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(@mythighost is my main so notes from me will show up as that) Hi! my name's Ghost (or anything really idc), pls ask my pronouns, but They/It is usually a safe bet! I'm 22. this is my blog for tracking, venting and socialising about disability stuff. feel free to send an ask or dm!

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[fairyfalling]

Hey, you there, able bodied person! Are you capable of being normal about people with incontinence? Awnser carefully.

I was gonna put this in the tags but actually no I'll be loud about it. This is about all the posts and real life interactions I've sent about people mocking the American presidents disabilities and saying that they are a clear indicator that he is unfit for the position.

Disability and disability aids are entirely morally neutral. Maybe instead of being ableist we should be talking about how he's a terrible person who has committed horrible crimes.

[eptck]

you have to be kinder to people with memory issues.

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

you have to be kind. you have to be kind.

[bebsi-cola]

money is such an underrated accessibility option.

like people want to think any disabled person who is after money is morally suspect some way, because they're not asking for "treatments" or "accommodations" like a lot of our issues can be fixed way more easily with money. can't drive? paying for a taxi is often one of the more accessible alternatives. can't cook? you can pay more to have prepared food delivered to you. food restrictions? that food straight up costs more money. can't clean? you can pay for someone to do that. house inaccessible? having (lots) of money can help with that, you get the gist.

having money won't make us abled. it also won't stop our symptoms from being distressing, painful, or debilitating. but there's a huge gap in experience between the average poor disabled person and someone who's actually wealthy. you can buy your way out of some of the difficult situations most disabled people are left to rot in. wanting money, needing money, asking for money is pretty natural when it's such a useful tool. why get so weird about disabled people wanting money like i'm pretty sure everyone wants money anyway

[kittydragondraws]

Having autism and ocd be like:

"I'm ableist by glancing at a person in a wheelchair for five seconds but I'm also ableist by going out of my way to avoid looking at them"

[fairyfalling]

The PIP system can suck my fat knob btw

[windwardstar]

Is that person transmasc or are they just on T? Is that person transfem or are they just on E? Is that person transfem or were they just assigned male at birth? Is that person transmasc or were they just assigned female at birth?

Is that person actually transmasc or transfem or are you just gendering hormones and body parts? Is that person actually transfem or transmasc or are you just equating agab with gender alignment?

Is that person actually transfem or transmasc or are you forgetting that unaligned and alternatively aligned enben exist?

[fairyfalling]

Wait no hold on I've been trans for a decade now and this post is opening my third eye to possibilities I never considered were allowed.

You're so right, I don't have to consider myself transmasc just because of my agab and transition choices. I can just be nonbinary. That's literally the point of the word.

Transitioning is what made it possible for me to find joy in femininity and I've never felt especially connected to a masculine identity any more than I have a feminine one.

I knew that the queer community has been quietly reinventing the gender binary, but damn I didn't realise I'd been tangled into the misconceptions myself.

[derinthescarletpescatarian]

Triggers are stupid as shit it's like you're just there freaking out and if anyone asks you can't explain that it's because the driveway has the bad type of gravel or you just scrolled past a photo of the wrong type of (very tame) bruise or the dust smells wrong in this room

[countrynerddancer]

I feel like if i could take my knee apart and scrape the joints, maybe pressure wash it, it'd feel better

[fairyfalling]

Love that I have to keep a copy of the pain scale on my phone to check every now and again, because I have a habit of constantly skewing my description lower than it actually is since I'm so used to being in pain.

[wearingmystripes]

chronically ill people will tell you that they’re fine while they’re visibly shaking and sweating and fighting for their life in front of you

[fairyfalling]

I have multiple OCs and character headcanons that are just 'a funny little guy with anxiety who has a large monstrous form, but through the help of a strong support system learn that they themself are not a monster and hey this form can be kinda cool and useful actually'

And I don't quite know what it says about me, but it sure says something.

[fairyfalling]

I swear if/when I find out who has been stealing food in my flat, I am going to have so much shit to say to them. Fucking student accom.

[fairyfalling]

Met someone today who decided to play piss off the disabled person bingo. In the span of a 3 min convosation that I barely contributed to, he: asked invasive questions, assumed the nature of my disabilities, called me strong for going outside, mentioned his mother who uses a cane, mentioned how aweful it was when he had an injured ankle, asked to pray for me, didn't let me answer, and asked God & Jesus to 'make my disability not a disability' whatever that means.

And to top it all off he didn't even get my name right. I'd be impressed if I wasn't so baffled and angry, like, where the fuck did this man find the audacity??

[fairyfalling]

Hi hi hi, cis ppl, if you know a trans person, especially a non-binary or genderfluid person, please don't comment on their gender presentation unprompted unless they have previously made it explicitly clear that you can.

I say this because you and the person may have very different perceptions of how they are presenting, and you could be unintentionally be pointing out something that upsets them.

For example, today I wore a pinafore dress, tights and a colourful jumper, and had my hair down; someone I know pointed out that I looked much more feminine than the last time she saw me (I was wearing masculinising makeup and a hoodie). But when I put on that outfit it was not with feminine intent, and in fact I feel very neutral/lacking gender today and so this made me pretty uncomfy and self conscious about an outfit I was just a moment ago very happy with.

This isnt to say gendered compliments are bad at all, as a matter of fact I can quite like them in the right context, and they can be increably validating and a great way to support trans friends. but as a person with a fluid gender, it is often a lot more complicated than just how I happen to appear on the surface.

Tldr: gender is complected and discussion of boundaries is important.

[iamnotlanuk]

The pain is more incredibly annoying than unbearable

[iamnotlanuk]

I can bear it but come on

[smoldragonborn]

happy tenth maggie's in the mud day 💖