SOME PRACTICAL PHYSICAL TOOLS AND LAST ADVICE TO START THINGS ROLLING FOR THE ‘WANT TO BE’ OR ( WANNABE ) STAGS AND HOTWIVES.
If you are struggling just to have an open dialogue about hotwifing it is probably best to drop it and return to basics. All stag and hotwife relationships must be founded on a sense of enjoyment of just being in the others company, having fun with stuff away from sexuality and a good dose of romance. You will find it difficult to start if this is not right, and even if you do start, without this foundation it will not go right. Be genuinely fun and romantic and you stand the best chance of getting this over the line, a very good chance and even if you don’t you will at least be having a fun and romantic time anyway. Don’t push it, which is unethical and disrespectful. This fanstasy has been in your head for a long time, it is probably new or at least undeveloped for them so give them time. Everybody is entitled to move at their own pace so don’t begin with some of the most extreme stag and hotwife ideas rattling around in your head. That said you too are entitled to pursue your own fantasy and live it out, so here are four practical and hopefully fun things you can do to bring it to fruition.
1. There is an excellent cartoon type book called ‘SEX is FUN’ available on amazon and all good book dealers. It contains a guide to how to ‘role play’ many sexual fantasies for all kinds of people. Right in the middle of the book is a hotwife scenario were couples can act out the fantasy in a very erotic but safe way. The great thing about this book is that it contains so many other sexual fantasies, and that hotwifing is presented (as indeed it should be) as just another sexual fantasy people can have. A couple can read the book together and then most likely pick out two or three fantasies each and then role play them with each other. Hotwifing will not then be such a terrible secret or even considered that odd anymore, and it can be discussed more easily.
2. Most ‘HOTWIFING’ novels and novellas sold online are absolute garbage, badly written with no real story, and many descend into sissy cuckold humiliation stuff rather than stag material.. This is particularly true of Kindle books. There are thankfully some exceptions from this rule and they are mostly printed books. One brilliant example of this is actually two books about the same hotwife story, one written from the perspective of the stag and the other from the perspective of the hotwife, taking their first foray into the lifestyle. They are short books and could be read over day or two but are well crafted and hot as hell. They make a perfect gift for the other half to read if you are trying to get them to take interest. I recommend buying both and the hotwife reading ( Because he’s Watching by Kirsten McCurrran ) and the stag reading ( Ian’s Obsession by Kenny Wright) at the same time. The authors collaborated to create this set of books and I cannot recommend them highly enough.
3. There is a huge almost porn out there pertaining to be hotwife fare. For years the most common stuff was again cuckold humiliation fare, but that had changed and there is far more material now being generated with stag and hotwife themes. The best of these is a movie called ( How to Train a Hotwife, directed by Jacky St James from the New Sensataions, Adult Company). This is a hotwife porn movie made by a female director aimed at women and couples to watch together. I will not ruin the story as there actually is one, which is not always the case with porn. It deals with a normal loving couple exploring the lifestyle. It is extremely erotic and fun at the same time. You can easily find the trailer using google. There is a whole batch of very good hotwife movies from New sensations from the same series (Tales from the Edge) but this one is the best starter hotwife DVD I know about and is really worth the money. You can buy it online or pick it up (or order it) from your local adult store. It only came out in 2015 so it still widely available. It did very well incidentally folks which should tell you something.
4. After all this has been digested by your other half you should go out together and select a suction dildo (That is one that can attach to a wall or headboard). If you are a wannabe hotwife you can select it yourself but if you are a wannabe stag you should really have her along as she will be the one using it in the end. It is obvious how this is used to encourage the hotwife life in the sense of a (male female male threesome) so get in plenty of practice and build the desire. Less obvious is how to create the desire for a hotwife to be with another guy outside a threesome set up. The best solution to this may be to invest in a penis sleeve or extension for the wannabe stag. These are available in sex shops and online in all kinds of shapes and sizes. Even is a stag is well endowed to begin with, he should be able to find one to give him a slightly different shape and if not well endowed he will be much enhanced, hopefully like any future bull. This is best shopped for together and agreed upon together. If it is a hotwife wannabe leading things she will want to express how naughty it feels and if it is a stag leading things he should focus on telling her how good it is to see her fulfilled with something different. After this you have got to start taking things into the real world.
FROM THE PILLOW TO THE REAL WORLD
Some couples will reach a plateau where pillow talk is quite heated and erotic, but if one of the two categorically states it will never proceed beyond that – now what? All you can do is identify the source of that belief and counter it with both logical, realistic responses and consider real world scenarios to prove the point. But if you are ready to go on, it is time for the real world.
Real-world scenarios are those where a couple can dip a toe in the water of sharing without much real risk involved. The cliche idea of the wife getting hit on in a bar is a cliche for a reason: it’s done. A lot. It’s a great way to boost her confidence in being appealing to other men and it helps prove to her that the husband can sit back and effectively manage his jealousy. At the end of the evening – they go home together. Is a wife always going to get hit on when she socializes? Maybe not, that’s life. Remember to manage expectations and enjoy the process (dressing her up in something decidedly sexy, for example), not just the end result. There are still countless variables in this process that I cannot cover here but I am sure you can find some on the tumblr (Stag and Hotwife Games) if you are short on inspiration, or elsewhere online. Short stories provide good ideas for real world too. There is no excuse, use your imagination.
Remember as mentioned above, all successful stag and hotwife relationships are based on a sense of enjoyment of just being in the others company, everyday romance, and just having fun with stuff generally as a couple. hotwifing might be awesome fun but it is only one part of your wider relationship. Be genuinely fun and romantic and you stand the best chance of getting this over the line, a very good chance indeed as this particular fantasy is deep in the human DNA.
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