This Is Where I Reblog Everything

Find me at @effielives @effiewrites @ballym and @ballumbigbang

[pinkflamingllama]

Shoutout to, like, 14 year old me who thought he was bi cause he felt 0 attraction to men and 0 attraction to women and 0=0 which is equal attraction THEREFORE I was surely equally attracted to both men and women and, thus, bisexual, thank you for coming to my tedtalk

[angry-acehole-for-positivity]

Fun Fact! Back in the Olden Days, the bisexual community welcomed asexuals for this exact reason!

[biandaceunite]

[effiethingelse]

This is the whole ass narrative of my script (and also my tween years)

[effiethingelse]

I have just finished the first draft of my ecp!! I’m a capable young girl who is going places!!

[effiethingelse]

Oh me oh my ladsssss

I have officially only got 4 pages left on my ECP, then one more 2k essay, and then it’s like...finished? I’ve been complaining for a year and it’s like almost...done??????

[effiethingelse]

I can’t believe I just worked out how to do an arrow omg -> -> -> -> how cool

[strangertaylor]

Introduction

Hi there! This is my first post since revamping my blog to reflect my new outlook, and I’m really excited to introduce myself to the community!

My name is Effie, and I'm a 21 year old student currently studying in Winchester, UK. I plan to use this blog to explore my interest in healthy (and not so healthy) food, books, fitness and just life in general! Recently I've found that writing down my thoughts has really helped me manifest my goals, and so I think putting my thoughts out there in the world might give me the push to actually do something about them.

I’m really looking to make some friends here, so please pop up and say hi!

- Effie x

[effiethingelse]

go follow my new blog!!

[effiethingelse]

I just deleted 14 old blogs and changed my url

✨she’s thriving✨

effietalksutterbollocks -> effiethingelse

(that’s cute right!!)

So now u can ONLY find me here, @effielives, @effiewrites and @ballym (and @ballumbigbang if that counts lol)

anywayssssss I’m a vegetarian now and I own more than one highlighter. I also have less than a month to write 12 pages for my diss and I’m STILL in love w my best friend hahah how’s ur day going x

[comingoutofthecauldron]

stop telling your teenage daughters who say they don’t want kids that they’ll change their mind

[weirdqueeraltkid-deactivated202]

reblog the shit outta this

[morriganwarrior]

I haven’t been a teenager in over a decade. Mind has yet to change on the subject.

At 14, I told my guidance counselor that I didn’t want kids. He chuckled, patted me on the back, and informed me that when I got a little older, and I was with a guy, I would change my mind.

At 16, my grandmother nearly had a heart attack because of her three granddaughters, myself and the youngest agreed we didn’t want to uave babies. Ever.

At 17, my father asked about my life plan. I told him: graduate high school, get my college degree, do some traveling and writing, go for this particular job I wanted, retired around X age, take month-long vacations to places I wanted to spend time in, etc. He asked, “What about a husband? Children? Normal things a girl is supposed to think about?” My response- a husband if a man came along that could share an adventure with me, kids were a No Go. He assured me I would ‘grow up’ qnd change my mind.

At 19, I shocked my former babysitter who had known me since I was a toddler, when I confirmed the rumour she’d heard that I didn’t want kids. She patted my mom’s arm and reassured her in a sweet voice that, “Don’t worry, girls say a lot of silly things before they meet the right fella, and wise up. She’ll give you grand babies”

At 22, I was talking to a college professor who chuckled at my making a comment about how, “thank goodness I’m never going to have to worry about juggling child rearing eith marriage, work, and life”, then she realized I was serious. She asked if I was alright, thinking I could-not (not didn’t-want) kids. I told her the truth, could have but didn’t want to. She was aghast, then told me that I’d change my mind when my husband wanted some kids.

Well, I’m over 30, still have absolutely no desire to give birth, adopt, raise, or have much of anything to do with children. I don’t hate children, I don’t think people who have them are crazy (more power to you, to create and/or care for another person), and I don’t think it’s impossible to have a life AND have children. I recognized at an early age that I don’t have that biological imperative to procreate, I don’t have the patience to deal with children (something that has shown very little improvement as I’ve gotten older, in fact it might be getting worse), and I don’t feel my life is incomplete without creating another life- I am good with living my own and doing my best to enrich the lives of those I care about (I try my best to be a good friend, to be a good sister, good daughter, good pet-owner, and a good person in general).

So please, please stop telling girls (or really kids at all, but especially girls) that they will change their minds. Please don’t tell them that meeting ‘the right guy’ will make them suddenly feel broody, that their potential future husband’s desire to have children will make her reconsider and see things his way. For one, a couple should have had that conversation and decided if it was a deal breaker, LONG before they got hitched. For another, it’s her body that gets to grow and birth another human being- her husband’s desire to be a father doesn’t supercede her autonomy.

Please, let girls make their own choices? Girls are forced to mature too fast as it is and are bombarded from all sides with SHOULD (you SHOULD be a size 2, you SHOULD wear this dress, you SHOULD have a boyfriend to be a normal teen, you SHOULD always smile), they don’t need another judgement from someone who hasn’t walked a mile in their particular shoes. Respect teenage girls and their ability to look at the world, themselves, their situation, and their future, and make an important choice.

*gets off soap box, slides it back under the sofa, lets out a sigh*

Thanks for attending my TED talk. G'night.

[gay-otlc]

And also? Even if she does change her mind later in life? Why are you disregarding her opinion now because that opinion might change later?

If your daughter says she doesn’t want kids, if you act all condescending and completely ignore her, that isn’t going to make her more likely to have kids! If she gets older and decides she wants kids, she might be hesitant to actually have kids because she doesn’t want to hear I told you so or because the way you disregard her opinions has permanently tainted the idea of having kids.

But if your daughter says she doesn’t want kids and you say “Okay, sounds good,” she’ll know that she has your support for her future and if she later says “Actually, I do want kids,” she’ll know that you’ll be just as happy and supportive, and therefore more willing and more enthusiastic about the prospect of having kids.

Or maybe she’ll still think “No, I don’t want kids,” but now she won’t resent you for not believing her when she voices her opinions.

Yes, opinions can sometimes change. No, that doesn’t give you the right to disregard anyone’s opinion now.

[lynati]

When I was eight I can remember thinking something along the lines of, “If I ever change my mind and decide I *do* want a kid, I’ll just adopt one, because being pregnant seems really creepy.”

Luckily for me I didn’t grow up with adults (not my parents, not my teachers) saying the above kind of bullshit. The few times the topic came up, the worst I got was a, “Oh! Really? Huh.”

I’m so sorry for all of you who’ve had to put up with being treated like you’re a baby factory who just hasn’t realized it yet. - _ -

I still haven’t changed my mind, either. And the longer I’ve lived in this world, the more assured I become that NOT bringing another life into it was absolutely the correct decision.

[effiethingelse]

And for the flip side of the coin (about disregarding how kids feel) I, a 21 year old say I don’t want kids, and adults respond “but you always played with dolls and wanted kids when you were eight!” Proving that adults only care about your opinion if it is in line with theirs xoxo

[effiewrites]

First Day of My Life

READ ON AO3

Based off of one of the bulled points on my long list of things I thought about 911, I wrote a short scene where Eddie asks Buck to dance, at Maddie and Chim’s wedding. Idk you might not like it sos I haven’t written for Buddie before but I just really love them.

Words: 1284

Wisteria hung low from the ceiling, creating an intimate space in what was normally a harsh-lit, lino tiled Rec Centre. Buck tried to remember if they’d ever had a call from there, but decided that all community spaces looked too similar for him to differentiate, and if there had been an accident, then there would have probably been some renovating anyway.  

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[effiethingelse]

Hey guys just checking in to let you know I’ve fallen in love w my best friend again someone tell me how to make it stop

[samwinchsters]

[briebradys]

[effiethingelse]

anyone have a links to s04ep01 of 9-1-1? Am from the UK and need to watch asap haha

[effiethingelse]

I cannot believe that I think it just clicked with me what Louis meant when he said he liked girls who ate carrots 😟 and I mean I’m proper og I voted for 1d on xfactor jc

[yo-daddys-my-bitch]

May the 10 of Pentacles bless your account with more money than you can spend. 💵✨

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

10 of Pentz came thruuu

[violaslayvis]

Omg this actually works!!! Thank you 10 of Pentacles!!!

[borkdork]

I could seriously use this money right now….

[ashashi-corner]

Please give me my refund of 400$ soon…

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

I feel obligated to reblog this every time it shows up in my dash

[hermes-is-my-homeboy]

No bragging, just 100% floored and grateful. Work hard, maintain a positive attitude, and believe that anything can happen.

[mchashimi]

So I reblogged this exactly a week ago because I thought it was funny and uh lo and behold, a family friend wrote me a big ol’ check just to help me out of a tough financial spot AND my bank refunded me $32 for fees they’d originally taken out. SO UH YEAH. Reblogging this again in hopes that it brings equally good fortune to my followers.

[penprp]

Sure why not? Jobs bring in money and prosperity…

[leradny]

I NEED TO FIX MY CAR DOOR

[getlostpeeves]

It fucking WORKED.

[kezia-kawaii]

give me money

i can’t afford to breathe

[mercury-kid]

i need to fix my whole life please

[effiethingelse]

I need to make rent

[effiethingelse]

Today I had a conversation with a person I liked where I told them I liked them and they said that they think they like me and it was very surreal because every relationship I’ve ever been in has been so hard and caused me so much pain and today I told my friend of seven years that I liked them and they were like, yeah I’m glad you said that like -

Is this what healthy relationships are supposed to look like??

[followsthesparks]

do not ignore this

our momentum is slowing down. we can’t let our dashes go back to normal when the world is not normal. so, if you are reading this, you are ~legally~ obligated to choose 2 numbers below; you must complete the task of those two numbers today. don’t pretend you didn’t see this. either do them right now or set a reminder to get it done before the sun goes down. the timer starts now. choose two. 

sign some petitions. LINK HERE. if change.org hasn’t accused you of being a bot yet, you haven’t signed enough. 

watch this youtube video. LINK HERE. do not skip the ads. this is a way to help raise money without having to donate any.

sign up to get daily actions. LINK HERE. after filling out the form, you will receive texts Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays telling you what action to take. (i got this link from @ wp4bl on instagram)

text or call for any of these victims. LINK HERE. this website is extremely helpful, well organized, and practically does all of the work for you.

donate some money. LINK HERE. if you have any more money to spare, please donate it to one of these funds.

follow every single one of these organizations on social media: blcklivesmatter, colorofchange, reclaimtheblock, showingupforracialjustice, and civilrightsorg

post these important sources to your social media. LINK HERE. you have no idea who it might help. 

read this article and forward it to at least one person. LINK HERE. 

watch this video explaining the racial wealth gap. LINK HERE. it’s really informative and only about 15 minutes long. 

do some reading. LINK HERE. this link has a ton of great resources to educate yourself. read at least one.