dope asexual memes

bc let's face it we are underrepresented in the tumblr meme community and that's rude. (internet old person, she/her.)

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welcome

this blog is basically just gonna be free therapy for me because i was frustrated at the (relative) dearth of HASHTAG RELATABLE ace memes and i have a lot of internalized acephobia to work through and what better way to do so than by shitposting my trauma and/or anxiety!!!!!!!

as such, there won’t be a fixed posting schedule or anything like that. tbh there will also probably be long content droughts. but feel free to follow, send ideas, or just say hey.

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Pride 2026 with Queer Liberation Library!

smut with a side of theory

Hello! This is my annual obligatory "donate to the Queer Liberation (ebook) Library if you can! And join if you want!!" signal boost.

The QLL is a fully-virtual library with no information required other than an e-mail address to join. You can become a member from anywhere in the world. (Technically their member policy is that you need a US mailing address, so this is off-label advice, but all they ask is for you to confirm that you have one, you are never required to provide it.)

The QLL is an incredible resource for queer theory, has a staggering collection of queer romance, and is basically a repository for just about every kind of queer text that exists. ❤️ I am SO grateful for their existence and proud to be a member.

Almost all of the asexual theory books I've read (both the ones I've loved AND the ones I've complained about at length offline) were accessed through the QLL and you can join from anywhere, no fees, just download the Libby app and start enjoying queer ebooks!

The link above is to my "team" for their annual Pride month fundraiser, and I am hoping to raise $300 to add another copy of I Am Ace (or a similar highly-requested ace-related text — my priority is to reduce wait times so people can have access to information faster, and that one was about 57 weeks when I first got in line). For every $300 raised, we choose another book, or copy of a book, to add to the library's collection.

Of course you can feel free to donate on your own, or even start your own team! But if you just want to get more ace books in the library, both I and the QLL would really appreciate your support.

Love, hugs and kisses from me and Boots 💜

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Update: we did it! We raised $310 which was enough to add another copy of I Am Ace to the library. Thank you everyone 💜

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Pride 2026 with Queer Liberation Library!

smut with a side of theory

Hello! This is my annual obligatory "donate to the Queer Liberation (ebook) Library if you can! And join if you want!!" signal boost.

The QLL is a fully-virtual library with no information required other than an e-mail address to join. You can become a member from anywhere in the world. (Technically their member policy is that you need a US mailing address, so this is off-label advice, but all they ask is for you to confirm that you have one, you are never required to provide it.)

The QLL is an incredible resource for queer theory, has a staggering collection of queer romance, and is basically a repository for just about every kind of queer text that exists. ❤️ I am SO grateful for their existence and proud to be a member.

Almost all of the asexual theory books I've read (both the ones I've loved AND the ones I've complained about at length offline) were accessed through the QLL and you can join from anywhere, no fees, just download the Libby app and start enjoying queer ebooks!

The link above is to my "team" for their annual Pride month fundraiser, and I am hoping to raise $300 to add another copy of I Am Ace (or a similar highly-requested ace-related text — my priority is to reduce wait times so people can have access to information faster, and that one was about 57 weeks when I first got in line). For every $300 raised, we choose another book, or copy of a book, to add to the library's collection.

Of course you can feel free to donate on your own, or even start your own team! But if you just want to get more ace books in the library, both I and the QLL would really appreciate your support.

Love, hugs and kisses from me and Boots 💜

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We had a PowerPoint party for my birthday and, well...

I believe I have discovered new monster-fucking science as a result of this informal survey of 55 films (slide 62). And since I am ace, I also believe this science is not only objective but also indisputable. Currently seeking a peer-reviewed journal to accept my work for publication.

Please enjoy (if you want).

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not a meme, but in my continued ace nonfiction reading journey i feel obligated to share anything that i find particularly helpful or good… and this weekend it’s been Ace Notes by Michele Kirichanskaya

Ace Notes

What is the ace lens? Is my relationship queerplatonic? Am I sex-favorable, sex-averse or sex-repulsed? As an ace or questioning person

(for those who’ve already heard me bemoan the fact that a lot of existing ace lit feels extremely “ace 101,” this book is still very beginner-oriented but this is the first text i’ve encountered that i’d consider at least ace 102 if not 103)

she actually gets into things like the near-inevitability of changing or adding labels as you learn about yourself, the impossibility of defining a “universal” ace experience, resources for asexual-inclusive sex ed, religion and asexuality, etc—even if it’s still a bit surface level (most of those topics contain books unto themselves, as the author herself acknowledges).

AND she regularly peppers in transcribed conversations with other ace authors / activists about a lot of these topics, which means it is able to go a bit beyond that surface level and give glimpses into the rich and deep lived experience of the community we belong to.

i know capitalism-dictated gift buying season is over but it’s worth checking out :)

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concept: a book called this a-merican life which is just collected essays on living in / under the specter of american culture as asexual aromantic agender and other aspec identities

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raise your hand if you’ve ever felt personally victimized by the mean version of you who lives in your head

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stg it’s nothin’ but bitches tryna penetrate u

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in the last hour of this final day of pride month i am humbly plugging this fundraiser for my fave virtual library card, the queer liberation library

Queer Liberation Library 2025 Pride Fundraiser!

By Queer Liberation Library

also fun, if you and your pals can collectively raise $300 or more, you can choose an ebook or audiobook to add to the collection (or, idk, add another copy of an existing ace book with a long waitlist)

also if you haven’t signed up for and used QLL, consider this your opportunity to learn about a wonderful resource!

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how it started

how it’s going

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just an important PSA that today is bootsmas, the best day of the year (because it’s the day boots came home with me)!

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What constitutes sexual attraction?

why would you ask me, an asexuality blog, this

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this has led to some misunderstandings

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wow huge if true

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this happens multiple times per evening

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cat tax

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this happens multiple times per evening

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are we all just NOT talking about the ace flag sticker on breanna’s laptop in leverage redemption s2 bc i for one will be ONLY talking about it forever

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bad pic but it’s for sure there