your empathy doesn't control you

you deserve happiness.

[srirachamami]

Playing small will not serve you, look as good as you want, take up the space you need and be whoever you want to be

[empathysuggestion]

a reminder that you are allowed to do something for yourself even if you are worried about what people might think. your capacity to grow doesn’t need to be hindered by what you fear people will perceive. empathy often times centers the feelings of others rather than your own, it’s okay to center yourself for a change

[empathysuggestion]

turn ordinary moments into precious ones, allow yourself to believe you’re special

[empathysuggestion]

hi everyone, I hope you’re doing well, no matter where you’re at in you’re life or your recovery I hope you can have a moment today to be happy you’re here

[empathysuggestion]

a previous version of yourself would thank you a million times over for getting you to your current self

[empathysuggestion]

you deserve so much more than what you believe you do

[empathysuggestion]

even though your progress may have regressed, or stress and worry may have replaced some of your happiness, this doesn’t mean that life will never be as good as it was once before. looking back and wishing you were there will only leave your present self nostalgic and heart-sore

[empathysuggestion]

It is okay to cherish the memories, but move on from the person. don’t latch on because of history. and do not give them the power to tarnish positive experiences.

[bakwaaas]

After a period of sadness, happiness doesn’t jump into your life. it grows back slowly in the crevasses of your soul, like small plants which sprout in cracked concrete; it creeps softly up to you until eventually it’s walking by your side, so quietly you barely even notice.

[empathysuggestion]

in some capacity, you are loved. someone loves the comment you made on their dress, someone loves the way you smile, or the way you laugh, or the way you say a certain word. when your name is said, it is never met without some sort of love

[empathysuggestion]

It's so exhausting to be so empathetic and always see the bad in the world. I feel like I'm always fighting. And I don't even know who am I fighting against.

there’s no one that you’re fighting. your empathy makes it so you feel like you’re fighting other people’s battles and struggles and hardships. you need to remember that you can only fight your own battles, and you cannot adopt other’s, intentionally or not. I know that this is exhausting but you will start feeling so much relief when you eventually learn to stop soaking up the negativity of others. if you need to, please see a therapist or someone that can give you professional advice because they can do so much more to help than I can, and it’s helped with my own hyper-empathy too.

[empathysuggestion]

just letting you guys know that I will answer asks publicly unless you ask me not to!

[empathysuggestion]

Hi, I just need someone to talk to and I love your acc so here I am! I'm trying to play college soccer and I've had offers, but none from schools I'd actually want to go to. All the schools I want to go to have sent me rejection letters and it's just getting so tiring hearing rejection after rejection and I'm tired of being tired. I don't know what to do because I'm working so so hard and my parents have invested tons of money into this and I don't want to let them down. What are your thoughts?x

hi! deciding on a college is a really tough decision and I recently went through that process so I really understand how much pressure it causes. hard work, really unfortunately, sometimes doesn’t pay off. what might be the best choice is to go to a school that you may not like, but that you could survive going to for a year or two, and then transfer. work just and hard and even harder and just try again. make sure all of your credits will transfer between schools and you’ll be on a great track :) rejection doesn’t mean that you can’t ever go to that college, it’s just a frustrating setback that happens and that can be worked through. and I promise that your parents won’t be disappointed by someone who works so hard. 

good luck :)

[empathysuggestion]

sorry for the bother... how can i increase my empathy? it would be so beautiful to go off myself and learn to be more selfless...

selflessness depends more on sympathy rather than empathy! and the levels of empathy we have most times is what we were born with. but you can widen your sense of sympathy! be aware of the people around you and their emotions and be an open person. let people talk to you if they need to, become more in tune with your own emotions, reach out to people who you know are struggling, just make sure you’re not draining yourself by extending more of yourself than what can reach :)

[empathysuggestion]

How to genuinely be happy and not always be in a bad mood all the time ? I always complain about things I don't have ...I've been praying and meditating since March I've got some results but I want more

hi there! it takes a lot of time to become genuinely happy and one of the first things that needs to happen is to be mindful of when you’re comparing yourself to others. when you do that you can feel like you’re unsatisfied and it can create a negative mindset where it’s always you versus someone else rather than you and your personal improvement. results will happen! it just takes time and effort :)

[heartcountry]

anyway i hope the light from your best dreams pours out into the hard days so they become a little brighter and i hope good things find you wherever you are

[iirememberthinking]

Dear whoever is reading this: I wish you a life full of warmth and happiness and love. I hope you’re okay. And if you aren’t now, you will be.