Parenting is hard. Period.Ā
Now add, trying to grow a business, having a regular job, going to school, doing homework, being a wife and finding time for yourself to make sure you donāt go bat **** crazy.
Impossible. 99% of the time itās impossible.Ā
But I try to do it anyway...... Crazy right.
My son is 6. i only have one child. And right now and for the foreseeable future thatās all I can handle. Especially with a very strong willed, very intelligent kid like him. I donāt want to expect too much of him but then again I want him to be the best so I HAVE to push him. Itās a constant struggle between trying to be the parent that raises a member of this society who is productive and progressive even though society is going to hell in a hand basket and just giving up and letting him do what he wants.
There are days....Most days....that I feel way too exhausted for discipline.Ā
Discipline is hard. For the kids and the parents. My parents (as Iām sure a lot of our parents out there) have saidĀ āthis hurts me more than it hurts youā and its true. Itās absolutely true. Like you KNOW you have to draw the line so that they learn that there are boundaries and so that they respect rules (to an extent) but it takes so much work.
With that being said, my son has gotten into thisĀ ābeing sneaky and lyingā stage.Ā
I will NOT stand for that. I WILL NOT.
Because of my hectic schedule there are a few people who help me with my child and (as I explained to him) I have to be able to trust him and trust that he is going to do the right thing. I cannot go to school for 16 hours a week (8 hours for two days) and work extra hours so that my paycheck isnāt short without being able to trust him.
And he has just been struuuuuuugling with it....to say the least.Ā
So my church has this conference this weekend. 250 out of town people will be here....so of course Iām running around like crazy preparing because this is my last day in the office until the first day of the conference (because of school) and there is so much I have to do.Ā
All I asked him to do is shred some stuff for me. Side note: my boss is my dad, my dad is a pastor and a bishop therefore my schedule is really flexible and allows me to go to school etc. Anyway my dad had all of this stuff he needed shredded and I was down to one last box (I started with 4). I asked my son to shred while I went to pick up the booklet programs I made for the conference this weekend from the printers. Something he had done before (he had helped me shred two of the other boxes so he knew how to do it). When I got back - he was no where near the shredder. When I found him he was with some of the other staff members, which told me that he had said he was done doing what I told him to do - which he didnāt.Ā
i was tired. (still am) I was hot (well at least Iām not hot anymore). And it had already been a stressful week.
I swiftly grabbed him and we went upstairs to the second building where my office is - I smacked him on the behind once (JUST ONCE) really hard, sat him in the chair and told him not to get up until what I told him to finish was done. Then I went about my business. Like I said I got crap to do.
Then I get a text from my mom after I left (Side Note: she runs a nonprofit out of the downstairs building of the church) and she said that some of the staff was concerned at how I grabbed my child.
Wait....Who....What? HUH?
Your STAFF who DOESNT KNOW ME
DOESNT KNOW HOW MANY TIMES MY SON TRIED ME THAT DAY
DOESNT KNOW HOW MANY CHANCES HE HAD ALREADY GOTTEN
I was (and still am as Iām sure you can tell) flabbergasted.Ā
They saw ONE disciplinary interaction that I HAD WITH MY CHILD. And they are CONCERNED?Ā
Please get a life and leave mine alone.Ā
I am a mom who is and always has been stretched (and probably always will be) ENTIRELY TOO thin all of the time and then is still EXPECTED to give more...MORE....after all of that.
but guess what? GO AHEAD AND GUESS......
EVERYBODY needs to be snatched up every now and then.
I didnāt leave a bruise....I grabbed him arm...not his face...not his head....not dragged him down the hall by the foot.....his arm...HIS UPPER ARM AT THAT.
It really bothers me when people pass judgement on parents who donāt deserve it. Yes there are some actual BAD parents out there.
so DO NOT judge me OR how I discipline my child. ESPECIALLY when you arenāt a parent.
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