Every morning I wake up and have to convince myself that I don’t love her anymore and every night she haunts me in my dreams. I still find my mind drifting toward her when I’m not paying attention. There are mornings when my first thought is to text her good morning. She betrayed me in a way I never thought she would or could. I loved her unconditionally for 4 years, we were never steady, always on again off again but even during our time apart I thought only of her. I proposed to her on a lake in a canoe, I was trying to reenact that scene from the notebook. It’s her favorite movie. We were engaged for a month before she called it all off because she couldn’t handle the distance, I’m in military so I am stationed away from home. It’s only an 8 hour drive or an hour and a half flight but I guess I wasn’t worth the travel. She went back to her ex as she always did and I waited for another opportunity as I always did. The next time I came home was during christmas and I’m ashamed to say that I was hooking up with her while her boyfriend was out of town for work. I didn’t see her again for 7 months, I came home during my pre-deployment leave and she was single, we talked about getting back together and making it work this time. She assured me that she wanted to be with me and was willing to make the effort. In a rather embarrassing turn of drunken events I was shot in the chest in a friends apartment. She spent almost every day with me while I was in the hospital, tending to my needs even when I was being an ass. Maybe the way I treated her while I was injured pushed her away, I’ll never know. I was embarrassed and my pride had been hurt, I couldn’t take care of myself and I lashed out at those around me. Maybe I share the blame for what came next. I returned to base for further treatment and she drove with my mother to bring me back. She had told me the night before that we couldn’t be together, but she wanted to keep up appearances around my mother so I played along. All the while dying on the inside. About a week after I had returned to base she told me that she had been spending a lot of time with my step brother, which I was not a fan of because I know him well. But she continued to spend more and more time with him assuring me that nothing was going to happen. She told me she would come visit me, she never did, then I learned that was in the same state as me on vacation with him but didn’t tell me or ask to come see me. I stopped talking to them both for a while because I was so angry. 2 or 3 weeks go by and I get a phone call from an unknown number, it’s her ex, he tells me that she is pregnant with my step brothers child. She called me shortly after and confirmed it. I since have had no contact with any of them, I don’t want them in my life. I still hear things from friends and family though, a few weeks later I was told that she miscarried and they broke up. I know I shouldn’t, but I couldn’t help but to feel relieved and contempt with the good news. I still haven’t talked to any of them and I don’t plan to. Although I have heard that she is back with the same ex again. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results. Well I’m done being insane, I hold no resentment toward them but I would never want them in my life again and yet I can’t stop thinking of her. I guess I still love her in some twisted way