DPD confessions

Vent, confess, and connect with other people w/ DPD! Flag by: @lovesse !!

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Hello! My name is Bella, and I started this blog after being inspired by @npd-confessions !

In terms of pd’s I have both DPD and BPD although this blog will specifically focus on DPD.

The flag for DPD I use was created by @lovesse ^-^

This is a space for people with DPD and loved ones of a pwDPD to vent, ask questions, or submit mostly anything related to the disorder.

Some ground rules:

vents are only permitted if they are related to DPD

I am willing to answer questions about DPD with my experience, but it is NOT medical advice. I will not give out professional or medical advice or tell you if I think you have DPD or not. Sorry.

Claiming Narc abuse or calling your abusers narcissists is not allowed, these asks will be deleted. Ableism against those with NPD or ASPD is strictly frowned upon on this blog.

I won’t be involved in discourse. This includes syscourse, I am a system but I’d rather not be involved.

No vague posting real tumblr blogs. Venting about friends and such is okay, but shading another blog is not allowed.

That being said, I hope this blog brings comfort to the DPD community. C:

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Questioning if any of us (plural) have DPD or BPD or both or secret fourth option we hadn't considered and just. Want to curl up and never leave my Person my People my Special loved ones ever again and never have to deal with all this

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my dpd confession pt2 electric boogaloo is that i am an age/pet regressor because of my dpd. i just wanna be coddled and loved and taken care of despite my neediness and clinginess. i want it to be seen as cute, like caregivers think about age regressors. i want a caregiver to be responsible for me and make decisions for me so i don’t have to, and having someone who does that sends me instantly into babymode/puppymode

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my dpd confession is that (even though it’s pretty stereotypical) i cannot dress myself. i struggle so hard with it. my sister taught me how to pick out clothes when i was a teenager and it has been a battle to do it on my own ever since. i used to ask my ex partner for help and he would say things like “just do it yourself” “you’re not a baby” “stop acting so helpless” “are you stupid?” which only sent me into spirals. sometimes i don’t go to events i am really looking forward to because of panic attacks when trying to decide what to wear. i always feel ridiculous about this and its really hard to talk about it with others, mostly because of my experience with my ex and how unsympathetic, dismissive, and sometimes even aggressive he was towards me. i’m afraid if i try to ask somehow for help they will react the same way.

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Hi anon, I can strongly relate to this. I will say that my partner has always helped me with this, without insult or irritation. There are people out there that will cherish you, and give you accommodations. I’m sure you’ll find someone! :)

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dpd holder (system alter role) confession here, having another alter be my dp is great but also makes it hard to communicate with anyone outside of the system because.. well i have everything i need already right?

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As a system, this is so valid anon :)

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Hey guys just so you know we’re not inactive we just haven’t received confessions 😭😭😭

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found a cluster c community on here !! https://www.tumblr.com/communities/cluster-c-space

Cluster C Hub! • Community on Tumblr

32 members, 26 posts about #cluster c #dpd #ocpd • This community is a safe space for people with cluster C disorders, or just people wantin

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so i have a partner who has both BPD and DPD, as someone with NPD & BPD i want to love him and help him for how i can. i don't know how, but i want to learn more about DPD & how i can advocate for him. can you help me ??

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I asked my partner w/NPD about this and here was his response, if you need more advice than this feel free to drop by the inbox again!

“I will chime in i think…I’d say it depends on how you see your partner. Are they an equal person to you? That’s not really controllable but it does impact how you interact with them (one message out of many)

Either way it can be really hard to put their needs before yours if you have NPD, or at the very least to prioritize them but one thing to know is that if you support them and look out for them they will admire you above anyone else probably. This is the easiest way to find motivation to up your game when it comes to romantic gestures. Try to remember it’s not the motivation that matters when it comes to an action; whats important is how it impacts the person, whether or not it makes them feel loved

As for advocating, that also is dependent on whether or not you guys are online or in person. ASK FOR PERMISSION BEFORE DOING ANY OF THE FOLLOWING.

If you’re dating in person help them with ordering things as that can be a big thing that pwDPD struggle with (making decisions). If someone is rude to them stand up for them. Help them pick out clothes if they ask you to.

It’s similar for an online relationship, just be there for them when they’re upset when you’re able, I know that even without empathy i can still listen and provide compassion, showing verbally that I understand why they’re upset. If someone is harassing them online or is cruel to them in some way, get involved. Offer help and protection because that’s probably what they want from you

Lastly whether uoure online or in person have a conversation about how dependent you’re comfortable with them being. Are they going to therapy? Do they want to improve their dependency or are you both okay with the level it’s at? Make sure that you’re ready to commit to them needing some extra help from you before anything else.

Your relationship probably won’t be easy but it is possible to be NPD4DPD and still have a (mostly) healthy and functional relationship. You just both have to communicate your needs! I think that’s the most important thing”

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I’m partner, I’d like to clarify that I don’t mean to say that someone with DPD can just magically control their dependency; basically the opposite actually. They don’t have to want to improve their dependency and if you can’t handle that you should at the very least have a loooong conversation about what that will look like. At the very least.

[dpd-confessions]

so i have a partner who has both BPD and DPD, as someone with NPD & BPD i want to love him and help him for how i can. i don't know how, but i want to learn more about DPD & how i can advocate for him. can you help me ??

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I asked my partner w/NPD about this and here was his response, if you need more advice than this feel free to drop by the inbox again!

“I will chime in i think…I’d say it depends on how you see your partner. Are they an equal person to you? That’s not really controllable but it does impact how you interact with them (one message out of many)

Either way it can be really hard to put their needs before yours if you have NPD, or at the very least to prioritize them but one thing to know is that if you support them and look out for them they will admire you above anyone else probably. This is the easiest way to find motivation to up your game when it comes to romantic gestures. Try to remember it’s not the motivation that matters when it comes to an action; whats important is how it impacts the person, whether or not it makes them feel loved

As for advocating, that also is dependent on whether or not you guys are online or in person. ASK FOR PERMISSION BEFORE DOING ANY OF THE FOLLOWING.

If you’re dating in person help them with ordering things as that can be a big thing that pwDPD struggle with (making decisions). If someone is rude to them stand up for them. Help them pick out clothes if they ask you to.

It’s similar for an online relationship, just be there for them when they’re upset when you’re able, I know that even without empathy i can still listen and provide compassion, showing verbally that I understand why they’re upset. If someone is harassing them online or is cruel to them in some way, get involved. Offer help and protection because that’s probably what they want from you

Lastly whether uoure online or in person have a conversation about how dependent you’re comfortable with them being. Are they going to therapy? Do they want to improve their dependency or are you both okay with the level it’s at? Make sure that you’re ready to commit to them needing some extra help from you before anything else.

Your relationship probably won’t be easy but it is possible to be NPD4DPD and still have a (mostly) healthy and functional relationship. You just both have to communicate your needs! I think that’s the most important thing”

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dpd confession is .. i lowkey ignore people for weeks on end if my dp doesn’t find them interesting ?? like idk .. if they’re not intrigued by me reciting the conversation i feel like it’s not my place to disagree with them right ..?? so i’ll just ghost people with no clarification 🥲🥲

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honestly I can understand this!! I struggle with socializing so much outside of my dp… I mean today all I’ve done is bed rot while he does his work training on the computer ;^; friendships are sooo draining…

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