hii How do you think that i can be as confident as Effy, cause i've got a low self-steem and i want to have more attitude and confidence. BTW, i love your blog❤
Thank you so much! First things first is that gaining confidence takes hella time. It’s not something that happens overnight, so try your best to be patient and kind to yourself. Personally, I used to have no self esteem whatsoever, so trust me when I say that you are not alone! But as I grew up I developed both physically and mentally, and with that development came confidence. I answered a question like this a while ago and I still really stick to everything I wrote here:
I’ve always heard people say fake it till you make it, meaning that you fake having confidence to the point you actually start to feel confident. I’ve tried it and it doesn’t work for me because in my mind it doesn’t feel genuine. But many other people claim it has worked for them, so I don’t see the harm in trying it.
Effy is just the type of person to not give a fuck what people think. And for people like myself, that isn’t as easily done. But you have to keep training your mind to remember to stop comparing yourself to others because everyone is on a different journey in life and someone else’s beauty isn’t the absence of your own. I think everyone who follows me on here and myself need to firstly stop comparing ourselves with Effy. I understand her allure and why everyone wants to be confident like her. But she also had a ton of other shit that was going on in her life. Which just goes to show that you shouldn’t compare yourself to anyone because you don’t know what really is going on in their life. They may seem to be confident on the outside but may actually be hurt inside.
Here are some little things you can do to boost your confidence:
-Wear clothes that make you feel good.
-Set up small, realistic goals everyday. Once you accomplish them, you will feel more confident in your abilities.
-Eating healthy and exercise. I know this piece of advice is seriously a broken record, but it’s true. You feel like crap when you eat crap. And exercise is good for you physically and mentally (endorphins are key).
-Do something you are afraid of. I know this one sounds strange. But you can do something as small as following someone you think is cute on instagram or ordering your own food. Once you do something that scares you (even if it doesn’t work out the way you wanted) you’ll see how it wasn’t as big of a deal you made it out to be. And you’ll feel a rush of confidence after doing it.
Life’s too short to be worrying about what other people think of you or to be over-analyzing yourself. No one is as harsh on you as you are. Gaining confidence is tough, but if you work hard at it you will gain it. And remember no one is confident 100% of the time, even Effy.
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