THE COMPARISON TRAP⠀ ⠀ [Image by #MarinaAbramovic w/ #Ulay ]⠀ ⠀ The moment we lose ourselves,⠀ in the⠀ face⠀ of ⠀ comparison. ⠀ ⠀ We judge,⠀ and we blame⠀ ourselves⠀ for all those parts of us ⠀ that lost the race ages ago. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ The whole world feels wide and vast,⠀ while we feel small⠀ and caught up⠀ in a ball ⠀ of knots. ⠀ ⠀ Never Enough. ⠀ or so it seems. ⠀ ⠀ While Everything⠀ & Everyone else ⠀ outside⠀ looks⠀ whole⠀ and ⠀ complete,⠀ young⠀ and ⠀ beautiful.⠀ We feel broken & lost. ⠀ ⠀ •⠀ ⠀ We all enter these liminal spaces of comparison, ever once in a while.⠀ These moments⠀ tighten, ⠀ and scrunch up⠀ the very best version ⠀ of ourselves,⠀ into a minuscule knot,⠀ caught up⠀ in judgment, ⠀ & the illusion ⠀ that another’s reality is better than our own. ⠀ ⠀ In that moment, ⠀ we assume we know⠀ what it took⠀ to create ⠀ what seems to be⠀ the perfect life⠀ of another. ⠀ ⠀ the grass is greener on the other side,⠀ or so it seems. ⠀ [ every single time. ]⠀ ⠀ •⠀ ⠀ I am sharing about the comparison trap today,⠀ because it runs far and wide,⠀ amongst all of us. ⠀ &⠀ ⠀ I recently fell hard,⠀ and still hungover,⠀ ⠀ •⠀ ⠀ A few weeks ago, I was on a roll… ⠀ experiencing entirely new levels of success in my business. ⠀ ⠀ I should have been thrilled. ⠀ But I didn’t even take the moment ⠀ to celebrate.⠀ ⠀ Instead, I browsed the internets: looked, & compared⠀ suddenly,⠀ my work⠀ and feats⠀ felt meaningless,⠀ ridiculous, ⠀ silly⠀ at most. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ In just milliseconds, ⠀ I felt my body contract, ⠀ my mind wander off,⠀ into the far away possibilities that could be,⠀ but are not. ⠀ ⠀ I left my body, & this reality, ⠀ in search of a distant one⠀ that doesn’t even exist. ⠀ ⠀ •⠀ ⠀ Friends, ⠀ I share this with you… ⠀ because we have an epidemic of depression, ⠀ caused by so much toxic shit in our environment, ⠀ but mostly caused by the perception of perfection in the world. ⠀ The perception that everything else / everyone else outside is perfect, ⠀ and somehow, ⠀ we are not. ⠀ ⠀ ⠀ •⠀ When things shine, ⠀ let’s all take a look⠀ & inquire deep within. ⠀ ⠀ Stop chasing.⠀ https://ift.tt/2IuLoTv












