It enrages me when *some* "trans women" insist cis women are turned on by their own bodies as a means to explain away autogynephilia. It’s not true overall, is fantasizing, misogynistic, tipping your hand, and is creepy af
Btw, I mean *some* do this. Not all, not even half. In my opinion, if you're a "trans woman" who believes this about females, you're not trans at all, but just a creepy male...
Even many females who wear revealing clothing don’t even get why people find what they’re wearing to be sexual, so why would they be aroused by their own self? I’ve seen this weird idea about female sexuality a few times in different places and it’s assuming something about females that males are espousing when they’re thinking of being females and I find it to be extremely offensive. It’s projecting this fantasy porn version of a female or projecting your own sexuality onto what you think a female is.
This idea of females/cis women being aroused by their own selves is in reaction to people who argue autogynephilia exists, trying to combat the narrative that males who transition sometimes do it in order to satisfy a fetishistic sexual desire to be a woman. They respond by saying “Well cis women feel that way too!”
No. This “argument” literally gives you away that you DO get turned on by the idea of being a woman and is nearly entirely false.
(fyi, I’m not insisting autogynephilia is synonymous with trans women, but showing the premise I’ve seen others responding to this argument)
What happened to the idea of “you know yourself better than anyone else”? It only applies to them and when it applies to only them and they decide to validate their sexual behaviors and feelings by believing they know what cis women are like.
While it may be true for very few females, it isn’t for an overwhelming majority. Usually the only reason she may be turned on by her own self is because she’s purposefully doing something sexy like wearing sexy clothes as a means to get attention or imagining getting sexual attention. She doesn’t look at herself in the mirror and think “wow I’m so turned on by myself rn” and start massaging their breasts in front of a mirror.
No. The only way she thinks that is if she’s thinking of how a man would look at her whom she wants to be attracted to her or anyone who looks at her in general. However, the result of this isn’t usually even being turned on, but just acknowledging that she looks sexy.
If anything, women are subject to the idea of the male gaze which is perfectly described by Margaret Atwood:
“…unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”
And by “voyeur” she doesn’t mean the woman is herself looking at herself, how women are constantly unconsciously aware of how males will perceive them in every way in life that she’s seeing herself through the lens of a male. That no matter what a woman does, it’s a fantasy of a male… which has been exemplified by males who say they’re turned on by simply donning women’s clothing or putting on nail polish… females are not turned on by that kind of thing in any way.
Most trans women cannot fully comprehend this male gaze because they’ve lived much of their lives being perceived as men, or, in some cases, are still perceived as so, and not being desired or objectified by the larger population of straight men, especially when young. (*Some* trans women aay they want to be objectified and such in this way and that is also disgusting) Also, especially if they’re attracted to females, they too have become accustomed to being the enactor of the male gaze.
It’s so misogynistic for *some* trans women to misappropriate female sexual behaviors, assume this sort of sexual behavior about females, and tell them they’re wrong about their own sexuality in order to combat the idea of autogynephilia!
It’s a narcissistic misogynist inversion of what you think a female should be…
Please think about what you’re saying on behalf of cis women, don’t just assume, and don’t use that as a way to tell people you’re not an autogynephile, which gives you away that you DO get turned on by the idea of being a woman. Sorry not sorry. Stop being creepy and stop telling females what their sexuality is.
