How quick we all are to fix each other. Pause for a moment before you try to help a friend ask yourself "What is my intention?" For I believe a true friend is a witnesser in celebration of someone else's growth. When you think your friend is sad and struggling through, maybe the struggle is the internal doubt. The only way through this internal doubt is not by someone telling them who they are but allowing them to discover who they truly are. This can only be done by being the witnesser. The gift of being the witnesser brings such abundance to your life, not only do you get to watch and celebrate as they are going through a difficult time in discovery of what is potentially possible for them, but you also feel your own self value. What may be portrayed at the time as the defeat could be the moment of ultimate success. I've had friends try to fix me only to turn my life story against me based on their perceptions. They had taken on ownership of my pain, building resentment. Angry, for my growth had made them uncomfortable, being open to share your feelings (vulnerability) is portrayed as a weakness. This is where society serves us wrong. Vulnerability is one of our strongest powers, it is what makes us unique and individual. But most of us don't like to feel it all, it makes us uncomfortable. Some people call this "drama." For me drama is when you pull other people into your story and you play the victim adding to the fuel. True growth sometimes comes from learning your resistance to what is and learning how to surrender. I call this recognizing your the darkness (or attachments) and growing into the light( learning to let go). I believe that if we are not willing to explore our darkness we could not possibly see the light. For if there was no darkness there would be no light. This is the downside of a fixer. When we set out to fix someone else or change their perceptions of their reality we become resentful so no one can see the clarity, for they are in the fire and you are holding them there with the judgment. Even if you feel your words aren't in judgment they will only hear judgment. Holding space for someone with the intent of fixing or chan