Barathea

Wenn wir am stärksten sind - wer weicht zurück? Am glücklichsten - wer fühlt sich lächerlich? Und sind wir grausam - was kann man uns tun?

[everythingstarstuff]

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[doraemonmon]

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ザザーン Zazahn - Return of Ultraman

[carnetimaginaire]

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[furtho]

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Josemaria Ibañez’s Mapocho Arereo (via here)

[ex0skeletal]

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Works by Maggie Vandewalle

[queeranarchism]

Relationship anarchy could be about so much more than the freedom to fuck.

“I need to tell you something” the guy I just took to my tiny hotel room tells me as we lie down on the bed “I am a relationship anarchist”. This is of little importance to me. We just hooked up in a bar (an anarchist bar so this is also no surprise to me). I am on vacation and moving out in 3 days. Why should I care about how he conducts his relationships? But he seems to think this requires further clarification. “That means I have sex with multiple people and I do not label those contacts as relationships. I see people when I want to see them.” Again, this is of little importance to me. 

But his words linger. Is that what relation anarchy is? Polyamory combined with non-commitment? I really hope not. That kind of individual freedom, the freedom to not form lasting relationships, the freedom to always follow your own desires, the commitmentless fucking around, sounds more like relationship capitalism to me. Yet this guy wasn’t the first ‘relationship anarchist’ I’ve met who defined relationship anarchism as ‘I do whatever I want’. 

I guess why relationship anarchy rarely appeals to me is because its practioners often seems too obsessed with nonmonogamy.

Anarchism, to me, is very much about commitment. About building communities. Communities that reject the ‘rules’ of capitalism, of ownership, of jobs, of productive and unproductive members, of competition. Communities that instead choose care, cooperation, equality, acknowledgement that our differences make our strengths, and each to contribute according to their his ability and to receive according to their need. And in that community, we make the rules that suit us, and end them when they no longer suit our community. 

Relationship anarchism then, to me, means community. A community of two or of many. A community that rejects the ‘rules’ of relationships, of enforced heterosexuality, enforced monogamy, of partners being entitled to sex, of marriage, of childcare being a two-person job and of the idea that we need a romantic or sexual relationship to be complete. A community that instead choses care, cooperation, equality, acknowledgement that we are more than our relationship and that we all have different needs.  And in that community, we make the rules that suit us, and end them when they no longer suit our community.

By that definition, an anarchist relationship is first and foremost one of cooperation and setting our own rules. By that definition, it is not self-serving but always mutually beneficial. By that definition, it can be a monogamous relationship if that’s what makes the people involved feel happiest. By that definition, it can be about friendship, about romance, about sex, about a selection of those things, but by definition it will be about care. And intuitively, I’d say an anarchist relationship is a mutual support system against the brutal, oppressive capitalist world around us. The world is an extremely fucked up opressive place that seeks to divide us but we have chosen to support each other, to create a safe space within the rooms that we share when we share them, to help each other through tough days and tough years, to remind each other that we’re in this together. 

This automatically-polyamorous commitment-free ‘I do whatever I want’ version of relationship anarchism feels nothing like that. 

[technologyoftears]

“An anarchist relationship is a mutual support system against the brutal, oppressive capitalist world around us.” Love it!

[humblewonder]

[enilua]

National Geographic August 1968

South to Mexico City

“Sweet-ride shores,” surfers call the beaches at Mazatlan.

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[everythingstarstuff]

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Polizeigewalt in Deutschland - Täter in Uniform

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[voxeljello]

[enilua]

Jemand der sich verrannt hat auf dem weg zu sich selbst aber gut wem passiert nicht dass man einmal vom weg abkommt wer immer nur auf sich selbst zu rennt der muss sich ja verlaufen so haben wirs gelernt wir schreiten fort egal was kommt und die längst vergessenen die nie wirklich weg waren fordern wir sagen sie fordern grenzen stehen da als chor schreien grenzen endlich bitte wieder grenzen schauen sie der boden der zitternde der bebende der vibrierende der hält zu viele menschen gar nicht aus nur wer dem boden hier entstiegen ist darf bleiben dafür braucht es grenzen braucht es wieder damit die freiheit hier bleibt hinter unseren mauern damit der wohlstand hier bleibt die risse tief im sediment die wollen wir mit grenzen kitten die grenzen sind jetzt wieder zu die wunden sind noch offen

Thomas Köck: paradies. spielen.

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8. Juli 2018, Wanderlust in der Alten Nationalgalerie Berlin.