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hi girl!!!! i love your blog SO much, just to start off. im ngl i need some advice because i have been GOING through the wringer lately and its stressing me out.
i just graduated at the end of may, and i finally decided to cut off a friend of mine who hadn't been treating me too kindly. always asking more of me, expecting everything, unnecessary passive aggressiveness, texting daily (which I could NOT escape from! they would get mad at me if i took too long to reply.), and receiving less than i give. its been sooo irritating and im was honestly tired of their behavior because it drained me so much. i slowly just stopped talking to them because i just didn't want to be friends anymore. i didn't accuse them of anything, or give them any particular reason. i think this is fine, i've had people quietly phase out of my life more times than i can count. but their reaction is what gets me!!!!
within the past 2 months i have been tormented by this person. they found my tumblr (i never told them my username), my substack, and my pinterest. i received messages on all of these platforms that were extremely aggressive, and made me so paranoid. they claimed i was victimizing myself, and that im literally a horrible human being for just silently ending the friendship. additionally there was so much more finger pointing of how i was the problem in this entire friendship and this constant back and forth between "i need your attention" and "you could hate me and i don't even care." for a while i thought the messages stopped until they started texting me from a different phone number, which led me to tonight, where i finally changed my number for my own safety. im hoping the messages end now, but its been so stressful on my wellbeing. i honestly have no idea how to handle this situation because genuinely i swear this girl is obsessed to a scary level. do you have any advice how to handle this situation??? its taken a huge toll on me and i really feel like i've lost my sense of self since this entire thing started. i feel so tense all the time and i just want to feel normal again. my days are going 10x faster than normal, and i cannot seem to slow down and actually unwind, nor stick to a daily routine because i feel so drained from everything. i want to start over and fix my life, but i have no idea how. your advice is so appreciated <3
sending all my love!
xoxo, s
hi angel! so sorry for the late reply, let’s talk!
okay so first of all, you can totally reach out to me and DM me if you’d like to talk more privately on this, or about any updates, i’m here to help! this is way more thank a boundary being crossed and atp its dangerous.
i’m sure you’ve blocked them on everything by now, and you’ve changed your number so thats good. this might sound like a reach, but this is a pretty scary situation so i’ll say it. if they somehow find your number this time call someone about it. if you feel like your safety’s on the line even if its just them harassing you online contact authorities. you were not at fault for ending the friendship and i’m sure you know that so keep your peace of mind, focus on the fact that you won’t be reached out to any time soon. but like i said, if they do, call someone. i hope you’re safe! xoxo <33
Heyyy, I NEED advice! So two of my friends from my trio are hanging out constantly without inviting me and it's rlly bothering me. What should i do?
xoxo<3
hey!! i totally get you. being left out constantly sucks. if i were you, i’d have a conversation with both of them and study how they act about it OR suggest a hangout as a trio and see how they respond or see how they act during the hangout. you’re allowed to be bothered and question it! i hope there can be a solution :)
if you have further questions DM me! happy to help whenever!
I have this “friend” or classmate who I stuck to at the start of the semester because all the other girls in my career were rude or dumb and she was the only normal person there. We got along okay but don’t have a lot of things in common when it comes to various tastes, I when to her birthday party a few moth ago and got sooooo bored cuz her other friends wouldn’t talk so was sitting bored out of my mind, couldn’t eat much of the food (vegetarian), listening to music/conversations I hate and forced to stay cuz it was incredibly far away.
Now, said person is having her gender reveal party, i need to find an excuse to get out it because:
a) she’s been strange lately, isolating herself from our friend group, doesn’t care about tasks or talking to us and when confronted she says “ yeah I know I’m doing it on purpose” and just blames it on sickness or the pregnancy, which she doesn’t want other people finding out.
b) it’s on a Sunday and far away, which makes very inconvenient.
c) same reason as before: don’t like the other people invited, HATE the baby’s father, won’t be able to eat anything, would get bored etc
Can you please help to get out of it, even if I know no longer wish to be close to this person I still don’t want to hurt her feelings.
hi angel!! <33
girl omg i’m so glad you’re not forcing yourself to go out of kindness. it takes a lot of courage to not act on giving into going somewhere you don’t want to be.
you really could use the fact that its far away to your advantage.
a few days leading up to the gender reveal, show signs of a headache, maybe even fake a sore throat, things people can’t visibly see too much. day by day, stay consistent with it and show signs of it worsening just a bit. then the day of, you’ll be good to stay home! call them up and tell them that if you go on the long trip to the party, you’re gonna get carsick and you just can’t risk driving in the state you’re in.
this may be a really old excuse, but trust me when i say it works well! as an introvert, i don’t go to a lot of parties for that reason. just like you in your situation, i feel out of place. i do anything to get out of them too. i usually tell people straight off the bat that i’m not much of a party person.
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