a death ı always longed for .
I do not want to leave you, only to have the opportunity to fool around with other
people; because fooling around with other people wouldn't fulfill the rest of my life
as you do. It wouldn't fulfill what you fulfill. It would not bring me the happiness
you do; the comfort you do, the warmth you do, but It changes not; It changes not of
how I do want to do these things. These sexual things. I want to do these things,
with certain people, with other people, & that in doing these things; I mean ...
It makes me happy. I WANT to do it; I see no harm. The thoughts make me happy,
the attention makes me happy,
the feelings make me happy,
the wantings make me happy,
...but I feel so /un/happy.
It's not your fault, in that you should feel neither guilt nor sadness,
but it is because of you, in that through the actions, words, or feelings from you. It
...it is through you, that I feel this /pain/.
You've asked before what I wanted, instead. We've talked about it before- of what I'd
want instead. Would I want to not have to ask; no. I really am happy with what we
have, the agreement we have, the arrangement we have. I truly am. What I do
want, I suppose, is for you to be okay. Is for you to be okay with it all. I want
you to understand, to see from within my mind, to see that it makes me
happy, to see that it is what I want to do, but besides all that ... for it is
all meaningless. What I want is..For you to see how I love you.
For you to see how it is not a replacement of you.
For you to see how they are not a threat to you.
For you to see what I feel for you.
It's not your fault, but mine.
I know we'll talk of this again. Soon, I hope. Which is why I am not sending this now.
I just don't want to regret, again. I don't want to regret, any more. Any longer.
I enjoyed the time spent with -----. I felt happy, I felt good, I felt enjoyment.
Yet, that enjoyment was short lived, & soon filled with guilt.
That enjoyment did not effect our relationship.. It made me love you no less,
it made you love me no less; No negative effects-- Only good.
Nothing but sheer positivity.
Until [...] , & so with the exception of [...]. The negativity created from between us.
I just don't want to regret, again. I don't want to regret, any more. Any longer.
My time with -------; our time with -------. I blame you not for what happened.
I cannot spend time with him, any more. Cancelling plans to see one another.
Being kept from one another, to the eventual point.
I know that was not your intention, but it is how it is. It is a choice of which
we have both chosen; for you. In part, for ourselves. but again.. for you.
I love you, still. Again, that has not changed. Again, change that never will.
Within my first relationship, my longest-lasting to this day for what it's worth,
to make a long story short there were those I wanted to fool around with, dearly.
------, as a relevant example.
I always wanted to, but never could. I never did. I've regretted that; I regretted
it then, & to this day I regret it now. It held over me; for once the chance
once the chance was gone,
It built resentment between us. I felt tied down; chained, ...
... I do not feel now as I did then, but I do not want to grow in that direction.
I don't want to grow resentful. I don't want to feel that regret.
Sometimes that chance is gone, sometimes the chance might come back.
It's a chance to be close to somebody;
to be intimate with someone,
to be as close with them as you physically can be.
It's an emotional experience, at times.
but not always. I get that. I know that. I say that, too.
Which would go back into feeling happy, feeling enjoyment,
back to the wantings, the attention, the feelings. The enjoyment.
The positivity. The good aura. The endorphins. The pleasure.
I suppose what's wrong is that perhaps it is because I simply do not understand why.
I cannot understand why. I want to understand, but I don't. I cannot; How I've tried.
but Is it not my heart of which attracted us together toward the start?
Is it not my heart of which you fell in love with? Found your love within?
The open heart, the loving heart, the ever-expanding ever-wanting emotional heart.
I want to be monogamous for you; I want my heart to belong to you.
Romantically, I belong to you. My heart is yours. It will always be yours.
Romantically, I want no other. You are my partner, my soulmate, my life-long bond.
I am romantically monogamous, but physically 'non'-monogamous. Monogamous, to a point.
It conflicts within me so much; the inner confliction. It hurts. It physically hurts.
I want to be monogamous; a part of me wishes it could be. Wishes I could be.
Another simply knows not what to do.
When it comes to -------, to -----, -------, --------, Anyone I feel feelings for.
What am I supposed to do?
I could do that. I can try to do that.
I just don't know why. I can't understand.
If somebody makes you happy, I would want you to be happy.
I know they pose no threat to me. As I know you are mine, as I am yours.
I know you'd not leave me, for even if you did it would mean only you were happier.
If you found happiness within another, happiness of which I could not provide,
... I would not want you to go, but I would let you.
(Which is not what this is about)
When we got together, when we started getting together; I had so many hesitations.
I still did, even as I asked you to be my own. Yes, I asked in part as I felt pressured to.
but I asked because I wanted to. I would not have if I did not.
I do not regret it. I never have, not once, not for a second.
Not one time have I ever regretted being with you. Asking you.
Not once have I ever. I would have it no other way.
I would without a doubt give it up for you.
I would give it all up for you.
I would give up everything.