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Hi there! I wanted to know, as an ENFP did you feel like not fitting in? Growing up I felt like even though I had friends I was pretty different. When I was a kid I felt I was so special, everyone liked me and I had a high self esteem (even though I have never had a BIG group of friends), then in my teen years I just wanted to be like everyone else sooo I stoped liking the little things that made me different. Im 25 now so the need to be like everyone else is gone. How was it for you?

Hi, nice to meet a fellow ENFP! Yes, I understand how you feel! Growing up, I also didn’t feel like I fit in. I was quite popular and had a fairly high self-esteem in areas of interest/skill but in my teen years I tried very hard to fit in. I never stopped liking the things that made me different, but I always struggled with them, seeing them as obstacles to having a circle of friends rather than as what attracted people to me.Coincidentally, I’m also 25 this year and I’ve decided that I will NOT live up to others expectations of what I should be like. Not even my family or friends. I will be myself and have genuine social interactions with the world. No more hiding. By shining your unique light, you’re inspiring and influencing more people than you realise. Find your purpose, and you’ll embrace what makes you unique :)

Hi there! I'm not quite familiar with the term ENFP, but I'd like to learn, if you could explain it?

Hi there, the term “ENFP” stands for the Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Perceiving personality type within the MBTI framework. You can read my posts in the ENFP category for more information :)A quick summary: ENFPs are caring, discoverer-explorer types who love novelty in ideas and experiences. Life is a big adventure to these zany people. They tend to be tireless advocates of causes they believe are worthwhile, and often inspire others to do the same. They cannot tolerate injustice, especially against those who are unable to defend themselves. They love to know what makes people tick and often try to help others achieve their potential. They are often gifted in multiple areas (especially in creative professions in the arts) and have the most varied hobbies compared to most of the other MBTI types. Hope this helps!

I have an enfp friend who told me that he hates himself for being womaniser.Just saying "Hey, you're an enfp, it's normal for you to fall in love with every woman" will not help him. He doesn't want just to accept that feature, he wants to change it.

Hey Helena, I think there’s a difference between falling in love with everyone and loving everyone. Perhaps your friend is confusing the two! For starters, maybe you could let him know that it’s normal to have crushes on others, but he can choose how he wants to react to them in the long run.I used to have major problems with obsessing over people, but I’ve come to realise that it’s ultimately unhealthy. It’s like a fix. Usually when I fixate on others, it’s because I’m dissatisfied with certain things in my life (e.g. relationships, finances, personality, achievements). Perhaps he could do some soul searching to find out what truly matters to him and go in that direction instead of falling in love with every woman he meets.I may be wrong, but I suspect that he’s falling in love with the traits they have they he wants in either his personality or relationships. Or perhaps he could simply be idealising them and seeing their good points. Let him know that it’s okay to appreciate someone and have a crush on them, but that’s all there is to it. Awareness is the first step to solving the problem. Sending him love and light to help him along!

Hi! First of all, I'm glad I found your blog! I love how you give advice to all these ENFPs :) But I also have a question. I've done a few MBTI tests and I always get ENFP, and even though the description fits, I'm a VERY insecure person who often shuts down entirely and lets people walk all over her. Now when I'm comfortable I surely am an ENFP, but the title "The Champion" just feels so unnatural, like I don't deserve it. Now's my question: how are most ENFPs when insecure? Am I the only one?

Hi there, I hope I’m not too late in replying! Hmm, to be honest, “The Champion” or “The Advocate” as label is perfect to describe ENFPs because that’s the best they can be if their potential is fully explored :) ENFPs love standing up for what is right and protecting the weak. They often inspire others with their idealism and hope by seeing the good even in the worst of situations.As for being insecure, I used to be extremely insecure too. I had a lot of opinions, but I wouldn’t know how to express them in a way that wouldn’t draw ridicule from others, and so I stonewalled everyone and let them walk all over me. I really empathise with how you feel, and I’m here to tell you that it’s a journey to feeling comfortable in your own skin. When ENFPs are insecure, they tend to shut down and withdraw because they need time to process their feelings and thoughts about issues in the world or things that others did to them. You’re not the only one!You’re already a champion because you’re a brave spirit constantly seeking to better herself. Learn to trust your intuiton more, and don’t give so much weight to others’ opinions of you. Discover what matters to you deeply and pursue that. When you are unafraid to be yourself, others who appreciate and love you will naturally surround you. You’ll be a light in the darkness to those who need a listening ear or a helping hand. Go be the champion that you know you can become :)

Co-worker 1: You know that personality test you had us take a while back? What was it?

INTJ: MBTI?

Co-worker 1: Yeah. Can you send me the link again? I forgot what I am.

INTJ: You tested as ENFJ.

Co-worker 1: Wh-what? You remember?

INTJ: Yes.

Co-worker 2: It's what he does. What am I?

INTJ: ENTJ.

Co-worker 2: What was Bobby?

INTJ: He refused to take it. My theory is that he's afraid I would discover his secrets and destroy him.

Co-worker 1: Who else took it?

INTJ: Sean got INFP. Mike got ESTP. Anthony got ESTP. Rich got ENTP. No one else took it.

Co-worker 1: What the hell? Why do you remember these things?

INTJ: I don't know. I just do.

INTJ: *internally* So I can discover your secrets and destroy you.

i like your intersting story with the isfp .. why you are disconnected??? i want to know the details :(

Hi there, I know this is really belated, but thanks for being interested in knowing what happened! Basically I met this ISFP when I was on student exchange in another country. After all that had happened, he asked if I had a boyfriend and how long we were together for. Once I told him, he changed his attitude towards me and became quite distant. After I came back home from exchange, I sent him a message telling him thanks for being a friend to me and that I hoped we would keep in touch. Unfortunately, he didn't reply, so I'm assuming that he doesn't want to keep in touch. We are still Facebook friends though, so I get updates from his posts once in a while.

Would you say it's natural for ENFPs and ESFPs to be drawn to each other? Also, how do you think a potential relationship between the two would work out?

In a way, yes, I think it's quite natural. Both types use the cognitive function of Fi, which is about subjective value systems and abstractions. ENFP uses Ne (abstract information gathering) while ESFP uses Se (concrete/sensory information gathering). Of course there's no way to determine who exactly a potential relationship would turn out, but we can have a rough idea of that. I think that they would have a good time thinking up many fun schemes and activities to do together; they would love socialising and going to events with friends; they would like discussing many different ideas and talk about what makes people tick; they are both flexible and fairly spontaneous in their use of time... On the flipside, if the ENFP is more interested in theoretical ideas, the ESFP may be uninterested in discussing such things with them. The ENFP may also be annoyed at the ESFP's seeming lack of follow through. Being NF, ENFPs may have more qualms about breaking a promise (big or small) or flaking on an outing. ESFPs tend to live more in the moment and make decisions on the fly, so they may come across as more flaky.Source: Having an ESFP brother and a few friends who I think are ESFP

#ESFP #ENFP #relationships #MBTI

Do you have any advice for an ENFP who needs more of an emotional connection with her INTJ boyfriend? I don't want to give up on what I know could be an amazingly fulfilling relationship, but I fear my emotional needs are too great for him to meet.

Hi there, I’m not sure of how exactly your relationship is like, but if I can assume things from a stereotypical ENFP/INTJ perspective, let me provide a few pointers and my interpretation of the dynamics:ENFPs are pretty emotional people most of the time. It’s not that INTJs are not emotional, but they are definitely less *outwardly* emotional and not as emotionally reactive. I’m assuming that you need your INTJ boyfriend to show his affection more or to talk about his feelings more so that you will feel a greater intensity of feeling/emotional connection. But sometimes it’s hard to change someone else’s style of relating to others.First of all, please don’t be afraid that your needs are too great. We all have needs; the important part is to communicate them to your partner. At the same time, you don’t want to overwhelm your partner with your needs, because you have to understand that he’s a different type of person than you.I would suggest finding a time when both of you are relaxed and in a neutral/good mood, and you can let him know how you feel in a non-accusatory/negative manner. For example, rather than saying “I wish you could be more expressive”, you could say “Sometimes I’m not sure how you’re feeling about ___. Is there a way I could find out?”Next, be vulnerable with him. Let him know that you do have rather intense emotions, and that you hope you can talk about emotions with him. Give him the option of talking about them when he’s in the right state of mind. I hope that your talks with him will go well. Over time, I’m sure your boyfriend will be able to understand your emotional needs better and relate to you on that level. On the other hand, I’m sure you’ll be able to understand his little displays of affection better as well, and treasure them even more than overt gestures. Hope this helps!

Ever since I've found that my personality is ENFP and have read about it, and other people who are also ENFP's I feels so much more understood. I don't personally know any ENFP's and it just felt like no one "got" me, or my outlook on life and other people. I feel so much more understood now. Your blog has helped me a lot and I just want to say thank you so much!

I see... I’m so glad you feel more understood! Thank you so much for writing to me, it brings a smile to my face :)

So, my friend ENFP goes by this philosophy: "get over it." But the thing is, she always gets angry if I (INTJ) remains silent and doesn't tell her why I may be silent or disturbed over any particular issue. So my question to you, is there a point in telling her how I may feel if I'm only going to be told "get over it"? Perhaps this is too general, but it would be awesome if you could answer

Hmm, I believe that your ENFP friend may have this philosophy as a result of past hurts or disappointments. She may feel that the only way to deal would be to “get over it”, aka “suck it up”. But the problem with that is that it doesn’t resolve the issue.Her anger could be directed at her perception that you’re shutting your thoughts and feelings out from her. But as you said, you don’t see a point in sharing your feelings if you’re told to “suck it up”. Perhaps you could have a chat with her when both of you are feeling pretty neutral/good, and let her know that you would want to share your feelings with her, but you prefer if she could listen without providing an opinion first. If she seems receptive, let her know that you prefer not being told to “get over it”; you would prefer to talk it out and discuss options or the like. If she’s a close friend who cares for your feelings, I believe she would be open to your suggestion :)

#ENFP #INTJ #friendship #MBTI

I was just wondering how you know when you truly love someone romantically. See, there's this one person who intrigues me to no end and I have affection for him but I'm pretty sure that I'm not "in love" with him. I tried placing my feelings into one of the 6 categories (the one with the comic that you posted at one point), but so far nothing has clicked. And my main problem is that I'm dating an INTJ who loves me but I can't respond back until I know what I'm truly feeling. Can you help me?

Well... This is a tough one. I would say that love is a choice. Your affection is probably a combination of infatuation (you’re intrigued) and genuine fondness for the person (which would remain after the crush has died down). It’s okay not to be able to categorise your feelings - just let them run their course and make a decision to stay in this person’s life if you feel that both of you are growing in this friendship/relationship.Let your INTJ partner know that right now, your feelings are affectionate and that of goodwill, but that you are still unsure about the long-term implications. If you let the relationship grow organically, there will come a point when you can make the decision to take it further or to simply drift away. Hope this helps!

#ENFP #INTJ #love #relationships #MBTI

I took a few mbti tests and in most of them I got enfp, however I also got infp a few times and I also resonate with the descriptions. My main problem is identifying the e and i side of me. Could you please describe the main differences between infp and enfp?

Hi there, I think the main problem with this e/i thing is that it’s inadequate to describe a person. Extroverts do need down time, and introverts do have sociable moments. If we look at it from the perspective of Jungian cognitive functions, it would be easier.ENFPs and INFPs both use Fi, introverted Feeling, which is more about identifying with a subjective personal value system. They also use Ne, extraverted Intuition, which is about making abstract connections from external data.The difference between the ENFP and the INFP is the order of the functions. ENFP uses Ne then Fi. INFP uses Fi then Ne. In simple terms, it would probably mean INFPs are more “judgmental” or discriminating than ENFPs in terms of what information they even let through their filters in the first place. This is because they tend to evaluate every piece of information through their subjective value system first before gathering more data. ENFPs tend to gather data and behave more neutrally at the start, then they filter data using their value systems.An immature INFP would come across as fairly close-minded to certain points of view, and an immature ENFP would come across as indecisive and unable to take a stand.

#INFP #ENFP #MBTI

What sort of Bible do you read?

I read NKJV, NIV, AMP, ESV... Basically I read a couple of different versions and compare them. I love the NKJV for clarity that doesn’t compromise on poetic language. I love AMP for expounding on the different meanings of words in Hebrew and Greek. What sort of Bible do you read?

How do you feel about it all? This tendency to accumulate seemingly random knowledge? Do you have problems holding yourself accountable for things, the curse of demotivation, and "a need to please" attitude?

I guess it feels overwhelming sometimes. I do have problems holding myself accountable for projects I come up with (and abandon). For me, motivation has to be intrinsic or it would never work, so yes I do have problems with demotivation especially when things don’t turn out the way I expect.As for a “need to please” attitude - I think I’ve gotten better at not caring about others’ opinions over the years. I used to be a yes-woman, but I’m much more confident and independent now!How about you?

#ENFP #motivation #MBTI

Hi! We're a new blog just about an ENFP and an INTJ friendship! We've literally just started out and I was wondering if you could just let your followers know about us? Maybe even just by answering this! Ahha thank you so much! ❤️❤️❤️

Sure thing! I have a few close INTJ friends and they are fantastic people.

Hi everyone - check out this new friendship blog by an ENFP and an INTJ :)

Can a female ENFJ and a male ENFP work out if the former is a bit old-fashioned/traditional regarding relationships and the latter is a bit unconventional/"playerish"?

Any type relationship can work out if both are willing to compromise and work things through together. I can see potential problems if the ENFJ is unable to accept the unconventional side of the ENFP, whereas the ENFP would find a more traditional partner boring. That said, if both are willing to compromise and appreciate each other's good points, I'm sure the relationship will work out.

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I've taken as many mbti quizzes as I could find. I always get entp or enfp, and I've gotten about the same number of both. I tried looking up the traits of both to see which I was, but I agree pretty well with both. Which one do you think I am?

Hi there! I can't be sure unless you give me more details about yourself. NT and NF have very different core motivations but they both share the function Ne, which is a zany, random, information gathering machine. The difference between ENTP and ENFP would be Ti vs. Fi. Ti would make decisions based on logical, rational things, whereas Fi tends to be far more personal and subjective. As a generalisation, ENFPs tend to be more attuned to the emotional wavelengths of others and would try to comfort someone who is upset by sympathising or encouraging the person. ENTPs would tend to be more attuned to the best, most rational way to "fix" things, and would try to comfort an upset person by giving them a suggestion/solution to the problem. This is a very large generalisation based only on one aspect that I've observed from myself and my friends. Please give me more details for a better analysis!

#ENTP #ENFP #MBTI #mistyping

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