Ok new rule: if you've got a disability/chronic pain you're not allowed to call yourself lazy for not doing something. Like being in pain at all times isn't even comparable to a full-time job, a full time job is 40 hours a week. Being in pain 24/7 is 168 hours a week. Do you know anyone else who does anything other than breathe 168 hours per week? Not to mention being expected to do anything else on top of that?
I feel fine 24/7 and I don't do jack shit, I fuck around not getting anything done for fun. Recreational professional time waster. Fluttering fuck-all for fun. If I just got shot in the leg two minutes ago I would not be doing SHIT until the bullet is dug out and that shit was sutured up. And you've got a goddamn just-got-shot level of pain at all times 168 hours a week every week and you're saying you're too lazy to be doing something? Bitch you just got shot forever. You're not lazy for not being able to do shit when you're in pain. Nobody else would be doing shit while in pain either.
This.
And it’s not just tasks or work, let’s not forget about socialising.
Sometimes it takes a lot of effort to talk to those you love and care for, even if it’s just a single text. Sometimes you stare at the screen and the words don’t work or come out.
And then you say you’re a bad friend, bad sibling, bad whatever- ExCUSE me?? You’re in pain there dude- you might not have gotten a full nights sleep because the pain kept you up. You have NO responsibility to be coherent. Maybe send a sorry or an explanation when it’s gotten better again but don’t keep around people who try and guilt you for feeling unable to do jack.
It’s called a DISABILITY for a reason. It DISABLES you.
It’s called CHRONIC PAIN because it’s ONGOING and PAINFUL.
You don’t just have to grit down and deal with it, you’re allowed to feel shitty.