know your worth

After a four years long abusive relationship, I thought that I could maybe use my story to help people. If you are in an abuse relationship at the moment and feel the need to talk, you can come to me, I'd be happy to help you. And chances are I went thru what you are going thru right now. If you've been in an abusive relationship and feel the need to talk to take something off you chest, feel free to come too. Nobody will judge you here, cause we're all in the same boat. And I refuse to let you sink.

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A couple years ago I remember seeing a post talking about the fact that at some point every cells on our body renews themselves and the post said something like « it’s so relieving to think one day I’ll have a body you never touched ». If someone remembers this post, can you send it to me pls? Thank you.

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hello there.

is everyone ok?

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Is it still considered abuse if I fight back or even if I slapped him in the face first but he did worse? There's a lot of verbal abuse as well

Well yes. 

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I'm sick and tired of the mess you made me.

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Is it my time yet ? Is tonight the night I give up for good ?

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So there's this guy that I used to like, I actually think I had fallen in love with him. I decided I was done with him after how poorly he treated me. He would get mad at me for no reason and couldn't understand when I was mad at him. He recently just had a girl he "fell in love with" turn on him and now he's "realized he treated me poorly" I'm afraid his manipulative behavior will drag me back in again, what should I do? I still want to be his friend.

But honey, why do you still wanna be friend with someone who treated you bad? If you loved someone, chances are if you stay friend with that person, feelings will eventually come back. You should really just put him out of your life.

Maybe he realized he trated you poorly, but it doesn’t mean he’s gonna do anything to change it. And who knows if he doesn’t say that just to get you back..

I’d suggest you just distance yourself and stop having any interraction with him. As an human, you deserve people who treat you right. As acquaintances, as friends, as lover. There’s no need for anyone treating you average or bad !

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How are things going with your boyfriend ?

It’s going very well, thank you for asking :)

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I say No More because I have met too many survivors who go through life handcuffed by what happened as they serve the rest of their lives in a mental prison of shame and guilt that belong to the perpetrator(s). Survival is a reminder that there are things in life that we may never get over, but we will get through them. I say No More because suffering in silence kills.

NoMore.org

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Why do we stay in horrible relationships? Do we just a so much hope that things are gonna get better? But we just end up losing ourselves! I wanna just die

I think as human being, we tend to want to fix on other people what we can fix on ourselves. We’re all broken in some ways, but we decide to try to fix someone else so we can forget about our own problems. That’s just how we are, but I have a good new for you: We’re all the same. We just hope we’ll be able to fix our abuser, and then it’ll be a good relationship. But hey; YOU CAN NOT FIX PEOPLE. YOU CAN NOT. You can only fix yourself.

And I try to always remind myself that: I didn’t lose myself, I just became someone else. I just matured and learned and grew up and got stronger and it’ll help me for future difficulties in my life.

It’s all about perception.

It was not being abused and humiliated, it was the fight of your life and if you’re still there, let me tell you something: you won.

You’re not a victim, you’re a survivor. And I think that’s a beautiful thing to be.

There will always be bad days, there will always be nightmares, there will always be fears. But there will be even more pride, there will be even more good things, there will be even more things to accomplish.

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He looked at me with no expression on his face and said, "I'm fighting cutting your fucking head off". My bf has psychological issues. A switch gets flipped and he's got a gun to his head. Is this abuse? I'm afraid, but numb at the same time.

Yes this is considered emotional/verbal abuse.

Having psychological issues isn’t an excuse. Please think about you first. If you don’t, no one will.

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Bf is only nice to me after I blow him or after sex. And other times his hurting me. But I always give in. It hurts but when he is nice to me. It's wonderful. Am I fucked up for this. Do I like the abuse or am I just used to it?

You’re just used to it. 

And you’re not fucked up at all. Being nice is just a part of the abuse too. It’s a part of the cycle of violence. You can learn more about it here: http://www.domesticviolence.org/cycle-of-violence/

(Sorry I can’t figure out how to link it).

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Sometimes I stay up late at night and I make lists of the reasons why I should & shouldn't stay alive. Most of the time, it ends with me having a list of why I shouldn't stay alive.

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And I found a good one, a really good guy but when you’re stuck in a negative mind state you feel like happiness is a lie and you wait for someone to do you wrong, cause you’ve never been done right.

Free - Skye Townsend (via domestic-violences)

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I'm so over bitches complaining about domestic violences when they be pushing their man on their last nerve.

I’m so over bitches complaining about things they don’t even know! Bye Felicia!!!!!

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Do I See Abuse Everywhere Or Is It Common To Be Unhappy In A Relationship ?

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You made my heart melt, yet I'm cold to the core.

Rumor Has It

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Losing Things I don't Even Have

I just wish I could make up my mind. Just take a decision and stick to it. I'm talking about my relationship.

Cause I can decide for everything, except my love life. Yesterday I felt like it was a good idea to get into a relationship, and today I just feel like stopping everything. Nothing special happened between yesterday and today, but all of my feelings changed. Sometimes I just think I am stupid or completely sick and something is just wrong in my brain. I don't know. And it's always like this: one day I'm happy about it, and the next day I just wanna be ALONE. I don't wanna make another person unhappy because of my own problems, and sometimes I just think I should stop my relationship before it really gets too 'serious'. I'm scared to hurt him with my constantly changing mind. I'm just soooo scared to do anything wrong. It's tiring.

I wish someone would just take a decision for me since I am not capable of taking one myself.