Hi! Welcome to fat-transmasc-experience, a blog dedicated to uplifting all fat trans men and mascs.
Call me Mitch (ae/aer/aers, not he/him!). I adore fat transmascs with all my heart and I am one myself. This blog focuses on fat transmasculine joy, experiences, culture, and community. Fat people are constantly told to shrink to make others comfortable. Here, you can take up space without guilt or apology.
Topics you’ll see here:
Fat liberation
Fat transmasculinity (plus some love for transfem, transneutral, and non-binary fat people)
Support for fat intersex, disabled, and/or neurodivergent folks, and fat POC (who are transmasculine or otherwise)
Occasional content WRT fat sexuality (this is not a fetish blog, but sexual positivity has its place). As such, being 18+ is advised if you follow.
Fat trans positivity, gender euphoria (+ dysphoria) while fat, and taking up space 🧡
While my main focus is obviously fat transmasculinity, anyone is welcome to engage and send asks as long as it's on-topic.
Ask guidelines:
Engage in good faith, be kind, and don’t dehumanize anyone. I do mean anyone.
No callouts and no harassment of any other users* or myself.** And by anyone, I do mean anyone. Yes, even transandrophobes and fatphobes. Harassment means any targeted attack and/or dehumanization of a user based on things they are unable to control. It’s surprisingly easy to glance over harassment of people you don’t like, so always double check. *Of course, venting about another user’s actions or beliefs is okay, but do not name specific blogs. I do not run any blocklists. **Correcting me on a fuck-up is okay and encouraged, which does not count as harassment.
No discourse.
If your ask breaks any of these, it will be deleted immediately.
Housekeeping:
I set queue to 4/day as to not clog up feeds. I also heavily curate and try to have reblogs fit with the blog’s theme.
Asks and original posts aren’t queued but they might sit in the drafts for a while. AuDHD is a real bastard. I tend to release asks in chunks if I have multiple sitting in my inbox.
About me:
I’m transmasc, but please use my neopronouns or you’ll probably be blocked!
ae/aer/aers (this is the third reminder, you can use it, I believe in you 🧡)
Bisexual (leaning gay/t4t, but I’m open to a queerplatonic bickering divorcee relationship with just about anyone), + allosexual aromantic.
AuDHD, OCD
Given that I’m white, able-bodied, and perisex, etc. I try my best to elevate fat people of color, fat disabled people, and fat intersex people on this blog. The fat liberation movement is meaningless without their involvement.
I’m a fat trans guy! I love fat trans people! But I’m also not really an “authority” on anything but my own experiences and what I’ve read, so sometimes I am not equipped to answer all your questions.
See also:
If you enjoy what you see here, you might like some the blogs that have inspired me!
Hi back briefly to say calling someone a “transfeminazi” is bad actually.
Historical connotations aside (“feminazi” was popularized in the 1990s during a massive anti-abortion wave, and even further in the gamergate era), comparing queer theory to nazism is…how do I put this…evil.
Say what you will about anti-transmasculinity, intersexism, and exorsexism, and more in transfeminist literature; those critiques are necessary for any progress.
Don’t sling shit for the sake of it. You’ll probably get an infection.
so yeah, trans women are disproportionately banned on tumblr well know fact, and yes, sometimes they get banned for a good reason, but if every time someone says that trans women are disproportionately banned you bring up the fact that erm actually this one deserved it I really don't trust you to have good opinions about trans ppl sorry like. ok sure yes true now tell me how that is relevant and does anything except derail and delegitimize our very real concerns
will forever be pissed off that the internet took one of the most financially accessible genres of music and decided it to shun it bc transmascs tend to like it and make it
i love you Bug whose gender is moss I love you I'm proud to be in the trans community with you
i love you arson who uses they/them and doesn't want hrt and has wild, awesome, cool hair and loves leather and cardigans
i love u trans femboys I love u stone butches I love u lesboys and turigirls and xenogenders and neopronoun users I love love love u intersex trans people I am so proud to be in the trans community with u all u are splendid and I love u dearly
And fat genderqueers and weirdos of color and transsexuals with "weird" transition goals and name hoarders and people whose pronoun lists are of biblical lengths and systems with alters whose gender presentation is wildly different from each other. You are so important to me
thank the gods, thank the heavens, thank the stars for enben and transneutralities, transmaverines, transxeninity, and whatever else they may identify as ♥︎✧♥︎✦☆♥︎★
thank the gods, thank the heavens , thank the stars for those who move between genders, exist in terms we cannot craft with language, for those with genders that live outside of our bodies, outside of hegemony, for Mad people, for neurodivergent people for refusing to have their entities defined by everyone’s perception but their own.
"Even cis men?" is the obvious response to my stance that practically anyone can be lesbians, and to answer with another question: are any cis men actually doing that to begin with? I mean, unironically, not as a joke? Because I don't think they are. Generally cis men are not going to sincerely identify with the term the way cis women and trans people will. Cis men essentially self-regulate themselves out of the definition without anyone needing to make that definition have concrete limits.
Whether it's WLW, transmascs who drove through Dykeville to get where they are now, or anyone else, you should assume someone calling themselves a lesbian has a good reason for doing so.
I love being transmasc!!!!! I will not let you try to make me to feel guilty for being transmasc!!! Everyone love trans men and transmascs NOWWWWW!!!!!!!
at some point in your life you are going to do or say something racist, sexist, or otherwise bigoted. Your goal is not perfection, your goal is to be the kind of person that the people you've hurt feel safe being honest with when that happens.
"I wish could penetrate but I don't have a penis" There's a surgery for that (and silicone exists)
"I want to piss standing up" The surgery does that too, but also have you heard of an STP device? You should look into those
I need people to actually understand that not everyone's dysphoria can be managed*. Prosthetic penises do not provide the same satisfaction for everyone. Sometimes it makes it worse. Sometimes they're uncomfortable, unaffordable, or unattainable in general (minors, no shipping address, no shops to ship, anti obscene material laws).
I need people to understand that your solution isn't everyone's. I'm getting so sick and tired of "there's a surgery for that" I'm poor and smoke. "There's straps tech for that" they don't fit me. They hurt. I get nothing from them except often feeling worse. I had to spend hundreds of dollars to make my own and it still doesn't really work. "Fingers exist" circle back to me when my physical and sensory disabilities disappear 👍
Not all penile creation surgeries are designed with the ability to piss standing up in mind, and even if it's designed as such, urethral lengthening can fail, which is an unfortunately common problem w v-preserving penile creations, and sometimes it's still not enough for daily use (cannot pull through fly and have to pull pants down past ass, for example). For prosthetics, having to deal with them can remind them of what they need assistance with. I can technically piss standing up due to my variation, but it doesn't go well in the practicality department (can only do it in the shower bc otherwise piss on pants), and I know of many who, due to the positioning, we struggle with STPs. MANY people struggle with them or don't like them in general for many different reasons.
Someone can have prosthetics and it's not enough, and they don't have access to surgery. Sometimes surgery just isn't enough to get those precise dysphoric feelings, such as feelings it get hard when aroused (phallo concerns), penetrating (meta concerns, it can permit it but it's not as common as with phallo), loose skinned balls.. hell I have a specific dysphoria about how neither the body I have or could get through surgery would allow me to get a guiche piercing
This isn't doomer no point in transitioning, this is tired of forced and toxic positivity. People are allowed to be upset that their body doesn't function how they want in the way they want it. People are allowed to be upset they don't get to do what they want with their body
*this isn't even touching on species and xeno dysphoria
i think there is a phenomenon where sometimes a trans person will go “hmm. i am treated as a man when it is convenient for others, and a woman when it is convenient for others, and often as a freakish third thing excluded from the advantages of both. surely, because of the gender binary, the Other Type of trans person experiences the opposite: they reap the benefits of maleness and femaleness at once.” like babes no they can do it twice
"It's stupid that men are allowed to be shirtless in public while women aren't" yes true✅️ "it's also gross when men do it they should also have to cover up" what. no. no. wrong conclusion❌️
the real “problem with political correctness” is not that it’s considered offensive to use slurs, but that there are now many “progressive” environments where saying the right things is more important than doing the right thing. it’s why it’s so easy for abusers to gain traction in leftist circles (they learn the right words quickly and employ them to frame their own behavior as progressive); it’s why so much potential activist energy gets poured into fighting about language; it’s why moderate liberals didn’t believe fer/guson had a problem until the police emails with actual racist language were leaked. (you can do racist things, you just can’t SAY racist things.) i don’t have a neat conclusion here but a related point is that i’m so much happier since i started focusing on like, being a good kind caring person instead of trying to remove the word “crazy” from the vocabulary of everyone in my family
Just saying this is truly one of the best “discourse” posts on this site like……this hits the nail directly on the head re: what is going on with language right now and everyone pushing back in the notes only serves to further prove the point it’s making
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