, captured, sold again or even killed by their master.
To reduce the risk of being discovered, women started weaving the maps in their hair, carving out paths with their cornrows. Some of the patterns even had hidden messages!
Yes, braiding existed in Africa way before, but it got a whole new meaning when Europeans enslaved millions of people. So next time you decide to go for a “Kim K look”, do a little research before you end up disrespecting someone’s culture and just, in all honesty, looking silly.
#AppreciateDontAppropriate
That’s the most fucking badass thing that i think I’ve ever read
JUST LETTING Y'ALL KNOW WHERE THIS BLOG STANDS.
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Look at all this natural hair.
I feel seen and I'm not sure I like it
me: *gets jealous* me: chill
when u scratch a cat’s chin and they lift their head up reblog if u agree
when u scratch a cat’s cheek and they lean their head into ur hand reblog if u agree
when u put your hand in front of your cat’s face and they gently headbut u reblog if u agree
when ur cat runs just a lil bit faster to get to u reblog if u agree
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Me after one cup of coffee : i am beautiful and fast
I think seeing people in their 20´s and 30´s as “old” is pretty unhealthy tbh.
This post was hijacked but my point remains, you don’t turn old the instant you stop being a teenager. Let people enjoy being young adults, stop making teenagers anxious that their life ends the minute they hit twenty, or adults feel like they can’t have fun anymore.
ladies!!
we’re all gonna have wives one day
we’re all gonna be able to wake up every morning and go to bed every night and spend the whole day with the prettiest girl in the world!!! that’s crazy!!!
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can u believe some people can see a cat & not immediately be filled with absolute unconditional love for that animal. they dont even get the urge to kiss them right on their little baby cat head. thats incomprehensible to me