An Untilled Womb

I am voluntarily childfree. My reasons for this choice have very little to do with lifestyle, or free time, or physical discomfort and more to do with my perception of the world and my ability to prepare a child to navigate that world with a minimum of suffering. I am pro-child, but often anti-parent. I respect each person's right to reproduce but I also have antinatalist leanings - though not to the extent of VHE. (Please note that this is a secondary blog, so I can't follow-back from here. However I will follow many of you from main.)

[dhaaruni]

Exclusive: Supreme Court has voted to overturn abortion rights, draft opinion shows

"We hold that Roe and Casey must be overruled," Justice Alito writes in an initial majority draft circulated inside the court.

[earthstory]

chrisbrayphotography

The dark side of nature! On her way down to spawn thousands of eggs into the ocean, this Christmas Island Red Crab paused to feast on the returning baby crabs (same species) that were spawned a month earlier, popping them into her mouth like popcorn!

[avvocarlo]

girl boss

[spikeghost-deactivated20240530]

[thebowltender]

moms b like "your emotional pain causes ME emotional pain and that is what we will be focusing on today"

[thebowltender]

moms also b like "my mom traumatized me more than i traumatized u so clearly u should be thanking me"

[thebowltender]

then moms finish you off with a very intense retelling of their own trauma with absolutely no correlation to the topic and then somehow make you feel guilty about the fact they were abused at one point????

[fangirl-trash2481]

THIS!!!

[mysharona1987]

[luna-aestas]

PSA for women who are having trouble finding a surgeon who will perform tubal ligation due to their age and/or being child-free.

This surgeons web site is here.

List of child-free friendly doctors is here.

[waterlilyrose]

Why does the prospect of children make me feel like I'd rather die? My maternal instinct is broken.

[fallow-ground]

You’re allowed to feel what you feel. There’s nothing wrong or bad about having strong feelings about not wanting kids. You are whole, complete, and good even though you feel this way.

“Maternal instinct” in the context of someone who has kids, describes a series of chemical and psychological patterns that evolutionarily developed in humans to prevent us from destroying our young when they are needy, stinky and dangerous to the rest of the troop. It’s what makes mothers forget the pain of childbirth and discourages them from crushing their babies with rocks to make them stop screaming.

“Maternal instinct” in the context of someone who doesn’t have kids is a socially-derived thing that developed to justify powerful feelings some moms have around their kids…and to shame women who don’t feel the same way. That shame has various functions ranging from protecting the community as a whole from the burden of abandoned children, to the social control of women, to the justification of rabid mommy feels-inspired child abuse.

The fact is that many people do not feel instinctually connected to their children, and many regret having them. They still love their kids and do right by them (insofar as they can), but they never feel that instinctual passion that people describe as parental instinct. They just create children accidentally or intentionally because they are checking off prescribed life stage boxes and then find themselves trapped in lives that they are ill suited for and unhappy with. This isn’t good for anyone, their children least of all.

By acknowledging that one doesn’t want children and acting on that truth, people are not only making authentic and healthy life choices, but they are preventing the potential suffering of children. These people are making a kind choice. A responsible choice. A loving choice. A choice that reflects anything but brokenness.

You can still be a healthy person without wanting kids.

You can still be a loving person without wanting kids.

You can still be a good person without wanting kids.

You can still have a full, complete, and beautiful life without wanting kids.

Never forget that you are lovely and worthy of love no matter what this world tells you regarding your desire or lack thereof, for children.

[androgynouscollectivekingdom]

[fallow-ground]

Holy shit I’m so glad I don’t have kids.

[fallow-ground]

Amy Barrett Cohen is an absolutely disgusting human. I do not use these words lightly:

I fucking hate her guts.

She’s worse than the men who vomit this garbage. She’s a vile, evil and dangerous person. She’s lived a life of privilege and ease and has no problem slamming her boot down on the necks of women who have far less than she ever did and who suffer far more than she could even dream.

I’m not suggesting that anyone but God give it to her, but she deserves deprivation and pain and horror and every bad thing that an unwanted child can experience. She deserves to feel helpless and trapped and to lose her bodily autonomy like all of the women she’s trying to force into giving birth.

[browsedankmemes]

Not taking any chances

[patisserieblu]

I'm mildly disgusted that this needs to be said but um.

Your kids do not owe you grandkids.

You are not entitled to grandkids.

The fact that you squeezed a human out of your cooch doesn't mean you get to pressure your progeny to squeeze another generation out of theirs.

[mysharona1987]

Newsflash: It's not babysitting if it's your own kids!

[gettydoop]

Everyone should feel ashamed of themselves except 17F tbh.

[theironclad]

The 17F and her dad apparently

[xphilosoraptorx]

You don't get a day off from being a parent. How fucking hard is it to pause the game or take a break between matches to make a snack for the kids?

[haveashran]

Reverse Vulcan learning pit

[beckettmariner-deactivated20200]

Can we talk about the bucket with toilet paper next to it

[jimxugle]

7 + 4 = 12

[omnihilo]

I can’t wait to never have kids.

[mapsontheweb]

On request abortion legal in week “X” of pregnancy across the US and the EU. September 2021 data.

by @Maps_US_EU

[medievalistsnet]

Child Freedom in the Middle Ages - Medievalists.net

Were there any intellectual arguments against having children in the Middle Ages, and were there medieval equivalents to “childfree” individuals?