Don't let it get you down.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

The A in LGBTA+ stands for Asexual.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

Hot diggity damn.

Sorry again! I'll stop posting to this account. Hahaha

[dontletitgetyoudown]

I've never experienced Tumblr eating messages until now. If I haven't answered you, I'm so sorry, I didn't ignore you on purpose!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

What is wrong with people? You are seriously the nicest person on this website. Don't hurt yourself by spending too much time in this toxic online environment, alright?

Aww, thank you. You are so sweet! I hope this website will slowly grow out of this toxicity.

Have a wonderful day!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

I've really gotta stop posting things to the wrong account, geez!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

I'm so sorry about that everyone! Please don't do that personality test thing - it installs malware on your computer! I can't believe I fell for it, I'm a sucker for those kinds of things, so sorry!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

I'm not straight or white or cis(although I probably pass for female), and I still have no idea why people are getting so upset about your comic. Your intentions were good and it was explained so well! I hope the flames die down and you get some peace. God bless~

I would understand people coming to correct whatever misguided views I might have, if they felt that they were wrong in any way, but I think getting upset and angry about it is a little over the top. I'd understand their anger if I had said something like "suck it up and get over it" which is not what I wanted to say at all. I want people to deal with their anger healthily and put it towards a cause - since it is a righteous anger.

Maybe because tumblr blogs are these sort of faceless entities it's easier to not feel guilty over letting your anger out on someone from across the world.

Ah, but yes, the flames actually have died down a lot. :) I closed down the message box not long after the comic was posted, and only reopened it a few months ago. I'm surprised that the comic still gets notes though - then again I was surprised that the comic got any notes at all!

Thank you for your kind words, I hope you have a lovely day. :) God bless you too!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

Appreciate the honesty

Thank you and you're welcome.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

Where did I ever say that trash like you is my biggest problem right now? Let's stick what's actually been said okay? How are you an ally when your "activism" amounts to consoling your fellow oppressors?

Sighhhhhhhhhhhhhhh. I don't have to prove myself to you.Edit: After much consideration, I've decided to explain myself to you, and whoever wishes to know. I didn't want to state anything personal because honestly, it doesn't have much to do with social justice. However, since it affects my ability to actually do anything substantial, I'll spill the beans. You're right. I don't do much. The best I can do right now is help spread information, correct people when they are being oppressive, and keep the work I do diverse and inclusive. I can't help it though. I suffer from a disease called Endometriosis and anxiety disorder. (I am diagnosed.) My Endometriosis causes me to have severe pain, and often I find myself unable to get out of bed because of it. The only way for me to get better is to have surgery every few years, to remove the lining from my organs. Or, if I want to remove it completely, I'll have to remove my reproductive organs to stop my body from producing it. Since I hope in the future to have kids - which may not happen at all because of the disease - that is not an option. As for my anxiety, being in stressful environments is dangerous. I collapse when I my anxiety flares up. I actually lost a new job because I would faint a couple times a month. I honestly want to do more. I want to be able to help beyond spreading information and signing petitions. Since I'm jobless I can't even donate money to charities. I can't do anything. This comic was even made partially because I wanted to ease my own anxiety over being useless. It's as you say. I am utterly useless and I hate it. I can't do anything and it's upsetting. Not just because I can't help others but because I can't even help myself. I didn't want to bring this up to be honest. I don't like speaking about this because I feel like I'm making excuses. I didn't want people to know about it because I knew it'd influence the way they would view my comic. I don't want people to stop being hateful to others because I'm sick - I wanted them to stop because it's wrong. Now, if you would so kindly, please leave me alone.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

I can't be angry at useless and clueless white "allies" like you AND be an agent of change? Interesting.

Well... Not really. Because if you want to change "useless white allies" then acting aggressively is not the way to go about it? Because that doesn't change anything..? Honestly, if your biggest problem that needs your attention right now is "useless white allies" then that's really dumb... Why don't you go and try to make a difference instead of pestering some random tumblr blog who has influence over... Nothing? I have 300 followers and I'm sure some of them are just people who want to laugh at whatever I say so... Can't you waste your time somewhere else? I've tried being reasonable and civil but this is going around in circles and nothing is changing - at least I can acknowledge that nothing I say will do anything for you. So yeah, I'm done. Goodbye.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

Hi! I believe I followed you for that comic, because I really love the point of it. I am a Japanese, polyromantic, genderfluid individual, and when I thought I was straight/cis it really did hurt what people said to me, and even w/o that I know showing hate just because of smth like that is p damn awful. Sorry, I suck at speaking, but basically thank you, I'm always trying to make that point too.

Don't worry, you're fine at speaking! :) Thank you for sharing that with me, I really do appreciate every message I get from anyone. I'm happy to hear that we share the same views and I hope that, even if it's only slowly, we are able to change the world around us. :) I hope you have a lovely day!

[dontletitgetyoudown]

You're a really great person, in my opinion, for not only reaching out and pointing out problematic behavior amongst the social justice community, but also by validating their concerns and anger, and still calmly and kindly responding. I agree 100% with how you've dealt with that one person who kept angrily demanding your age and such. Use your anger for good. Don't let it control you, instead, let it be a driving energy to bring change. A++++

Haha thank you, I doubt anything I'm doing is very groundbreaking. But if I can help in anyway I can I'm happy. Thank you for your kind words. :)

[dontletitgetyoudown]

You're not helping. At all. In anyway shape or form. You're making other useless white people who are full of white guilt and have no idea what to do with their guilt feel comfortable with their uselessness. You're not an ally. Period.

Nah man, I'm trying to give them the confidence to actually do something without fearing some sort of backlash from the people they're trying to help. You're welcome. ;)

[dontletitgetyoudown]

at this point i think it's safe to assume the person who's sending those messages is just either a huge troll or is just completely unreasonable :/ don't listen to them. I think the point of your comic got across to a lot of people anyways.

I hope the comic made a positive impact. It's getting harder to tell these days. I do find myself questioning whether or not it was a good choice to publish it. It generated a lot of notes for something I did in the heat of the moment.I'm starting to agree with you on the unreasonable-ness now. It's reducing to just insults on their part and that's usually a sign it's all just a joke. Regardless, I'll be sure if they send a new message to respond seriously if they give me reason to. Else I'll just publish it with no comment or just ignore it. Thanks for your message, it's honestly very appreciated! :)

[dontletitgetyoudown]

You sound like a child. I'm hoping you're a child. If you're an adult who's on this fuckshit, I'll just be totally disgusted.

Even on the chance that, yeah, I could be really misguided and wrong. Do you really think that acting aggressively and just insulting me is going to change that? Do you think I'll turn around and be like, "Holy shit, he's right. I'm a total fuckwit." And change? This is why I preach kindly correctly people as opposed to sending a backlash of hate. If you don't want to 'bother' being the teacher then... I don't know, don't say anything? Let someone else correct them?I've listened to the people who talk to me informatively and kindly. They have helped me see that I should've presented my comic differently. I still stand by the message I wanted to get across - but now I know better. What your messages have done? Jack shit. You've come at me aggressively and I respond in kind. You've learnt nothing. I've learnt nothing. This experience yields no fruit for either of us. Congratulations. I hope you're very proud. Since you haven't told me what you're so infuriated about, I'll assume it's what you mentioned in your first message to me: policing people's anger. Well, you'll be happy to know that that wasn't the intention at all. You can be angry, scream out into the abyss of Tumblr, vent out frustrations with friends, protest, defend yourself - that's all great. Lashing out at people who are just trying to help? Not great. Even if they are doing it wrong - because lashing out at them will just stop them from trying to help all together. Correct them. Move on. Focus your anger on making a change that matters.

[dontletitgetyoudown]

"Hell. I’m angry at people like me. If you’re not then why are you sending me these messages?" ... Because, in this instance I'm angry at YOU specifically??? How old are you?

Why are you angry? I made a little comic saying "We want to help, but your harsh words are pushing us away." And that's it? That was the message? If you think otherwise well I'm sorry you misunderstood what I was trying to get across. 

But if you honestly have a problem with that then lets agree to disagree because nothing you say can ever change the way I feel about this.

Not even going to bother mentioning my age because what does that even have to do with anything?

[dontletitgetyoudown]

Who says our anger is for people like you in the first place? Like, thinking that our lives are merely a series of performances for you and other white people is really gross. What is wrong with you?

You seem misunderstood about the message of this blog. The whole message is: Don't be an ass to people. Not "don't be angry" not "don't speak out" not "don't defend yourself".I'm all for calling out homophobic, racist pigs. I'm not all for abusing people who share genetic traits to said homophobic, racist pigs. You say that your anger isn't for people like me? Thats interesting. Because, you know, it's people who look like me that have oppressed you in the first place. Hell. I'm angry at people like me. If you're not then why are you sending me these messages? You're the one that's implying this is a performance for white people, not me. I want people for use their anger in productive ways, ways that help people. Lashing out and hurting others. While understandable, doesn't make it right.