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Queening and it's historical perspective

I just had to re-blog this article about Queening (Facesitting/Faceriding). It was written over 4 years ago by MsWicked.

Queening is, in the sado-masochistic pantheon of arts, the use of the male face, mouth, and nose and tongue, as a substitute for sexual intercourse and masturbation, by the dominant woman. It places the man in the most slavish, subservient position, under the woman’s buttocks and crotch. She sits on his face, or has his head trapped between her thighs. The whole event is devoted to her pleasure, her orgasms, and her time schedule. The man’s pleasure or pain, satisfaction or frustration, desires or fears are of little importance, if any. The woman’s clitoris, vulva, labia and vagina demand service. This thrilling, delicious sexual practice has an ancient and traditional history. Ladies of medieval households often had pages provide them with mouth, lip and tongue service under their skirts while their husband were absent, thus remaining, technically faithful. Many a young boy had his first lessons in. sex with his head under Madame’s backside, with her quim vigorously riding his face. Many young girls still virgins, enjoyed orgasms on a male servant’s mouths as the earliest sexual experiences. In ancient Chinese courts one long tongued, trained male slave was used by female royalty and court ladies as casually as if they were going to the lavatory. The slave would be summoned, face-fucked then dismissed casually and serenely. In old Japan, brothels would provide male victims for such use by visiting, paying women and girls. Mouth and tongue sexual service to the female genitals is ‘cunnilingus’ or ‘cunnilinctus’ literally cunt licking/ sucking. Queening properly places the woman on top of the male face, using it ruthlessly and selfishly. The lady commands, the man obeys. Having the male slave erect, frustrated and unsatisfied adds to the sadistic pleasures enjoyed by the woman. In ancient Persia, cleverly constructed chairs were known as man face stools with the male face replacing the seat centre. Ladies could lift their skirts, sit down, cover the scenario with those skirts, and with gentle rhythmic, firm hip and buttock movements enjoy private little orgasms even when others were present. Old Indian pornographic graffiti depicts scenes like that, with gowned girls, obviously in ecstasy, riding a male face while gazing at an enormous male erection. In more recent, Western times governesses and nannies have been recorded as teaching their young male charges just how to please their crotches with their tongues. Many a frightened, cowed Georgian or Victorian boy knew intimately the underside of Madame’s skirts and felt the vice-like grip of her gartered thighs round his head. Masquerading as a punishment and usually followed or preceded by a whipping, the queening would take place in conditions of discipline and severity. The curt command, the superior, unsmiling demand would be followed by a rustling lifting of black, voluminous skirts, the stripping off of Madame’s panties and the heavy, fleshy hot damp descent of her buttocks and crotch onto the boy’s face. Heaven help him if Madame did not orgasm satisfactorily. A savage whipping would follow. Even down in the servant’s quarters, the youngest male servant would find his head trapped under housemaids’ skirts. Cruelty seems to have been part and parcel of queening procedures in olden times. ‘Queening’ by definition, requires a dominant, demanding woman and a subservient, obedient man. The woman must be concerned only with her personal pleasure and satisfaction. His mouth, lips, tongue and nose are merely live tools there to pleasure her labia, clitoris, vulva and vaginal passage. He must be trained, if necessary by painful punishment, in the proper use of his facial features. She must gain the maximum delight and orgasmic satisfaction without concerning herself with her victim’s possible distress, humiliation and discomfort. He is nothing more than a sexual toy or playing, as of no more importance than her lavatory pan, her sanitary towels, her dildo, her handkerchief, her lavatory paper, her condoms or contraception pills, or her vaginal douche - all quite necessary to her private sexual and private well being, but all useable and disposable. The choice of type of slave is up to her. She may wish to have a wimpish male twit under her backside and quim. She may find more delight in subduing a macho strong male. She may have a cuckolded husband to humiliate, taunt and sit on. She may have developed her talents as a schoolgirl, together with her girlfriends, taking the school wimp into the girls’ lavatory and taking turns in squatting on his face. She may have gained experience by dominating a younger brother, riding his face selfishly while their parents were asleep or away from home. Some women like to have a mouth-dildo attached to their slave’s head, sticking up from his open mouth as a rideable accessory. This provides pleasant, full, vaginal passage orgasms, but prevents sucking and licking by the male victim. Other women blindfold their prone slaves, thus deleting any possible visual pleasure they might obtain. A few cruel ladies inevitably urinate on to his face after having orgasmed. Others enjoy demanding mouth service right after enjoying satisfactory adultery with a lover, thus making the victim more humiliated. Most talented queening ladies humiliate, taunt, torment, degrade and tease their victims before and after this enforced cunnilingus. It is essential that the male slave is more than intimate with those parts of a woman’s body which require servicing by his tongue, lips and nose. Kneeling astride his face, with his eyes very close to her cunt, is a pleasant torment. He is able to see and fear each part of her sexual equipment, staring right up into her vaginal passage and memorising her clitoris, labia and vulva. Using her fingers to stretch her labia she is able to insist that he looks and learns. He must also examine her anus ;with respect, in case she decides to have his nose inserted into it. She must teach him the way to kiss, lick and suck her sexually, with particular attention to her clitoris. He must suck and swallow her sex juices. To add a special thrill to her pleasure, she must make him afraid of her. He must be in awe of her. He must adore her. He must give her respect, and recognise her superiority. He must worship her genitals. They are his goddess, his fate, his destiny. His life is less important than a single orgasm enjoyed by her. Riding the male face requires careful, skilful experience, as much as is required in learning to ride a horse. The hip and buttocks movements are the key to success. The careful placing of the cunt on the mouth or nose is, of course, essential, and might require some wriggling adjustment until the male’s service parts are properly positioned. It may be that the lady wishes to have his nose against her anal rose while his mouth serves her quim. She will, of course, be as rough and savage as she wishes at the moment she comes. At that moment she must not care in the least if he suffocates, or chokes. After satisfaction she can relax, still sitting on his face and enjoy a cigarette or a glass of wine. When she dismounts she will casually ignore the fool, dismissing him abruptly, sending him off to continue his housework, followed by taunts and insults. Perhaps she will lend him to the girlfriends! The complete, perfect, mature woman always has two men in her life, one to fuck her normally the other to be queened by her, as her slave.

flrdomme2

Interesting…

virtualslimepainterwombat

yes I agree and its still highly pleasurable for both parties enjoying all those special pleasures, esp for Her just as it should be - delicious thoughts - Ed x

depsidase

sissy-female-chloe

PART 2

You laugh and say "Just Kidding!" and in one hard thrust shove the dildo balls deep in my pussy and hold it there! I make a loud gasp and my pain excites you. You pull back a few inches, and as my body begins to relax you ram the dildo balls deep again! I gasp, louder this time and beg you please! Please stop, we can do this at home! You begin thrusting continuously, hard and deep with every thrust my moans, and whimpers are music to your ears. Like a light switch in my brain I revert to my true Sissy self! As your thrust continue I moan "Thank you Domina" and you say "Good girl" and continue fucking my tight pussy. As you pick up the pace I feel myself edging and I tell you I'm about to squirt. You tell me NO! That isn't allowed today, and will not be allowed for another month! As each thrust fills me up, establishing your true dominance and superiority I once again feel myself on the edge and I can barely hold it back! It's too much, my legs tremble as I do my best to hold it back but it's no use. I tell you I can't stop it, I'm gonna squirt! You reach around putting your hand right beneath my caged cock and then thrust your strap-on as deep as you possibly can and I squirt into your hand. With a handful of my cum you get a great idea, walking back to your purse you pull out another dildo, this one is bigger, nearly 12 inches! I've never actually taken one this big, you're going to stretch my sissy pussy today! Swapping the dildos out on your harness you take the handful of cum and rub it all over the 12 inch monster! I turn around realizing what your plan is! You're going to fuck me with the largest dildo I've ever taken, and you're going to use my own cum as the lube!

Part 3 Coming soon!

flr-female-led-relationship-dea

beautifulsecrets42

Learning to tease...

Many times teasing your partner can become difficult. The problem is coming up with imaginative ways to tease him so that things don’t become “stale” or “routine”. Well, I have good news. There is a website that is jam-packed with teases that you can use “as-is” or modify for your own special needs.

Milovana is a website dedicated to web teasing. They have literally hundreds of webteases. Most are designed for men, though there are a few for women. However, all the teases are designed for solo use. That means that the reader is supposed to masturbate as directed in the tease. Some of the teases involve pain of kind or another, and many require you to have certain “toys” during the tease. Almost all of them are excellent example of tease and denial.

So how does this help you? I would suggest that you read several of the tease and denial teases and see how you could adapt them to your own situation. In other words, how you can use them with your partner. Perhaps you want to become the person guiding the tease and order your partner to do the things the tease call for. Or… You can become a part of the tease by doing the things listed in the tease to your partner instead of making him do them to himself. Your participation would greatly increase the pleasure you both obtain from the tease.

If you are really into tease and denial, you should be able to find many of the webteases useful. For example, you want your partner to remain in chastity (orgasm free) for a month. Try this: once a week, remove his chastity device and perform one of the teases from Milovana to tease and deny him an orgasm. By the end of the month, he will be more than willing to do whatever you want in order to get that orgasm. It won’t be long before you are coming up with tease and denial scenes of your own.

So give Milovana a try and see what ideas you can come up with. You might even break a webtease up into several parts and have him perform a portion of it each day (or night, as the case may be). Anyway, it will be entertaining and there is a great deal of potential for some real excitement…

Thanks to MistressIvey

ladylocksluv

Intimacy Through Male Chastity

One of my main goals when I took charge of the relationship was to find ways to increase the intimacy between my husband and I, and surprisingly, one of the largest contributors has been male chastity. When men think of intimacy, they naturally think of sex. For most guys, it's the same thing.

We've all been there, right ladies? When you're not in the mood for sex but you know he wants it. A cuddle, a few kisses and some loving touches would be nice, but you don't go there because it will encourage him to pester you for sex and at that moment you just want to be held.

So you keep him at arms length, and you both lose out on intimacy just so you can avoid having unwanted sex. You end up feeling a bit guilty for holding him off and he feels rejected. It just sucks for both of you.

Enter male chastity. Why lock up his cock? Well, while he's wearing it, it removes the pressure on you to have sex when you not in the mood for it yourself. By keeping him on a fairly rigid release schedule, he knows it isn't going to happen for him that day.

One of the amazing things about male chastity is it teaches him that while sex and intimacy can be intricately linked, they aren't necessarily the same thing. He learns that, most of the time, he doesn't need to put his penis into you to feel loved and wanted.

While he can't have penetrative sex, he will still crave other types of intimacy, and he learns that most of the time, cuddling, kissing, and touching can be enough for him to feel desired and validated, even though he remains horny.

For me persomally, once the pressure to have sex is removed, I find myself being intimate with him more often than ever before, as the reason to hold him off is eliminated. Funny thing is, random loving kisses and caresses will often put me in playful mood, while knowing things won't escalate any further than I want them to at the time.

Feeling his lust for me, tends to fuel my own desire, and I find myself teasing him to distraction while he is so helplessly locked up. Even though he is still locked in chastity and will remain so, he can't help but want to touch and caress me back, and I begin to welcome his advances.. In his lust fueled state, sexual attention in any form is better than none at all, and he concentrates on my pleasure, giving me a wonderful orgasm that I didn't think I even wanted initially.

Maybe that's why a lot of males who are locked in chastity in their relationships get addicted to it, never wanting to give it up. Even though they get less sexual relief, they get more of what they really need, intimacy, leaving them feeling more loved and content overall.

beautifulsecrets42

From Vanilla to Chastity...

If you are interested in male chastity, then there’s probably already something going on in the relationship where male chastity would be a natural enhancement. To push him further towards the chastity lifestyle you could follow a programme like this :

He wears the device for most of an erotic session. In return, you wear stockings.

He wears the device for all of an erotic session but gets to jerk off at the end. In return, you wear stockings and he gets to use sex toys on you.

He wears the device for all of an erotic session and overnight. In return, you wear stockings and let him watch you masturbate.

He wears the device all week, for the entire erotic session and overnight. In return, you wear stockings and perform any sexual act on yourself that he asks you to.

He wears the device all week, for the entire erotic session and overnight. However, the rules now change. He has to earn erotic activity with additional days of lock up, for example, one day per orgasm you have.

The main thing is to offer him wild erotic experiences, but at the price of wearing the chastity device. After a while, there’s a chance he will think this is a fair trade…

Thanks to faontk

underherspell888

themodernmarriage

Low Key(holding)

Levels of Orgasm Control and Chastity - A Guide for 'Vanilla' Keyholders

There are many different kinds of orgasm control. The chastity/denial/control dynamic exists on a spectrum and - as you will see from the countless resources online - there is no one 'right answer'. I've had a large number of DMs requesting variations of the blog posts that I have put out there so far - many of which ask for a 'watered down' version that they can take to their significant other as a way to start the chastity / orgasm control conversation. The most interesting questions are from more typically 'vanilla' wives and girlfriends who have clearly been sent my blog by their husbands / boyfriends and are at a loss to find ways to make this dynamic work. So this article will be a very basic guide to a 'gentle' start in this space to see if you and your partner can make it work.

Starting Out

In most cases in this dynamic, the man has initiated this conversation. First off - well done to him for plucking up the courage to tell you about his desires and fantasies. He's probably been thinking about it for ages and it's healthy to have this openness and vulnerability in a relationship.

Secondly, the most important thing to remember, is that he is proposing that you take the reins in terms of your sexual play. This is crucial, because if you truly take the reins, it means that you don't have to do exactly what he is proposing. You can, and should, put your own spin on things.

Teasing, denial and chastity are all essentially about orgasm control. This means that you man is saying to you that he would like you to take charge of when and how he orgasms. It's as simple as that. If you choose to participate and make this part of your play, this should be the starting point of all of your decisions. So, I'll say it again: "This is about you taking charge of when and how he orgasms."

Again, Why Does He Want This?

I am not going to spend much time on this question, as there are other posts and many resources about this online. However, the cliff notes:

"Not orgasming" for a long period has a profound, often positive, impact over a male's hormones and headspace.

Giving you control may be a turn on for him.

It spices things up in long term relationships.

Some men use it to break habits like masturbation / porn.

It helps a lot of men focus more, exercise more and sleep better.

It's sexy and fun to have you in control.

etc.

There are many benefits for you as the female, but again, these have been outlined ad nauseam. More cliff notes:

No pressure on you for sex

However, you get sex when and how you want it.

Cages look sexy

You set the rules

You can often 'redirect' the male's sexual energy into other things like service, massages, exercising and more.

etc

The Spectrum of Orgasm Control

Here is an opinionated view on the 'levels' of orgasm control you can choose from (or blend) if you and your man decide to give this thing a spin.

All orgasm control dynamics operate under the premise that your man is simply not allowed to orgasm without your permission. Should it be during sex, play or even him masturbating, he must wait for your express permission before he goes over the edge.

Chastity cages often play a role in this spectrum because they serve as a constant reminder and/or partial barrier that the male's choice to orgasm is no longer his own.

1. Not Locked

Here, the male does not wear a chastity cage and is free to touch, pleasure and edge himself at will. He is simply not allowed to come.

This is the simplest form of orgasm control for you as there's no cage component, but, interestingly, it's extremely difficult for him, as it relies purely on his evolution-proven, questionable sexual self control. It requires Buddha-level quantities of zen for most males to not sneak an orgasm while unlocked after 2-3 weeks of denial.

In my view, a major benefit of using chastity in this dynamic is that it is impossible for him to get hard while locked. This reality really keeps his erotic urges in check.

2. Self-locked

Here, you say to your man that you encourage, or are happy, for him to wear a chastity cage during his denial periods, but the locking and management thereof is purely up to him. There is no need to communicate about the lock ups, and the male is using this on his own accord to help control his desires.

This is a good place to start for couples beginning their chastity play which you both get the hang of things, and is also often a landing spot for those looking only for the lowest admin play.

3. Sometimes Locked

Here, you as the female will be more active in the lock up process - primarily by instructing your male to lock up for a specific period of time. You will decide the parameters for when it will be locked on, and when it will be removed, and the male is not allowed to unlock without your permission. In most cases here, you will actually physically keep the key, aka become the 'keyholder'.

This is probably the most 'standard' version of chastity that is practiced by couples, as it is more collaborative in nature. The male may be locked for portions of each month, 'every now and then', for trips, for events like 'Locktober' or 'No Nut November' or for randomly timed durations decided upon by the keyholder.

This is most 'active' version of keyholding as you will be steering the decision-making here. It's also potentially the most fun as there is an uncertainty and anticipation on the part of the male which is hugely exciting for them.

4. Default Locked

In this situation, the expectation is that the male is locked unless there is a clear exception in the form of agreed instances where he can be unlocked - like doctor's appointments, cleaning, certain sports, or airport security. Or, of course, if you want him to be unlocked for sexual reasons. There no need to define a lockup period, because there is no a 'period', per se. He's locked and can only unlock for pre-defined reasons or emergencies.

This is a more intense version of chastity for the male, but is significantly easier for you as the keyholder, as you don't need to set or manage lock up or release periods.

When Default mode is on, you will allow your man to unlock for his doctor's appointment, and then he will relock when it's over. You may unlock him for sex, but as soon as it's over, he will refit the cage immediately. No need for discussions or negotiations, and no questions asked.

Locking Pragmatics

Some keyholders are fans of dealing with the cage all that much, and enforce their keyholding by telling their man to lock themselves and present them the key.

Some keyholders really enjoy this little ritual, and like doing the cage fitting themselves.

Some keyholders want to avoid having their man touch or even see their unlocked penis at all, so will have their men bound and blindfolded at all times when the cage is unlocked.

Again, this is a spectrum. Pick and choose.

I'm Super 'Vanilla' - Where Should I Start?

Short answer - wherever you like.

But my recommendation? I would start in the 'Sometimes Locked' space. Let your man do the locking up part. Try it for a couple of weeks per month - maybe something like the first two weeks of the month are 'locked' weeks. Get a sense of how things go, what you like and what you don't like.

If your man tries to talk you out of your suggested lock up period, or tries to 'top from the bottom', then remind him that you will do this by your rules or not at all. Trust is everything here, and remember that it's ultimately about having a good time.

Expand your Knowledge

Read some other articles or blogs about some of the ins, outs and practicalities.

Communicate, tease, be selfish, have fun!

themodernmarriage

Cycling

In our experience, which is building up to be quite significant now, there are definitely 'phases' of chastity and orgasm control.

The 'new' phase is where chastity is first introduced and - as with all sexual relationships - is filled with curiousity, nerves, over-enthusiasm and exploration.

We're in a phase of what I would call the "new normal". My husband has learned about how orgasm control and chastity affects his body and mind. I have started to learn how this level of control affects our relationship, and how to use these tools to maximise the pleasure of the experience for both me and him.

Our playbook, so to speak, is starting to emerge.

DEFAULT LOCKED

He is expected to be locked, unless I am explicitly aware of it.

There is no 'time frame’ or schedule.

Unlocking does not mean 'orgasm’.

During play, he must ask permission to orgasm. I can say no.

He is not allowed to talk about it, unless I ask him or in case of emergency.

CYCLES

Our cadence seems to work best in 'cycles'. Lockups that are too long seem to cause a 'plateau' in him, where the benefits of orgasm control start to dwindle... even deteriorate. This seems to be in the three-week mark post release. So:

Unless I feel like unlocking him for play, the first 3 weeks of each month are 'locked' weeks.

We still have a lot of sexual fun during this time, just not with his locked nub.

At the end of the cycle, or as I see fit, I allow him to unlock and/or orgasm. Typically it's very easy to make him come the first time after an unlock, so we keep 'sex' for the second session we have. We've seen that we are like bunnies for this release period.

At any given time, I will tell him to relock, and the cycle starts again.

PRACTICALITIES

When he is locked, he places the key on my dresser. I don't have to hide it as I trust he won't cheat, because that's the gig.

I expect him to take care of 'maintenance' - cleaning, shaving - in the shower every few days. It's not 'play time' for him.

For legitimate reasons, he can message me in advance should he wish to request an unlock.

We keep intimacy levels high. When we're snuggling etc, I deliberately pay some attention to his locked nub, balls etc. Just a little attention goes a long way. I'll often say things like "Not long to go" or "I love that you're so excited for me". You'd be surprised how much this works.

That's a pretty good summation of our 'normal'. Would be interesting to hear how things work for you all?

themodernmarriage

Locked Perspective

Many of the questions I get from females (or at least, followers saying they are female) relate to the strangely obvious question of 'why'? Interestingly, the 'why' for the keyholder seems to be quite well understood - there are many well-documented benefits. The lesser obvious question is 'why would my husband / boyfriend' want to do this?'.

Locktober seems to be a time where my inbox is busier than ever - many with this burning question.

So, for the first time in this little blog / braindump's history, I have asked my partner to write the article. Over to him:

Why

Hello.

I have been asked to answer the question: "Why does a male want to be locked in a chastity cage?". It's a very good question, and the reasons are complex. My answers are only my own, so individual results may vary. I'll give you my main reasons, and then end with a little FAQ section that female readers have asked my wife through the course of this blog.

1. Energy

It must be very hard (impossible) for females to understand the workings of the male libido. Generally speaking, we are more sexually charged, more frequently. Typically, there is an immediate outlet for being 'horny' / turned on - masturbation. We have been used to using this outlet on demand our entire adult lives. The cage removes this, and the result is a dramatic escalation in the sexual energy which drives our libido. This energy is intense, and in the absence of an orgasm, it needs to find another outlet. This can be physical exertion, productivity focus and/or courtship.

2. Courtship

This one is a big one. Many blogs / forums speak about how chastity makes them a better partner because they do more chores, are nicer to their wives etc. I think this is trash - we should not need a chastity cage in order to do these things. However, one of the 'focus' benefits of chastity for me is definitely focus on my wife. The sexual energy is directed towards her, fundamentally understanding that what I am doing is not for the reason that I may be unlocked for orgasm. I am not going to orgasm. I am just very turned on by her constantly and want to show her with my actions, physical touch and devotion. This is what they mean, I think, when men say that chastity makes them better husbands / boyfriends - it reignites the courtship that was so electric at the start of the relationship.

3. It's Hard

It's a strange contradiction, but chastity is awesome because it's hard. It's really difficult for a man to be locked in a chastity cage. There are countless times during a lockup period where he is dying to unlock and knock one out. Even the most comfortable cages will irritate a little every now and then. This is why chastity should be seen as an act of devotion towards the female. She may not see it that way, but this is what it is, for me at least.

4. A Little Goes a Long Way

Back to point 1, females are not always as horny / sex-oriented as men, which is why there's often an imbalance in long-term relationships between how frequently the man and woman want to have sex, for example. When I am locked, however, the smallest of actions from my wife will drive me crazy (in a good way). Stroke my stomach? Run your finger down my cage? Touch my balls? Slap them? Mention my cage at all? Ask me to go down on you? Pinch my nipples? YES. YES YES. I am a putty in your hands.

5. Focus

Some locked guys will disagree with this, as the horniness makes them go crazy and they can't focus on anything. However, lockup periods in our relationship come with a clear rule - no porn during lockups. She calls porn 'mental edging'. Not allowed. Why is this a big deal? Because masturbation is off the table, and porn (and all the time wasting that brings), I am encouraged to find other outlets. I spoke about physical activity (gym, endurance etc), but also a huge benefit is work focus, productivity. Chastity with no allowance for porn will free up a LOT of time for most highly energised locked guys.

6. Fun

It's fun. I really like it. It's new, it puts a spin on things and has forced us to talk more, think outside the box, experiment, laugh. It's not the only catalyst for the growth in our relationship in the last few years, but it was certainly the biggest and most profound one.

Now, for some FAQs:

a. Doesn't it hurt?

No. If it hurts, the cage is wrong / wrongly sized. The correct cage is comfortable, and most of the time the guy will not even think about it. When he gets aroused, there is a feeling of pressure - almost as if someone is holding his penis tightly. In many cases, it feels like a full erection, and then when you reach for it, it's neatly contained and pointing down, as if nothing is happening. Real mind-melt.

b. What happens during an erection?

Well, with the right cage, there is no erection. A correctly-sized cage should the about half an inch smaller than your usual non-erect size. This means that there is no room to grow. The penis will feel like it's 'swelling' in its cage and pushing against the front. Because it can't get fully hard, it shouldn't push the base ring too far way from the body either. As above, the feeling is like a firm hand is gripping it tightly. Not painful, quite pleasant and deliciously frustrating.

c. Isn't frustration the worst?

Common misconception. This is not cruel / selfish etc on the part of the woman. This is what we want. The 'frustration' from denial and from the cage is more like a desire, rather than something negative. It flood us with energy, often at 'goosebumps' level, and I immediately think of the source of this desire - my wife.

d. I feel bad for denying my partner. Isn't it cruel?

There is a saying that chastity is only real once you want 'out'. This is true to some extent. It's more, for me, that it is real when my partner has full control. If I authentically need to get out, my wife will let me. However, in most cases, I am just horny or have a moment of weakness, in which case I really need her to say 'no'. This makes it real. We want you to say 'no', to show us that you are supporting us in this act of devotion. If you give in any time we beg, it wasn't really a thing in the first place.

That's it! Longwinded, but those are my thoughts!

eroticshortstories4women

Break Him Carefully

Halfway there! A month and a half ago, my amazing 36 year old sexy husband agreed to three months of - routine and habitual - tease and denial, without sexual release (Orgasm)… Since then, almost every night, 7 nights a week (and sometimes in the morning, too!), we cuddle, snuggle and leisurely fondle each other - he makes me cum - by going down on me as much as I want - Then as I recover, I’ll continue to slowly and meticulously “edge” him, over and over again, to my sadistic heart’s content.. Sometimes however we’re quick – half an hour of play and off to sleep… Sometimes we linger – time flies when you’re having fun. {Grin} - But the key is that we make time to do it every night, with only a few (very few!) missed nights. I’ve never slept better in my life…

After 5 years of carefully easing my doting stud muffin into the mindset of a female led marriage, I find that we BOTH sleep best NOW…, if I HOLD his healthy virile erection in my gentle hand, as we lovingly fall asleep together (hugging)… His Pulsing, Fully Erect Manhood has become - a sort of - security blanket for me… As I fall asleep and wake up each morning Now - With his strong (rock hard) erection in my hand… Security COCK …

Yup, I Adore My Precious Healthy Man… He’s trusting his most intimate, primal, involuntary sexual reflex - To My Personal Care and “Governance” – knowing, full well, that I intended to break him… I promised to ultimately reduce him to a sweaty, leaky, quivering, begging “mess of a man”… I warned him that I planned to make it difficult – that I was going to truly challenge him over the weeks, just to see how much he could handle – to prove, once and for all, that his powerful virile healthy muscular (athletic body) could physically endure so much more for me - than his mind ever imagined…

When we started eight weeks ago, I had an honest, open conversation with him about what was about to happen – what I was about to do to him psychologically, subliminally and sexually… (though I had him high on pot at the time) Am I Bad? Anyways, We discussed sexual limits and set a safe word… Agreeing that if it ever stopped being fun, for either of us, we would stop… During that intimate open conversation, he admitted his doubt about two things:

First, he doubted I would make it this far. He doubted my will and commitment to Routinely Denying Him. His words, “There will be a night when things get so hot, when my throbbing joystick just feels So Good, you won’t be able to resist making me explode - Inside Of You… I know You My Love… You won’t make it three months having deep passionate intercourse with me - and not wanting to feel me “Erupt” inside of you - But it’ll be fun to try.” My reply, “Challenge accepted!” And so far, So Good. Sooo Fucking GOOD! Our New Slow and Unhurried Sexual Intercourse - Has wonderful side effects - Preventing “Accidents” … To my husband’s total amazement and slight alarm, I haven’t even Ruined Him… YET… And My Helpless, Sublime Orgasms - When He’s Incarcerated - Motionless - Balls Deep - Have Become So Much More Fulfilling for Me Now… It’s True about Female Led Relationships - Intercourse is Now Becoming - ALL About Me Now and My Pleasure, Not Him or His Larger Healthier Cock…

Anyways, I almost lost myself here - The Second, he doubted Was - That I could truly Break Him… Break his mind, that is - Not his World-Class (Sublime) 9 Inches Of Pure Vein Filled Perfection!. I Adore and NEED That ! - I’m just Delicately Re-Programming His Compliant Receptive Psyche about Orgasm and Bliss… When I promised to send him into the deepest, darkest, most desperate, mind-scrambling frenzy of lust he’s ever experienced, he honestly doubted that such a mindspace existed… He knows how it feels to be relentlessly edged - Incarcerated Balls Deep - Teased and Deftly Denied by my sublime femininity for Days at a time. He knows the Beautiful Frustration of being Milked and Ruined, over and over again - through the last few years. He’s begged – literally begged – for climax and orgasm before and heard me firmly say “NO!” He’s been there… He survived those things without ever truly losing his mind, and he figured this would “just” be more of the same… Three months of intense fun, but he figured - nothing truly new.

And… to be honest… I wondered if he might be right. His doubt however motivated me “greatly” to find out what I was made of. It made me “edge” him harder - for longer… I Was on a Sacred Mission… Which made me stop and suddenly let go of his Joystick for recovery breaks, every time my feminine instinct screamed at me “He’s a man!! Have Mercy! Let him Cum!!” It’s also why I insisted on sexual playtime (and cuddling) every night, no matter what’s happening in our daily lives or how tired we felt. I wanted to know… to genuinely know… Could I break him? Was it even possible?

Well…

Last night, I’m proud to say, I finally… carefully… definitely broke him!

After eight weeks of daily edging, teasing and denying him a cherished male climax, we started off the evening “routinely” enough. We played, cuddled and snuggled to warm up, He hungrily went down on me (he’s gotten so good) and when I couldn’t take any more, I pounced on him… Getting him onto his back for a quick 69, I then tied his wrists to the headboard of our bed. He was already wonderfully hypersensitive, and his magnificent robust joystick was leaking and crying endless tears of joy (I was extremely wet and aroused), so I shrewdly decided to mount him very slowly and carefully - avoiding any sudden motion that might resemble a thrust… (Remember Our New Slow and Unhurried Sexual Intercourse?) We kissed slowly, deeply and passionately as I took my Sweet Time, easing him inch by delectable inch, into the depths of my drenched slippery Vagina. Thoroughly relishing the sensations of him throbbing and pulsating - I finally incarcerated him Balls Deep UP inside me - Right Where he Belonged… Eventually I moved, Reaching out and got my favorite toy from the nightstand and delicately vibed myself to a glorious rapturous full body climax - Fully Impaled on My Mans Glorious Captive Subjugated “Denied” Rock Hard 9 Inch Joystick… A perfect start… By the glazed look in his doting eyes, I Fully Realized - Just How Much - He Loved Feeling ME Climax and Cum - All Over His Powerful - Incarcerated - Hyper Sensitive COCK…

After a Brief Intuitional “ Restorative” Rest Break - I Slowly Dismounted My Desperately HARD Stud - Licked my juices from his Balls and Mighty Erection - Then retired to languish (and snuggle) at his side - in a blissfully relaxed haze - alternately vibing, tickling, stroking and teasing his raging Joystick - through a string of easy “edges”… Easy for me, that is… My head was resting on his muscular chest, my long silky soft black hair spilling over his body, my leg hooked with his… It was so Incredibly Serene - Holding his Monster (Hypnotic) Throbbing Cock in my Tender Hand, I almost fell asleep.

I didn’t even notice the time… I didn’t even notice an hour had slipped by - And Then Two Hours… I was in a warm, post-orgasmic serene trance… Perfectly Comfortable… Feeling his magical alluring, magnificent manhood straining so sweetly and desperately - in my tender, nurturing, adroit hand… Lost in my own little world of Mastering Him… It was just so easy… And, as silly and nonsensical as it sounds, I cherished and adored him for it. I loved that he found me so beautiful, so irresistible, so sensual and sovereign that he couldn’t stop himself from Submitting…. It made me feel like the most amazing woman in the world.

So I almost didn’t notice as his grunts faded and his quivers started. He actually startled me with a raspy, crackling whisper, “Baby, Please… Pleeease!…”

It was the most earnest plea I’d ever heard from him in my life. Something in his tone, beyond the words alone… A moment purely between us, when all facades of masculine dignity crumbled. He was breaking… Finally breaking… This is how it starts… His… Subservience, Subordination, Servility!

I immediately “perked up”…This was angelic music to my ears… I needed to see his face, to confirm it for myself. Yup… He was gone. His eyes were open, but there was absolutely no mind present… His lips were moving, but only a few airy words slipped out… A lot of “please” and “fuck” and sometimes my name, over and over again… As If in a Trance… My heart swelled with pure joy, and happiness for him. I didn’t say a word – I didn’t want to interrupt his journey… He was in a Deep Blissful Trance… As I just continued gliding my silky soft fingers “With a featherlight touch” along his dancing - 9 inch Cock of Pure Raging Fervid Perfection - … Carefully, Invisibly - Guiding him through subspace… Knowing that He “Needed” Me… That he could NEVER Do this to himself...

Weeks of hard work (for the both of us!) was finally paying off…

There was No Way I was going to let this exquisite moment END any time soon. I completely forgot how drowsy I was, or how late it was. I Kept Going… Carefully… Lightly… Nurturing… Soft Touches ONLY – Because just one firm grip of his thick base, or stroke - probably would have ended it… At one point, when he was sweating, quivering, and babbling, I softly - sensuously - seductively - offered him a chance… I whispered very quietly, “Remember, we have a safe word.” That’s the only time I “broke character.” I’m sure his subconscious heard me; I’m sure he understood - But he didn’t say anything, though… He just kept quietly whimpering and begging in a trance, “Please… Please…”

He wanted to STAY. So I made him STAY ! ! !

He wanted to be Broken… So I Broke Him ! ! !

The Next Morning, When We Awoke, He was STILL “ROCK HARD” In My Hand, He said it was the BEST night of his life. And I believe it!

We Dozed, Cuddled and Snuggled the Next Few Hours in Bed That Morning as I Securely Held Him in my Grasping Hand - Unwilling to let His Healthy Manhood Deflate - Even in the Slightest… Security COCK …

Anyways, We have another eight weeks to go…

Man O Man - Am I Going To Enjoy Myself - The Next Eight Yummy Weeks ! ! !