I think the biggest misconception about Lexaâs character is that people think that the Commander (Lexa as the leader) and Lexa (as the individual) are the same person.
They are not the same. There is a huge difference between these two personas. Lexa is a composition of two selves and there are enough scenes that show and create the split between Lexa as the Commander who chooses with her head, and Lexa as Lexa who chooses with her heart. Â
Thanks to Titus we have found out that Lexa has been the best Commander that has existed so far.
âYouâre special, Heda. Iâve been the fleimkepa for four Commanders. No one has done what you have.â
The thing about Lexa as the Commander is that she carries an impressive dose of strength, power, control, and fierce loyalty, especially to her people. She can be cold, calculating and very pragmatic. She is beautiful, rich and extremely complex. As the Commander it is safe to say that Lexa is absolute. She is always one step ahead of everyone, so everthing she does IS calculated.
And it is very interesting to me because the thing about Lexa as the Commander is that we hear from her before she is even introduced into the show. Her role is already vital even without an appearance. People talk about her, and people fear her. She is an enigma that is always present even when she isnât.
When people tell me that they think what Lexa did at Mount Weather was âcruelâ I have to agree. It was. BUT, that is her job. As the Commander it is Lexaâs duty to keep her people save.
You have to realize that Lexa stays true to her position as the Commander. The âI lead with my head, not my heartâ mantra is something that Lexa repeats throughout the show, making sure that people understand what she, as the Commander, is really about.
So yes, Lexa as the Commander is ruthless, she embodies a particular philosophy, which is very essential to the show and for Clarkeâs growth as a character. As the Commander Lexa refuses vulnerability, rejects memory, always looking forward. AND YETâŠ
Here is the paradoxical aspect about Lexaâs character when she is with Clarke or alone: she is vulnerable. Extremely vulnerable. The kind of vulnerable that tickles that spot in her mind and heart where she hides all of her fears, that claws at her body and jerks at her features until she can no longer control her emotions and they spill out like blood from a wound and change and cover her entire appearance. Delving into her mind is very hard, because 1.) we donât experience the story from her perspective and 2.) we donât get too many scenes, but still enough to realize what Lexa as an individual is about.
Scene number one where we see Lexa entirely alone, emotional:
Scene number two where we see Lexa entirely alone, emotional:
Whatâs really interesting about this scene is that Lexa is dressed in light armor, but her face is absent of any face paint. Itâs like they tried to combine her two personas into one person. And the very sad thing is that it is very contradictory. Because, yes, the Commander is on top of the world, ruling over a city, powerful and fearless, but Lexa is also so very lonely. Yes, she achieved what no Commander before her could, but she has a lot to pay for it. She has loved and lost many important people in her life. Sometimes through the hands of others (Costia), and other times through her own hands (Gustus). I just want everyone to take a few minutes and think about how heavy these losses must be. And I want people to see that Lexa is not allowed to cry after any of them. She needs to maintain the persona of the Commander. She simply canât afford to break apart. But that doesnât mean that she fights her emotions 24/7. She has her moments too, and we got exactly two of them.
It is also worth noting that in this scene Lexa genuinely worries about the future. The way she looks upon the city, Polis, and then the way she shifts her head to the right and you can see the slight shimmer in her eyes⊠This is not just about Clarke, but about EVERYTHING. This woman cares more than anyone would ever dare to hope. And it is so sad.
Now onto Lexaâs connection with Clarke.
What is clear is that Lexa loves Clarke.
And she is starving for that connection.
Lexa is impressed by Clarke from the beginning. When Clarke walks into her tend all composed and Lexa says âYouâre the one who killed 300 of my warriors aliveâ Clarke dares and challenges her by saying âYouâre the one who sent them there to kill usâ. And Lexa is⊠blown. She is ANGRY but she is also CURIOUS.
Here you can see her looking at Clarke and then
⊠she kind of slams the point of her knife onto her throne.
And asks Clarke if she has an answer for her.
The thing is that Lexa could have killed Clarke right then and there. Merciless as the Commander is. She is actually kind of angry. But she doesnât, because she is also very interested. Clarkeâs entrance has left an immediate mark on Lexa. Lexaâs first impression of Clarke literally is âyou are fierce, and I want to know more about you.â ( e.g. trusts her, fights along her side, invites her to Polis etc.)
And after that they form a relationship that is not only build on respect and trust, but also on love.
The kiss scene proves that.
Everytime, and I mean EVERYTIME when someone comes to me and says âLexa kissed Clarke because she wanted to manipulate herâ I literally fall onto the floor and roll myself into my carpet to try to hide myself from these people who actually BELIEVE that Lexa could manipulate the master mind that is CLARKE FUCKING GRIFFIN (BUT THATâS ANOTHER STORY).
That kiss was so so fucking real. From both Lexaâs perspective and Clarkeâs. It took them both by surprise, but they didnât back away from it. Rather, they explored that unfamiliar and rare feeling of intimacy for a few seconds. They both experienced it before and lost it and now they somehow found it again, in each other.
And it is wonderful, because it is yet again very contradictory. Lexaâs face is covered in war paint, she wears war clothing. She needs to because she is in the open, she cannot allow herself to be anything else other than the Commander. And yet, she ends up kissing Clarke, in the open (if you think about it) because anyone could have come in. She risked it and followed her feelings, heart.
And she is so gentle. Hopeless romantic.
They donât just want to share their fears and conflicts but also the love they have for each other.
Which makes the events at Mount Weather even more dramatic.
Because what Lexa did to Clarke at Mount Weather was cruel, BUT it did not just break Clarke. It also broke Lexa. She literally sacrificed her own happiness for her people. Everything that happened between Clarke and Lexa before the event at Mount Weather was genuine.
You can tell by the way Lexa says âMay we meet againâ in 2x15 that she is actually giving Clarke up. Let me remind you that she actually whispers these four words and it looks like that she is saying these words more to herself than to Clarke because she knows that Clarke will never see her the same way again. She failed Clarke in that moment and she KNOWS it. And yet she canât undo what she has done because this is how things have to BE. Head over heart.
There is self-hatred, too. While Lexa seems very composed when making decisions while being Heda, you can see her break under the pressure of the past/present when she is Lexa. When she says âIt helps no one to dwell on the past.â in the newest episode of season three, itâs not just a change of subject to get to the actual point (talk about the Skaikru becoming the 13th Clan), but also that Lexa is affected by the events of Mount Weather, too. She is haunted as well. The fact that Lexa never wanted/planned to betray Clarke, but the betrayal came with the offer which was made not before, or after the war, but WITHIN it, DURING it, makes it even more devastating. She wasnât ready for that herself, and yet she had to do it. Whatâs also really astounding is that Lexa actually offers herself as a punching ball or something - âItâs easier to hate me than to hate yourself.â - Clarke comes at her more than once. She spits on her, calls her names, attacks her with a knife. I mean, do I still need to say how important this sentence is? How deep it actually goes? She is not only trying to free Clarke from the self-hatred that she feels towards herself, she is also ready to take the weight off of Clarkeâs shoulders and put it on her own. And she will TAKE IT. Like she always does.
What is also worth mentioning (and this is just speculation) is that I think that Lexa has added new parts to her arm tattoo to imprint her failure (Clarke) onto her body aka. her soul. Tattoos are very important in the Trikru culture just as scars are important in the Azgeda culture. They are not just for design, but they all hold deep meaning, stories that are not allowed to be forgotten.Â
Another great and very sad scene was the knife scene.
I find it rather funny when people say âClarke wants to kill Lexa but she canât because she has killed enough alreadyâ - You wish that was the case but it is not, I assure you.
The only reason why Clarke doesnât kill Lexa is because she never wanted to kill her in the first place. Just as Indra said in season two âThose who are about to die will say anythingâ you can also apply this to when people are angry. âIâll kill you!â - Clarke said something she never really meant. Neither subconscisouly and nor consciously. She may have tried to convince herself that killing Lexa would be good. People try to constantly convince her that Lexa being dead would solve everything, but she NEVER believed in that, not even for a second.Â
BUT, Clarke is hurting. And Lexa knows that.
After Lexa says âIâm sorry.â She adds, âI never meant to turn you into this.â
Please pay close attention how Lexa gulps in this scene and then says,
âI never meant to turn you into thisâ while furrowing her eyebrows.
This scene is so emotional for me.
The amount of strain between them is so heavy in this scene. You can feel their desperation and it is so intense and electric it HURTS to watch them. This is THE scene where Lexa actually realizes just WHAT exactly she has done to Clarke, how deep the wounds go, and how much it changed Clarke (for the worse). It is an uncomfortable situation for both of them because they both never wanted things to end up like this. This scene is so cruel, because it shows that Lexa finally accepts that she is the catalyst for Clarkeâs fall.
And what can Lexa do? Yup, you guessed it.
We know Lexa would never kill Clarke, despite what people tell her.
So she does what she does best. Let Clarke go. In every sense of the word.
She is prepared, she makes her way to the door, ready to let Clarke leave, go back to her people, almost out and then âWait -â
Lexa stops, not quite sure if she heard right.
âI have a better idea.â
I have honestly never seen her so sad. And I mean she has different faces when she is sad but she looks so defeated here. Because for a moment it was over. For a moment she actually thought âthis is it, no matter what happens she will never forgive me and I have to let her go even if I love herâ. It is so sad, because Lexa seems to constantly wear a mask. In a metaphorical sense, masks always indicate something that a character tries to hide, but in this scene it falls off of her face. She gives up being composed all the fucking time, letâs the sadness wash over her face and show Clarke just how much it hurts her to see Clarke hurting like THIS.
And again, she offers Clarke something and would pay for another loss in return. Ugh. If that isnât love then I donât know what is. And if you still suspect Lexaâs love for Clarke to be genuine let the next scene prove that she TRULY does.
Hello to the oh so famous bow scene.
There is NOTHING political about this scene. From the setting to the music and the things Lexa says, there is literally NOTHING political about it.
Lexa surrenders to Clarke in this scene. Not like people surrender in war, but rather like someone who is willing to risk everything just to make sure that the person you love is okay and knows that no matter what happens, from now on they will make sure that they (Clarke) WILL have their (Lexaâs) back. And itâs also worth mentioning that this is not just an act to represent that Clarke and Lexa are equals, but that Lexa will take the consequence for loving Clarke, because there will be consequences for her. She knows this. âI hope you know what youâre doingâ. Recovery is not easy, but Lexa has faith in Clarke to make progress with her, to re-build this relationship again and she will fight everything that will try to hurt Clarke again because she wonât anymore.
And this is the Lexa as the Lexa we know as an individual. She could never pull this gesture if she was acting as the Commander. But this is Lexa that is hidden between all the layers that you can find beneath that tattooed skin.
Lexa is complex, sometimes hard to understand, other times too simple to read. She isnât perfect, flawed, extremely big and very tiny and so so so in love. And it is interesting because Lexa recognizes these different facets of her personality as distinct halves; the one who wields power, and the one who is weak. Which part of her personality is real? All of it. Everything about her is real. Itâs a lesson she has learned long ago. She reserves the personal aspects of her character for the people she cares about, and the rest is presented to the world. And this is the difference. The Commander is the head, and Lexa is the heart and she is good and bad at both things. And if you still hate Lexa after all of this, then we literally donât watch the same show.