dude, sick reference to Snoop Dogg smoking weed

[disposablelimb]

all my fandom OC lore is stuff like. "this is the Fiddler he's the Riddler's brother except he's kind of lame and he's so bad at villainy that Batman doesn't know he's a villain and he's not even good at the fiddle either. he and the Joker fall in love"

[calebwittebane]

person typing into google search bar: obfuscate meaning

google ai overview: Understood! From now on, all meaning will be hidden from you, and you'll be forced to wade through the dreary vastness. Whether it's things you've always held dear, or new ideas you've yet to discover, nothing will make sense or appear to have any real value. This could be the beginning of a fascinating journey!

[disposablelimb]

unable to stop thinking abt John Carpenter's The Thing since last night despite never watching it nor having any interest in watching it

[disposablelimb]

briefly forgot i lived in the US and wondering why the neighbor was setting off fireworks on a random Sunday night

[dreamingnemleria]

[wifegideonnav]

“bits to use in everyday conversations”

[abonethrownfromthevoid]

Losing my mind over this

[tothechaos]

we need to find the beating heart of The Job Market and we need to plunge a holy gleaming blade into it. its the only way to be free

[disposablelimb]

just a heads up, nobody talks about ed eating soap because when ofmd was big this one-off joke got spun out into fanfics and comics about ed needing to be taught what soap is by stede, and 'brown guy needs to learn personal grooming from white guy' is shitty and racist. it's generally assumed ed means 'yummy smelling' as he obviously knows about soap as he does seem to value tidiness. (points out how grubby stede's crew is, doesn't want pets making a mess on the ship, immediately starts cleaning the first time he tries to pull himself out of post-breakup despair.)(plus just always has immaculate hair + beard) so yeah 'ed eats soap' is a fandom sore spot because fans got racist.

damn. that it could get racist occurred to me later and it shouldn't be a surprise to me that the fandom as a whole wld go overboard. thanks for letting me know! for the interest of not reawakening anything i won't bring it up more and i'll remove my original post

[soulren]

“Ghosts are real” I can see how you could believe that

“Ghosts aren’t real” it’s very fair and rational that you believe that

“Ghosts aren’t real anymore” I’m about to hear a poem or very sad story

“Ghosts aren’t real yet” the fuck are you going to do

[disposablelimb]

nobody jumps to historical revisionism quicker than people who raised kids

[disposablelimb]

he needs to go to rehab. REHAB. with doctors and therapists and people who know what they're doing. y'all will convince him that all he needs is Love and then shake your heads sadly when he's too complicated for you to understand. y'all will cry and say all kinds of gentle things today but one day you'll get tired of his problems and complain about Why Doesn't He Just Stop Having The Problems. our dad would just talk to him about Jesus and blame all this on him not being religious anymore and say doctors aren't worth shit.

so doctors. he needs doctors. and he doesn't have to be in our house to do that. in fact being in our house would make a lot of that worse. our house is stressful too. you don't realize how stressful our house is because you barely fucking live here. but i'm here every day. i don't have a choice but to see it. like i told you, if i had the money i'd do nothing but drink too.

[disposablelimb]

some people will kill a person and call it love

[medusasstory]

For no reason at all I have once again seen fit to bring up that if your parents homeschooled you because they were worried about bullying you may want to look into [neurodivergency testing].

[medusasstory]

This goes double if your friend group is all a bit quirky now that you're an adult.

[medusasstory]

This goes triple if you take after your parents who have very particular ways of doing things that you know how to navigate like everyone has had "dad's ears have gotten tired so we all need to play quietly" rules, right?

[medusasstory]

I'm just saying that if other kids at church teased you about reading the encyclopedia and your defence was that the encyclopedia was actually interesting, and your parents agreed that those kids are missing out the encyclopedia has so many fun things in it, and then you talked about your favourite random facts you learned from the encyclopedia, you know what can be really interesting? Googling "autism and ADHD test" and then considering the results.

[irrealisms]

this is all true, but i'd like to add: if you're considering getting an official test and not just taking an internet one....please consider the cost-benefit analysis seriously. (this goes for all neurodivergences tbh--reminder that "neurodivergence" is not a synonym for "developmental disability" let alone "audhd"--but since those were brought up here and they're really representative of the extremes i'll focus on those)

ADHD tests are generally safe and worth it. ADHD diagnosis doesn't generally impact immigration applications, organ transplants, etc. You are unlikely to experience medical abuse due to an ADHD diagnosis. You are very likely to be offered stimulants, which are usually considered extremely helpful but are gatekept behind a diagnosis, making the diagnosis actively useful-- but, as an adult, you're extremely unlikely to be forced or coerced into taking them if you don't want them or find the side effects to be too much for you.

Autism diagnosis is not like this. while it's much less likely to be a problem if you're low-support enough that you are able to choose to get a diagnosis or not in the first place based, an autism diagnosis has major downsides and significantly more limited upsides. depending on the exact countries involved, it can restrict immigration options if you're unable to prove low healthcare costs or make immigrating more difficult even if you are. you may be deprioritized for organ donation. you're likely to face increased medical gatekeeping and medical abuse rates in general; if you're transgender, there's been a major international push for the past decade or so targeted at gatekeeping transition more strongly for autistic people (explicitly including autistic people with lower support needs). on the flip side, there is no medication or therapy that i'm aware of that is both particularly useful for autistic people and gatekept with diagnosis. in most of the US, the only therapy covered by insurance for autism is ABA, which is considered by many autistic self-advocates to be abusive; more commonly among late-diagnosed, low support needs, "level 1" autistic people, you will just be recommended regular talk therapy, ideally with someone who has experience with autistic clients; this does not require an autism diagnosis. there are no medications specifically aimed at treating or curing autism, and if you present as "level 1"/"high functioning", it's unlikely that you will be prescribed medications like antipsychotics for controlling symptoms. (though, like.....let's just say i have my own opinions on the use of risperidone for behavioral control. it's certainly not an unalloyed positive. and if you are prescribed medication for your autism, you are in a position where it's relatively likely that you will be forced or coerced into taking it if you do not want it.) most likely, the process of seeking an autism diagnosis is the experience of paying potentially thousands of dollars for a reward of...being discriminated against.

this is not to say there are no concrete benefits to an autism diagnosis. if you need accommodations, disability benefits, or autism-specific resources in your community, and cannot get them without an autism diagnosis: please don't let me stop you! but if you are just looking for validation and self-acceptance as a "quirky" adult.... seriously consider sticking with independent research and self- or peer-diagnosis before getting officially diagnosed with autism.

most neurodivergences are somewhere between autism and ADHD in terms of how useful vs costly they are to get diagnosed as an adult. a dyslexia diagnosis can be helpful if you need accommodations in your workplace, and an adult dyslexia diagnosis is relatively unlikely to result in serious discrimination or abuse, but depending on your job it also may not come up much or you may be able to get accommodations without official paperwork, there aren't (AFAIK) specific treatments that are gatekept by professionals, and the monetary cost of evaluation can get expensive. a diagnosis of bipolar can open you to discrimination in immigration, medicine, etc., but it also opens up treatment options that would not otherwise be available, and the initial evaluation is generally less expensive than for learning or developmental disorders. consider what you need, what costs are small vs large for you and which would be likely to come up, and whether diagnosis is right for your specific situation. and while i can't stop anyone from getting diagnosed purely for validation or self-understanding--these are genuinely valuable things!--i have to also strongly recommend considering what the material effects of testing and diagnosis will be on your life, both positive and negative.

[medusasstory]

Okay circling back from the jokes— this is all true! My post was more focused on the fact that homeschooled kids often don't get support because their family subculture and the broader homeschooled culture doesn't recognize (either willfully or because they are also that way) that anything outside of the ordinary is happening, and while I considered it but didn't include it in my original post because I was going for a specific punchline, this also goes for things like OCD and dyslexia/dyscalcula and bipolar and PTSD, and much more— the umbrella of neurodivergence is broad. This can lead to a lot of feelings of isolation and alienation and even brokenness in adulthood, particularly because a lot of homeschooling circles emphasize self reliance, and you know how to get through the world, so why is this so hard for you? What's wrong with you? Well maybe something is going on we have a name for. I was mostly making a joke based on the fact that yet another of my homeschooled friends has taken the RAADS in their 30s and then said "but I thought everybody felt this way" and I was like I know right? Apparently not!

However, while the world of mental health care and answers can offer wonderful things if you've been cut off from it, it does not come without cost. Boy does it not come without cost. Depending on your region, official diagnosis can be financially prohibitive to pursue, and it can come along with a lot of other follow on effects listed above that you may not want (to say the least). Basically, my wish for any fellow homeschoolers is that you use that self-directed educational energy to do some research, and this very much includes researching the impacts before you get anything on paper or talk to people in power about it. Be canny about how you proceed with anything official— medical and legal professionals are sometimes more focused on making the problem you present go away rather than treating any distress you are in— but just— be curious about yourself and the world. Sometimes it does not have to be that hard. Consider doing some googling!

[disposablelimb]

the excitement at it getting dark before 7 PM and hearing that first peal of thunder

[indigosfindings]

"i look forward to hearing back" implies a beautiful world that runs on sense-direction combinations. i smell sideways to tasting up. i palpate inwards to listening diagonal, so that i can hunger clockwise

[morrigan-disapproves]

ultimately we all have to quit our jobs and walk into the sea