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[dirtyoldgentlemen-blog]

The more I think about it, the more it feels like I'm never going to have the time and energy I'd need to push this blog into being what it set out to be: a resource for guys who want to learn how to appreciate sex positivity in a non-skeevy way, and how to be an ally to feminism by explaining things in non-threatening, non-academic terms.

I first thought of it when I saw the parade of stories about creeps at cons failing to respect the boundaries of female booth workers and cosplayers, and incidents where creeps would pursue women in venues like cons or other geek-ish spaces. I thought hey, wouldn't it be nice to have a badge or identifier to communicate "I respect you, I'll be an ally if there's a creep, and if you're a creep, you sure as hell don't represent me".

But I'm taking on another personal project. And I'd hoped to get other contributors on board for alternate viewpoints, to create a collective. And that didn't happen - likely because I just didn't have it in me to push this as hard as I could. And I definitely do not have it in me to wade into contentious spaces where people who are on the fence about respectful behavior would benefit from hearing from a voice like this.

I love the writing that I've done here, and I still love the idea. But I just don't have it in me to give it what it needs. If there's someone out there, somewhere, who wants to take over the reigns, please reach out to me via [email protected]. I'd hate for the domain to lapse and turn into some sort of porn blog.

[dirtyoldgentlemen-blog]

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It might be time to say goodbye

The more I think about it, the more it feels like I’m never going to have the time and energy I’d need to push this blog into being what it set out to be: a resource for guys who want to learn how to appreciate sex positivity in a non-skeevy way, and how to be an ally to feminism by explaining things in non-threatening, non-academic terms.

I first thought of it when I saw the parade of stories about creeps at cons failing to respect the boundaries of female booth workers and cosplayers, and incidents where creeps would pursue women in venues like cons or other geek-ish spaces. I thought hey, wouldn’t it be nice to have a badge or identifier to communicate “I respect you, I’ll be an ally if there’s a creep, and if you’re a creep, you sure as hell don’t represent me”.

But I’m taking on another personal project. And I’d hoped to get other contributors on board for alternate viewpoints, to create a collective. And that didn’t happen – likely because I just didn’t have it in me to push this as hard as I could. And I definitely do not have it in me to wade into contentious spaces where people who are on the fence about respectful behavior would benefit from hearing from a voice like this.

I love the writing that I’ve done here, and I still love the idea. But I just don’t have it in me to give it what it needs. If there’s someone out there, somewhere, who wants to take over the reigns, please reach out to me via [email protected]. I’d hate for the domain to lapse and turn into some sort of porn blog.

[thegreatsapphicvein]

Is Complimenting a Woman Sexual Harassment?-Feminist Fridays

[womens--studies]

God bless

[misandry-mermaid]

Gentlemen! Let’s play a little game. I call it “Creep or Normal Guy?” The way you play is you have less than a second to decide whether a man you don’t know is a threat or not. If you identify a normal guy as a threat you could get called a bitch; if you identify a creep as a normal guy you could end up dead. This is fun, isn’t it? Now play it every day, with nearly every man you see, in nearly every situation you’re in, from the time puberty hits to … well, I turned 38 this week. Can someone tell me when I can stop playing?

Wild tells the story of every woman’s least favorite game: ‘creep or normal guy?’ - Kristen Page-Kirby (via misandry-mermaid)

[lnfamy-deactivated20200913]

i’m a guy and i just realised women are people….i’ll wait for the applause :)

[getfawked120-deactivated2023053]

white boy: *does the bare minimum*

y’all: HE’S SUCH A GOOD PERSON

[dirtyoldgentlemen-blog]

#Macklemore

[jessicavalenti]

It’s not that I mind seeing breasts everywhere; after all, I have two of my own that I quite like. But it’s disheartening that breasts are often considered more interesting than the people they’re attached to – as if we’re an afterthought compared to our body parts.

My latest at the Guardian US on how women are reclaiming their racks. #sorrynotsorry (via jessicavalenti)

Exactly my thoughts whenever I see just another design focused on cleavage window or boobplate, while serving no practical function or informing us nothing about who wears it.

~Ozzie

(via bikiniarmorbattledamage)

[theaccidentalradical]

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[riotsiren-blog]

I need this framed

[dykespeare-deactivated20181228]

none of your faves are unproblematic. none of your friends or family are unproblematic. you are not unproblematic. there is literally no point during the process of learning about social justice type stuff and unlearning internalized bullshit and dismantling power systems at which you magically become enlightened and unproblematic. it does not exist. there is no tangible finish line, there is only endless, arduous work and it’s hard but it needs to be done.

[feimineach]

"yes, poor little old you." On anonymous was a woman: pinterest: feimineach

[dirtyoldgentlemen-blog]

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25 Invisible Benefits of Gaming While Male

As a straight white male, I can attest to all of these. Especially the very last one.

[femfreq]

Check out our new short video! It’s based on the article “Playing with privilege: the invisible benefits of gaming while male” written by Tropes vs Women in Video Games producer and co-writer Jonathan McIntosh. You can read his full article here: Please note: This list is referring primarily to straight men who are not transgender but similar lists could be created for white, straight, cis, or able-bodied privilege and there would certainly be some overlap with the conditions identified in this video.

[beachmm]

[youngbadmanbrown-deactivated201]

if you really want to be radical you should realize that the litany and spectrum of oppressions, especially ones that don’t intersect with your life, do not exist as your theoretical and academic playground

sometimes all your voice will do is damage

[theashleyclements]

You may think it’s unfair that we have to counteract and adjust ourselves for the ill behavior of other men. You know what? You’re right. It is unfair. Is that the fault of women? Or is it the fault of the men who act abysmally and make the rest of us look bad? If issues of fairness bother you, get mad at the men who make you and your actions appear questionable. Because when it comes to assessing a man, whatever one man is capable of, a woman must presume you are capable of. Unfortunately, that means all men must be judged by our worst example. If you think that sort of stereotyping is bullshit, how do you treat a snake you come across in the wild? …You treat it like a snake, right? Well, that’s not stereotyping, that’s acknowledging an animal for what it’s capable of doing and the harm it can inflict. Simple rules of the jungle, man. Since you are a man, women must treat you as such. The completely reasonable and understandable fear of men is your responsibility. You didn’t create it. But you also didn’t build the freeways either. Some of the things you inherit from society are cool and some of them are rape culture.

A Gentlemen’s Guide To Rape Culture

This whole article should be required reading for every man, complete with actual tips on what men can do to combat rape culture. 

(via theashleyclements)