queer is a slur, grow up
âQueerâ was reclaimed as an umbrella term for people identifying as not-heterosexual and/or not-cisgender in the early 1980s, but being queer is more than just being non-straight/non-cis; itâs a political and ideological statement, a label asserting an identity distinct from gay and/or traditional gender identities.People identifying as queer are typically not cis gays or cis lesbians, but bi, pan, ace, trans, nonbinary, intersex, etc.: weâre the silent/ced letters. Weâre the marginalised majority within the LGBTQIA+ community, andâqueerâ is our rallying cry.
And thatâs equally pissing off and terrifying terfs and cis LGs.
Thereâs absolutely no historical or sociolinguistic reason why âqueerâ should be a worse slur than âgay.â Remember how we had all those campaigns to make people stop using âgayâ as a synonym for âbadâ?
Yet nobody is suggesting we should abolish âgayâ as a label. We accept that even though âgayâ sometimes is and historically frequently was used in a derogatory manner, mlm individuals have the right to use that word. We have ad campaigns, twitter hashtags, and viral Facebook posts defending âgayâ as an identity label and asking people to stop using it as a slur.
Whereas âqueerâ is treated exactly opposite: a small but vocal group of people within feminist and LGBTQIA+ circles insists that itâs a slur and demands that others to stop using it as a personal, self-chosen identity label.
Why?
Because âqueer is a slurâ was invented by terfs specifically to exclude trans, nonbinary, and intersex people from feminist and non-heterosexual discourse, and was subsequently adopted by cis gays and cis lesbians to exclude bi/pan and ace people.
Itâs classic divide-and-conquer tactics: when our umbrella term is redefined as a slur and weâre harassed into silence for using it, we no longer have a word for what we are allowing us to organise for social/political/economic support; we are denied the opportunity to influence or shape the spaces we inhabit; we canât challenge existing community power structures; weâre erased from our own history.
Iâm not kidding. Cis LGs have literally taken historical evidence of queer peopleâs involvement in the LGBT rights struggle and photoshopped it to erase us:
Pro tip: when you alter historical evidence to deny a marginalised group empowerment, youâre one of the bad guys.
âQueer is a slurâ is used by terfs and cis gays/lesbians to silence the voices of trans/nonbinary/intersex/bi/pan/ace people in society and even within our own communities, to isolate us and shame us for existing.
âQueer is a slurâ is saying âI am offended by people who do not conform to traditional gender or sexual identities because they are not sexually available to me or validate my personal identity.â
âQueer is a slurâ is defending heteronormativity.
âQueer is a slurâ is frankly embarrassing. Itâs an admission of ignorance and prejudice. Itâs an insidious discriminatory discourse parroted uncritically in support of a divisive us-vs-them mentality targeting the most vulnerable members of the LGBTQIA+ community for lack of courage to confront the white cis straight men who pose an actual danger to us as individuals and as a community.
Tl;dr:
Iâm here, Iâm queer, and Iâm too old for this shit.
solointhesand:
I know I keep reblogging posts like this, but it matters to me. âQueer is a slurâ is a TERF dogwhistle, and a lot of the younger generation is falling for it. Please pay attention to history and ask questions about whoâs behind social media campaigns that undermine the inclusivity of your community.
Queer is an excellent word, especially when your identity doesnât fit neatly within one little label. Queer is also an explicit rejection of normative expectations sexuality and gender. Itâs radical as fuck.
queer is a fantastic word and I love it so much
As always âqueerâ will be taken from my cold dead hands and I am very hard to kill.
