Dwagon Actually Writes

[dwagon-writes]

Stress factors

So, I just sent in a pre-final version of my MA thesis. 

God I hate those things.

Don’t get me wrong, I love having the possibility and the capability of studying. I love the course I’m doing (which is translation). I love translating and reading about translations, reading translations and even theory about translating (unless the authors of those theoretical pieces really don’t know how to captivate their audience in the slightest). I just hate writing theses. Dissertations. Whatever you want to call them. It is the final obstacle and the only thing left for me to finish and obtain my masters degree. 

You’d think that having handed it in would relieve the stress. But, to be fair, I’m a perfectionist and I am not convinced that I handed in something very good. Which only increases stress levels, because now my brain goes all ‘oh but what if....?’ (which I shouldn’t do, I know, but that’s easier said than done.) 

Anyway, I figured I’d write a post about it and this has multiple reasons: 

1. I love writing, whether it is fiction or not, I love to write.

2. I haven’t been writing in a long time, unfortunately, so I’m trying to get back into it. second day of having this new blog, second post, I think I’m doing okay, so far.

3. getting it out of my system is probably a good idea. I’m sure that somehow the stress will be less, even if only a little, by the time I’m done writing this, because it gets it out of my system and somewhere where it is not constantly in my head. I think it’s a way of letting go. That, and writing can (sometimes) have a very relaxing effect. (unless you’re writing a thesis, then it’s only stressful)

... I thought I could come up with more reasons, but hey, 3 will have to do.

If anyone decides to follow my random ramblings --> be warned, they are random and very rambling, I go all over the place and I don’t guarantee coherent pieces of text as most of the time I’ll just be writing whatever’s on my mind and has to come out. Mostly, though, I’m writing for myself, not for anyone else.

Let’s see if I can remember to post again tomorrow

[dwagon-writes]

Shower thoughts

So, I was in the shower just now and I thought about shaving legs. Not in the sense that I should really shave my legs (although I’m sure some people would think I kinda should…, that’s beside the point), but in the philosophical sense. Why do people shave their legs? Hell, why do I shave my legs?

I came to the conclusion that I shave my legs for one reason: my boyfriend.

Now before all the feminazis jump up and come to early conclusions, shouting ‘That’s oppressive!’ Hold your horses, shut up and read on.

It’s not oppressive at all, and I’ll tell you why. I shave my legs for my boyfriend, but I don’t do it because he asks me to or because he expects me to. He doesn’t. Whenever I shave my legs (which really isn’t very regularly, to be fair) I do it because I choose to do it for him. I make that decision and I do believe he likes it, but he will never ask it of me or expect it of me.

I think that is what feminism is, what freedom is: that choice. The choice to do something that may please someone, but only because you want to do that. If I choose to shave my legs every week, that’s fine. If I choose to do it only once every few months, or hell once a year, that’s fine too. 

[fandomsandfeminism]

1) You shouldn’t use the term “feminazi.” You shouldn’t be calling people nazi unless you are talking about actual nazis. It’s an insensitive and inaccurate comparison. 

2) Have you considered why your boyfriend might want you to shave your legs? Or if he even does? Have you even asked him if he actually cares? Why does his preferences get to influence what happens to your body?

Like you said, your hygiene habits are entirely up to you. Whether or not you shave is your choice, and your feelings about it are valid no matter what, but I think it’s important to examine why we make the choices that we make fully. 

My fiance has never expressed any real opinion whether or not I shaved. He was very supportive when I shopped shaving. If the only reason you are shaving is because you think it is something your boyfriend likes, maybe you should find out whether or not that is something he feels strongly about, and consider what that really means that he has such strong feelings about the way your body is groomed? 

[floralhamster-blog]

Okay but I think she was very clear as to why she shaved her legs do we need to go over that again

[fandomsandfeminism]

Yeah, here’s the thing.The OP boiled down to “Listen up feminists: I spend time, money, and effort altering my body to conform to traditionally gendered beauty norms SOLELY because I think my boyfriend wants me to, not because I personally want to in any way. But that’s ok right? Because I’m choosing to do it.”

And, all I’m saying is that maybe we should examine that logic a little more closely. 

[goneforanhour]

Hey guys…if she is not being forced into it and everyonce in a while she gets the urg to shave her legs because someone she loves appreciates it I think that’s just fine. She doesn’t feel the need to do it every day and there is nor pressure I don’t understand what the argument is here?

[dwagon-writes]

wow, listen up,

I am totally not saying that I am trying to conform to certain beauty standards or whatever, I think women having to shave their legs is total bullshit, what I was trying to say is that I sometimes do it because I want to, and the idea that this may please my boyfriend is an added bonus!

I apologise if I have given offense for the use of the term feminazi, but I was aiming at those who immediately jump up and say that I’m doing something that is seen as oppressive in current society. Those people make me feel ashamed of my actions when I choose (PERSONALLY) to do something that somehow happens to fall within those standards they find oppressing. 

It was my first post on this blog and I realise immediately that I have to be careful how to phrase my opinion, but I also appreciate those who DO seem to have caught on to what I was trying to say, thank you for that. 

[dwagon-writes]

Shower thoughts

So, I was in the shower just now and I thought about shaving legs. Not in the sense that I should really shave my legs (although I’m sure some people would think I kinda should..., that’s beside the point), but in the philosophical sense. Why do people shave their legs? Hell, why do I shave my legs?

I came to the conclusion that I shave my legs for one reason: my boyfriend.

Now before all the feminazis jump up and come to early conclusions, shouting ‘That’s oppressive!’ Hold your horses, shut up and read on.

It’s not oppressive at all, and I’ll tell you why. I shave my legs for my boyfriend, but I don’t do it because he asks me to or because he expects me to. He doesn’t. Whenever I shave my legs (which really isn’t very regularly, to be fair) I do it because I choose to do it for him. I make that decision and I do believe he likes it, but he will never ask it of me or expect it of me.

I think that is what feminism is, what freedom is: that choice. The choice to do something that may please someone, but only because you want to do that. If I choose to shave my legs every week, that’s fine. If I choose to do it only once every few months, or hell once a year, that’s fine too.