Philosophical Musings

Balance and moderation is Key. Everyone is Non-Binary. Libra. Neurodivergent. Half Korean. Female. My pronouns don't matter. Bisexual. Feminist. Transsexual Ally. No political affiliation. Moderate.Mostly liberal ideals, but not all. Crusader of Truth and Beauty~ Here I shall write my thoughts on life, living, philosophy, and human nature. I wish to document that I have these thoughts and that I wish to show that I am hopefully more than merely what I did physically in life.

[eccentricphilosoph]

It enrages me when *some* "trans women" insist cis women are turned on by their own bodies as a means to explain away autogynephilia. It’s not true overall, is fantasizing, misogynistic, tipping your hand, and is creepy af

Btw, I mean *some* do this. Not all, not even half. In my opinion, if you're a "trans woman" who believes this about females, you're not trans at all, but just a creepy male...

Even many females who wear revealing clothing don’t even get why people find what they’re wearing to be sexual, so why would they be aroused by their own self? I’ve seen this weird idea about female sexuality a few times in different places and it’s assuming something about females that males are espousing when they’re thinking of being females and I find it to be extremely offensive. It’s projecting this fantasy porn version of a female or projecting your own sexuality onto what you think a female is.

This idea of females/cis women being aroused by their own selves is in reaction to people who argue autogynephilia exists, trying to combat the narrative that males who transition sometimes do it in order to satisfy a fetishistic sexual desire to be a woman. They respond by saying “Well cis women feel that way too!”

No. This “argument” literally gives you away that you DO get turned on by the idea of being a woman and is nearly entirely false.

(fyi, I’m not insisting autogynephilia is synonymous with trans women, but showing the premise I’ve seen others responding to this argument)

What happened to the idea of “you know yourself better than anyone else”? It only applies to them and when it applies to only them and they decide to validate their sexual behaviors and feelings by believing they know what cis women are like.

While it may be true for very few females, it isn’t for an overwhelming majority. Usually the only reason she may be turned on by her own self is because she’s purposefully doing something sexy like wearing sexy clothes as a means to get attention or imagining getting sexual attention. She doesn’t look at herself in the mirror and think “wow I’m so turned on by myself rn” and start massaging their breasts in front of a mirror.

No. The only way she thinks that is if she’s thinking of how a man would look at her whom she wants to be attracted to her or anyone who looks at her in general. However, the result of this isn’t usually even being turned on, but just acknowledging that she looks sexy.

If anything, women are subject to the idea of the male gaze which is perfectly described by Margaret Atwood:

“…unconscious of the ever-present watcher peering through the keyhole, peering through the keyhole in your own head, if nowhere else. You are a woman with a man inside watching a woman. You are your own voyeur.”

And by “voyeur” she doesn’t mean the woman is herself looking at herself, how women are constantly unconsciously aware of how males will perceive them in every way in life that she’s seeing herself through the lens of a male. That no matter what a woman does, it’s a fantasy of a male… which has been exemplified by males who say they’re turned on by simply donning women’s clothing or putting on nail polish… females are not turned on by that kind of thing in any way.

Most trans women cannot fully comprehend this male gaze because they’ve lived much of their lives being perceived as men, or, in some cases, are still perceived as so, and not being desired or objectified by the larger population of straight men, especially when young. (*Some* trans women aay they want to be objectified and such in this way and that is also disgusting) Also, especially if they’re attracted to females, they too have become accustomed to being the enactor of the male gaze.

It’s so misogynistic for *some* trans women to misappropriate female sexual behaviors, assume this sort of sexual behavior about females, and tell them they’re wrong about their own sexuality in order to combat the idea of autogynephilia!

It’s a narcissistic misogynist inversion of what you think a female should be…

Please think about what you’re saying on behalf of cis women, don’t just assume, and don’t use that as a way to tell people you’re not an autogynephile, which gives you away that you DO get turned on by the idea of being a woman. Sorry not sorry. Stop being creepy and stop telling females what their sexuality is.

[frostedmagnolias]

Cobalt Silk Evening Gown

1820s

Augusta Auctions

[frostedmagnolias]

Dress

c. 1898

by Miss K. Cunningham, Montreal

McCord Stewart Museum Montreal

[eccentricphilosoph]

Marsha P. Johnson was not the first person to rise up at the Stonewall Riots, but it was black butch lesbian drag king Stormé DeLarverie

Marsha P Johnson was not the first person to throw a brick at Stonewall and she didn't identify as transgender. She has gone on record about the Stonewall Riots saying:

"I was uptown and didn't get downtown until about two o’clock. When I got downtown, the place was already on fire, and there was a raid already."

She has also gone on record about her identity as a man saying:

“I’m still a man. I’m still a transvestite. I’m still a drag queen. That’s how I started out and that’s how I’m going to be.” “Darling, I’m not a woman. I’m not a woman, you know. I’m a boy.”

Please stop spreading lies that are attempting to rewrite LGBT history.

Storme DeLarverie was a black butch lesbian who threw the first punch. Lesbians matter, butch lesbians matter, black lesbians matter, and lesbians, not just gay men, were also at the front lines of liberation and deserve recognition, not be replaced by trans women in a rewritten history. This is nothing against trans women, but rewriting history has no place in activism to essentially replace a black butch lesbian with a trans woman for a pivotal moment in LGBT history. It takes away the contributions that a black butch lesbian drag king made for the LGBT.

Not to mention, a "transvestite" was synonymous with "crossdresser" in that time. Marsha said many times she was a "queen" or "transvestite", never a "trans woman". Crossdressers and street queens are a valid form of expression in the LGBT and can be completely separate from the inner identity of "trans". For example, we don't call Ellen Degeneres "trans" just because she crossdresses.

This attempt to rewrite history undermines the true story of the Stonewall riots and erases the voices and identities of those who were integral to the original LGBT movement.

[eccentricphilosoph]

Attractive women are also very discriminated against in the workplace. Period. What conventionally attractive women are seen in serious professions (aside from medical)?

Being attractive as a woman is only good if you want to leverage it to manipulate men to fall for you or any other front facing job which is pretty much the same idea. I say this living as a woman for 35 years and now trying to follow a career in design. Not once have I ever gotten a leg up in work due to my appearance. It’s been the opposite. I can sense people who are in charge of hiring take me less seriously and I’m a very professional person and I dress professionally always and I work hard and smart. In fact, I knew a beautiful Muslim girl who straight told me she wore a hijab so she would be taken seriously as a scientist. She recognizes this too… I also wonder when I was denied (more like a “yeah sure” with no follow up or enthusiasm) even showing a gay man within a company I worked for my work, that he didn’t want to hire a woman that would upstage him with beauty and dressing nice. He was definitely the type that cared more about his reputation than anything. Not for nothing, no one talks of the extreme biases gay men have against women either!

If anything, being attractive makes women dislike and be jealous of you, it makes people think you’re less than you are, people think pretty people are dumb, men are too intimidated by you to try to date you, men who do like you just often time end up using you because of your looks, etc.

No knock on women in the sciences or in design, but when was the last time you saw women like that who looked like they could be an actress or model in these industries??

If you feel this too, please tell me your story.

If you’re a woman who unintentionally got a leg up in the workplace because of her looks, please tell me your story.

[eccentricphilosoph]

No. Unicorn hunting, especially just saying it in a FB group like this, is not ok.

First, you don’t say you’re looking for a partner in a FB group unrelated to dating, especially when it’s your first post. This is pathetic and creepy and obviously unhealthy.

It’s not inherently wrong to have a triad, but the problems do end up often falling on the third party almost every time while the existing couple maintains their relationship and dignity. It’s so wrong. If things don’t work out with just one of the people, the third party will take the fall and be left alone. There’s a reason it’s called “unicorn hunting”. It’s not positive to look for someone to be with you and your partner like that in this manner. Ntm, it’s almost ALWAYS someone looking for women, which I find sexist. It’s also so rare not only for sex, but even MORE rare for a relationship. Unicorn hunting carries an assumption that this person will like both of you enough to be in a deep relationship with you both and carries the connotation that the person will be somewhat like a pet or child who will give you both love. It’s a lot to expect from any normal human being, even someone who is polyamorous and bisexual at the same time.

The ONLY time that happened with me was by accident to be with a couple when I was at a convention and met a couple, who weren’t even unicorn hunters, where I just so happened to end up liking both of them, BUT I didn’t date them because they were very co-dependent despite being polyamorous.

It’s not a good look to go making statements like this and actively hunt. Never do this. Never set out hoping any and every girl, even poly ones, (or person, if you’re not the couple above) that you like will be more than likely willing to do this with you and your partner.

In my experience, anyone who is unicorn hunting actively is selfish and unstable as a couple and I’ve been told to be wary of them by others too.

[the1920sinpictures]

1926 c. Wedding portrait of an Argentinian Couple. From Art Deco and Art Nouveau, FB.

[the1920sinpictures]

1926 c. Bride in full regalia. From Ask History, FB.

[eccentricphilosoph]

Marsha P. Johnson was not the first person to rise up at the Stonewall Riots, but it was black butch lesbian drag king Stormé DeLarverie

Marsha P Johnson was not the first person to throw a brick at Stonewall and she didn't identify as transgender. She has gone on record about the Stonewall Riots saying:

"I was uptown and didn't get downtown until about two o’clock. When I got downtown, the place was already on fire, and there was a raid already."

She has also gone on record about her identity as a man saying:

“I’m still a man. I’m still a transvestite. I’m still a drag queen. That’s how I started out and that’s how I’m going to be.” “Darling, I’m not a woman. I’m not a woman, you know. I’m a boy.”

Please stop spreading lies that are attempting to rewrite LGBT history.

Storme DeLarverie was a black butch lesbian who threw the first punch. Lesbians matter, butch lesbians matter, black lesbians matter, and lesbians, not just gay men, were also at the front lines of liberation and deserve recognition, not be replaced by trans women in a rewritten history. This is nothing against trans women, but rewriting history has no place in activism to essentially replace a black butch lesbian with a trans woman for a pivotal moment in LGBT history. It takes away the contributions that a black butch lesbian drag king made for the LGBT.

Not to mention, a "transvestite" was synonymous with "crossdresser" in that time. Marsha said many times she was a "queen" or "transvestite", never a "trans woman". Crossdressers and street queens are a valid form of expression in the LGBT and can be completely separate from the inner identity of "trans". For example, we don't call Ellen Degeneres "trans" just because she crossdresses.

This attempt to rewrite history undermines the true story of the Stonewall riots and erases the voices and identities of those who were integral to the original LGBT movement.

[eccentricphilosoph]

Attractive women are also very discriminated against in the workplace. Period. What conventionally attractive women are seen in serious professions (aside from medical)?

Being attractive as a woman is only good if you want to leverage it to manipulate men to fall for you or any other front facing job which is pretty much the same idea. I say this living as a woman for 35 years trying to follow a career in design. Not once have I ever gotten a leg up in work due to my appearance. It’s been the opposite. I can sense people who are in charge of hiring take me less seriously and I’m a very professional person and I dress professionally always and I work hard and smart. In fact, I knew a beautiful Muslim girl who straight told me she wore a hijab so she would be taken seriously as a scientist. She recognizes this too… I also wonder when I was denied (more like a “yeah sure” with no follow up or enthusiasm) even showing a gay man within a company I worked for my work, that he didn’t want to hire a woman that would upstage him with beauty and dressing nice. He was definitely the type that cared more about his reputation than anything. Not for nothing, no one talks of the extreme biases gay men have against women either!

If anything, being attractive makes women dislike and be jealous, it makes people think you’re less than you are, people think pretty people are dumb, men are too intimidated by you to try to date you, men who do like you just often time end up using you because of your looks, etc.

No knock on women in the sciences or in design, but when was the last time you saw women like that who look like they could be an actress or model??

If you feel this too, please tell me your story.

If you’re a woman who unintentionally got a leg up in the workplace because of her looks, please tell me your story.

[the-almost-fashion-historian]

evening dress, 1910-12 by unknown designer

this dress is made of silk, decorated with metal embroidery and glass beads

this dress can be found in: the National Museum of Norway

[recycledmoviecostumes]

The above gown – a creation of crystal drops connected by metal rings- was a part of Prada’s Spring/Summer 2010 Runway Collection. It was look number 33, to be precise.   Several years later, when Baz Luhrmann began working on his 2013 adaptation of 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑮𝒓𝒆𝒂𝒕 𝑮𝒂𝒕𝒔𝒃𝒚, his wife and long-time collaborator and costume designer, Catherine Martin, began work on the costumes. While Martin designed and made many of the film’s costumes herself with her team in Australia, she also decided to collaborate on a few of the pieces with Prada and Miu Miu. After choosing the Prada crystal dress, later dubbed “The Chandelier Dress,” a soft pink gown was added underneath the drops, and a bow was added at the front to be worn by Carey Mulligan as Daisy Buchanan.   In 2021, the Chandelier Dress was most recently pulled by Lorenzo Posocco, stylist to singer Dua Lipa, for use in her music video 𝑾𝒆’𝒓𝒆 𝑮𝒐𝒐𝒅, where it can be seen being worn backward from the 𝑮𝒂𝒕𝒔𝒃𝒚 design.   Learn more about this piece at Bit.ly/PostEd210  

[recycledmoviecostumes]

This doublet is a great example of how high-definition television has transformed what audiences can see on screen. Every stitch, trim, and texture is now visible, pushing makeup artists, set designers, and costume designers to elevate their craft and focus on even the smallest details.   In 2016, this richly detailed piece was worn by Timothy Omundson as King Richard in 𝑮𝒂𝒍𝒂𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕, where the clarity of HD truly showcased its smaller details.   But that’s not where it began its life! Several years earlier, it appeared on Henry Cavill as Charles Brandon in the third season of 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑻𝒖𝒅𝒐𝒓𝒔.   The piece likely originated with Benedick Blythe as Phoebus in the 1997 television production of 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑯𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒉𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌 𝒐𝒇 𝑵𝒐𝒕𝒓𝒆 𝑫𝒂𝒎𝒆 (also known simply as 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑯𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒉𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌).   Interestingly, while the craftsmanship was always there, it’s far more difficult to appreciate with the lower resolution of 𝑻𝒉𝒆 𝑯𝒖𝒏𝒄𝒉𝒃𝒂𝒄𝒌. It isn’t until 𝑮𝒂𝒍𝒂𝒗𝒂𝒏𝒕, with its crisp high-definition image, that the full detailing of the doublet truly comes into view—revealing just how much care and detail went into creating this remarkable costume.

[frostedmagnolias]

Afternoon Dress

c. 1900-1903

by Jacques Doucet

The Metropolitan Museum of Art

[eccentricphilosoph]

Another reason we struggle finding good jobs is because people would rather like us on a personal level than for us to be the best at our jobs as long as we are nice people and easy to get along with in general. It’s not enough. Higher ups have to personally like us to want to hire us or give us a promotion

(This is especially true for people who are neurodivergent who may even be better for the job than every other candidate, but because they’re socially awkward they won’t be chosen over someone who is more likable with less credentials… it’s so obvious when clearly incompetent people become managers… in many ways, it is a subtle form of discrimination against people who are ND…)

[mahgnib]

Carl Huns, “Portrait of a Lady in Blue”, 1873

[history-of-fashion]

1900-1901 Nikolai Bogdanov-Belsky - Portrait of Princess Maria Abamelek-Lazareva

(State Hermitage Museum)