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[lcknssie-deactivated20231102]

The Reversal of Desire "The Tools" — Phil Stutz

(The Tools by Phil Stutz and Barry Michels)

[wvterways]

i will no longer be embarrassed i will no longer be a victim of insecurity i will no longer plague my mind with worries i exist i am allowed to exist i am allowed to take up space i will not let others dictate my experience i will live i will live i will live

[acreaturecalledgreed]

the concept and idea of “you can always start trying to be a better person” is extremely important to me both in media and irl and i continue to be deeply deeply disturbed by the trend on this site pushing that these ideas in media are bad writing or even morally reprehensible

because theyd rather someone stay terrible or just straight up die than become a better person 

from a compassionate point of view it’s deeply distressing and from a pragmatic point of view it’s outright frustrating

it’s fucked up. 

[falliblefabrial]

What is the most important step a man can take?

The next.

[inklesspen]

[babblingfishes]

I think part of the pushback about this is the idea that, to “redeem” bad people, their victims must first forgive them for unforgivable acts.

This is false. No one is obligated to forgive you. You can learn from your mistakes and become the best, kindest person on earth, and the people you’ve hurt still won’t forgive you, and you’ll have to accept that. And that doesn’t mean you aren’t allowed to grow. Because we aren’t just “pure” or “sinful”, we’re complex.

[hungwy]

setting eyelid status to closed. setting breathing speed to slow. setting breathing pattern to steady. setting muscles to relaxed. setting brain to counting Sheep. setting consciousness to False. setting dreams to True. aaaaaaaand we have sleep off. great job guys (little garden gnomes crawl out my ears and scurryaround my house)

[damazcuz]

Certain words can change your brain forever and ever so you do have to be very careful about it.

[ethanmaldridge]

Menswear Menagerie

The dog days of summer

[deleted5deleted]

My dad had once told me it would be abnormal to be normal after all you’d been through and I’ve been looking at life differently ever since

[memeuplift]

[melaninnmagixc]

But have you thanked yourself for carrying you this far yet?

[spiribia]

it's a shame you can't Cool, Silent, and Mysterious your way to being very close to people. we are unfortunately going to have to embarrass ourselves for this

[magicratfingers]

laundry, dishes, dog walks, taxes, eating, sleeping, breathing, dusting, calling your mom, going to work, washing the car and watering the plants all has to be done over and over and over again so why would finding happiness be any different

[magicratfingers]

See, thank you. It feels like a big realization for me tbh

It’s not that “this [xyz] will fix me” is wrong, it’s just… everything is kinda short term and that’s ok u gotta pace yourself

[snazzymolasses]

Wow. Seriously, this is brain-rewiring.

I've always thought "This will make me happy. For now." was a lame situation to be in.

But when you compare it to

eating will make me not hungry. For now.

calling my mom will get us caught up. For now.

watering the plants will keep them alive. For now.

...you realize that a good situation being temporary is not a reason not to do the thing

If something can make me happy for now, then that thing can make me happy. So I should do it.

[curseworm]

the inherent shame of beginning… dont look at me while i learn

[garden-graveyard]

“the inherent shame of beginning”

i admit, “don’t look at me while i learn” hits hard… but why is that so? when i was 7 years old i sang along to songs i had yet to fully learn by bumbling through sounds that half-resembled what i thought i heard, at full volume.

at 6, i would practice ballet moves–in which i had no instruction–outside the theater after a professional performance, in full view of the public.

at 5, i asked my teacher so many questions that she affectionately called me Bug–because i was always bugging her with my endless inquiry. i loved the nickname.

at 14, i was afraid to practice a song in my own room with no one home because, “what if my voice cracks? what if i can’t hit that note?”

at 15 i was afraid to dance in the garage with no one around because–i mean how embarrassing would it be to get the move wrong?

at 16, i forgo asking questions in class because god forbid i not understand.

what is this? “the shame of beginning”, we say. but not inherent, never was it inherent. the child loves to begin! they love making the silly mistake. the world tells us the mistake is fatal, or worse, shameful. what a tragedy. the world strangles our joy of beginning and when we’re old enough we add our own hands to the neck.

but the truth is we begin everyday and we are wrong and we’re dumb and we make silly mistakes and at the end of it all we are still the brilliant learners we’ve always been. there is no shame. it’s alright. i don’t know how to properly express that i wish upon everyone who’s reblogged this post to realize the shame is in our hands wrapped around the neck. we can let go. allow the self-kindess of your heart to soothe the bruises.

learning is no secret burden. we do it together :)

[miseducatedmelanicmuse]

Like a new friend!

[linafication]

here’s your reminder to let yourself create. not create ‘well’, just create. draw badly. write shitty poems. sing stupid songs. make whatever you want & have a great time doing it. that’s what creation is for. it’s self expression, not perfection

[cutetanuki-chan]

should i suck it up and add eight house to the roombox

[cutetanuki-chan]

eight entered the house

[normalfixation]

i mean this in a bad way these genuine “normalize/bring back etc” posts about regular stuff are so annoying i wish people would just do what they want without needing it to be in fashion or widely approved or part of a curated theme “normalize going to the bar alone bring back thin eyebrows normalize not having an aesthetic bring back low waisted jeans” like girl free yourself from these shackles

[stonebutchcowboy]

Everyone is going to have a summer of self discovery whether they like it or not