i can safeword whenever i want. period.
if i’m in the middle of receiving a punishment and i have to pee, i am allowed to safeword.
if my positioning is uncomfortable and keeping me from enjoying our play, i am allowed to safeword.
if you are about to punish me and i think we need to talk a little more about the supposed severity of my missteps, i am allowed to safeword.
if you just started punishing me and i realized i am not in the mental state to receive it right now, i am allowed to safeword.
if i’m not sure how to articulate my reasoning, or there isn’t really a solid reason that i want our session to stop, i am still allowed to safeword there is literally no instance in which i am not allowed to use the safeword we have agreed upon for my comfort and safety.
i will not apologize. i will not be made to feel bad. this is why there is a safeword to begin with and if creeps like dreamiedaddy wanna tell you otherwise they should be avoided at all costs bc they are not safe for you they do not have your best interests in mind they are abusers who have no business taking part in power-exchange relationship dynamics. period.
A safe word is supposed to be your ultimate way to get out of any situation with your partner: whether you’re uncomfortable, experiencing bad pain, feeling scared, or any other of a thousand reasons that make you feel the need and desire to stop the scene.
If someone tells you that you don’t need a safe word, that your safe word will be ignored for a night, or that you can only use your safe word in certain situations, you need to avoid that person at all costs.
If someone you’ve played with or your long-term partner has ignored your safe word at any point, you need to seriously reconsider your relationship with said person, because they cannot and should not be trusted.
You’re always allowed to use your safe word. You should never be made to feel guilty for using it. Proper use of safe words demonstrate trust, love, respect, and safety. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise!
Remember
If you ignore a safeword and continue with play, then you are committing sexual assault / rape
Definitely worth a reblog.
My advise to all subs the moment your Dom/me ignores you for using safeword, time ot pack your bags and run away. A genuine Dominant person male or female will drop any play anything the moment you first utter safe word and hold you in her/his arms.
Remember, BDSM play act is for fun of both parties. Use safe word when you deem it necessary.
Subs- you are not less than equal. Never forget that. Anyone who says you otherwise is not a genuine Dom/me.
All of this👆👆👆
Truth.
And if you want to play at having your safeword ignored, have two. One that’s allowed to be ‘ignored’ as part of the scene/play, and one that is absolute. We also like green, yellow, red. Green is fine, yellow is getting close to it being too much/that’s my limit and no harder, and red for stop.
Am important reblog for everyone
This is why I employ a stoplight system with Safe words. A “yellow light” word for when things are uncomfortable or approaching wrong. Perfect for needing to pee, shift weight, etc. The “red light” word is an immediate stoppage of a scene and full equity return within the dynamic.
