Not telling children of abusers that their parent is an abuser actually does not protect the child. I’m not saying read the court transcripts to your child but a simple “Daddy is in prison for hurting children.” or “Daddy hurt mommy very badly.” is much better than lionizing an abuser or saying nothing, allowing your child to create a false image of their parent that will be heinously shattered when they realize the truth. I understand that sometimes fear of parental alienation claims hold a parent’s tongue but children should be told when a family member is not a safe person.











