PELOS ARES

And know that I am with you always; yes, to the end of time. Matthew 28:20

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[missmentelle]

What the Hell is “Gaslighting”?

In 1938, a stage play called “Gas Light” debuted for the first time. The play is about a husband who gradually convinces his wife she’s insane by acting strangely and secretly manipulating objects in the house - like dimming the gas lights in the attic - and refusing to acknowledge that they’ve changed. Today, the term “gaslighting” is used to describe any behaviour designed to make another person question their sanity.  Gaslighting is abusive behaviour. Any person who tries to make you doubt your own sanity does not have your best interests at heart. Gaslighting is a tool to keep you in an abusive relationship, and prevent you from reaching out for help. 

In its weakest form, gaslighting means convincing you that you are misremembering or exaggerating something that happened. “I never said it like that, you’re exaggerating!” or “You’re making it sound worse than it was!” are common examples of gaslighting. At the end of the conversation, you might even find yourself apologizing to the other person, even though you were pretty sure that they were in the wrong. This sort of thing can happen in a normal relationship, especially if one or both parties aren’t very self-aware, but it’s a concern if it happens all the time… especially if only one person seems to have a faulty memory. Gaslighting can also mean convincing you that events didn’t happen at all. Your abuser can absolve themselves of responsibility, and keep you in check, by convincing you that abuse never took place. “We never had a fight at my brother’s wedding… are you feeling okay?” or “I’ve never thrown anything at you in my life! Do you have a fever or something?” are more serious examples of gaslighting, and they are absolutely not okay. If someone is trying to convince you that a fight or episode of abuse never happened, that’s a huge red flag that cannot be ignored.  At its very worst, abusers may go out of their way to stage strange events in order to confuse their victims. An abuser trying to keep a victim in check, or socially isolate a victim, may go out of their way to act strangely in order to make their victim doubt their own mind. Abusers may steal things from you, disappear for days on end and claim that they told you where they were going (or deny being gone), or mislabel your reactions as they’re happening (eg. pretending that you are irrationally angry when you are actually calm). These are also huge red flags, and cannot be ignored.  Gaslighting is not unique to abusive romantic relationships: it is also common in toxic parent/child relationships, sibling relationships, friendships or school bullying. Anyone who mistreats you can gaslight you.  The best defense against gaslighting is self-confidence, and careful recording. Trust in your own mind. You know when you’ve been abused. You know your own reactions. And write things down - keeping a careful record of abusive incidents and what was said or done gives you a record to consult when someone else gets in your head.  Gaslighting can make it especially difficult to recognize and leave a bad relationship, and no one deserves to go through it. Know the signs. Protect yourself. You deserve better. 

[did-you-know]

Fictional characters might not be real, but our relationships with them are. 

Studies show it’s difficult for our brains to distinguish between our familiarity with characters on TV and our personal relationships with real people. The effect is so strong that just thinking about watching your favorite TV show can make you feel less lonely. 

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[univversos]

@cs.poesia no instagram

[inverbos]

“Tô meio ausente de mim.”

— Antonio. 

[poeta-missionario]

“É uma honra, ser chamado de louco, por viver em santidade nos dias de hoje”

— Camilo Pereira

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[versos-de-deus-deactivated20180]

“Espero que você esteja dando mais valor as coisas do céu do que as da terra, que seu coração esteja lá, e não aqui.”

— Vanessa Maia 

[andressapecora]

As pregações de hoje, com sua falha interpretação das verdades bíblicas, nos levam a confundir agitação com unção e comoção com avivamento.

Leonard Ravenhill. (via genesis4-7)

[favorimerecido]

E se, de repente, todas as pessoas que você admira e te influenciam digitalmente sumissem das redes para sempre: Você saberia quem é? Conseguiria sustentar essa versão de si mesmo? Você tem seguido aquilo que as pessoas que você admira dizem ou aquilo que o seu Pai diz?

 Roberta Vicente (via favorimerecido)

[cidadesobreomonte]

A Igreja costumava ser um barco resgatando os que perecem. Agora, ela é um cruzeiro recrutando pessoas promissoras.

Leonard Ravenhill (via cidadesobreomonte)

[oldleoschux]

Se Jesus tivesse pregado a mesma mensagem que os ministros de hoje pregam, Ele nunca teria sido crucificado.

Leonard Ravenhill (via amentecrista)

[precious-jesus]

Se gastássemos tanto tempo ensinando as pessoas a orarem quanto as ensinamos a cantar em coral, colocaríamos fogo no mundo.

Leonard Ravenhill (via precious-jesus)

[andressapecora]

Só há um caminho para o céu. Existem milhões de caminhos para o inferno! O que você tem que fazer para ir para o inferno? Nada! Apenas não faça nada, só isso! […] Você não tem que ser adúltero. Apenas cruze os braços. Pois o maior pecado do mundo não é o adultério. O maior pecado do mundo é: “eu posso ajeitar minha vida sem Deus”. Este é o maior erro.

Leonard Ravenhill. (via genesis4-7)

[mara-vilhosagraca]

“Os homens constroem nossos templos, mas não entram neles; imprimem bíblias mas não as leem ; falam de Deus, mas não creem nEle; conversam a respeito de Cristo, mas não confiam nele para sua salvação; cantam nossos hinos, mas depois esquecem. Onde vamos parar com tudo isso?”

— Leonard Ravenhill (via mara-vilhosagraca)

[carrosselgirando]

Como você pode derrubar as fortalezas de Satanás, se você não tem nem a força para desligar a TV?

(via deusrestaurando)

[ocalvinista-deactivated20250331]

Cinco minutos dentro da eternidade e eu creio que cada um de nós desejaríamos ter: sacrificado mais, orado mais, amado mais, suado mais, agoniado mais, chorado mais!

Leonard Ravenhill (via ocalvinista)