Femdom experiences, ideas, and suggestions
Iād like to share some experience, ideas, and tips Iāve put together after about 4 years of dominating my BF. This is all my personal experience, so it wonāt apply to everyone.
Firstly, I need to share that we arenāt in a 24/7 Domme-sub relationship. That doesnāt interest me or my BF. My BF came to me about 4 Ā½ years ago and confessed some of his desires for femdom sex, and I decided to entertain it with him. Itās been a lot of fun, but Iām not making it a ālifestyleā, although we do have some āextendedā sessions, which Iāll detail later in this post. Its something we do for fun in the bedroom (well, not always in the bedroom). We still have frequent āvanillaā sex, heās actually quite good at it. :) That being said, Iām not here to pass judgement on anyone else, or pretend to be an expert on the subject of BDSM. My current BF is the only person Iāve played with like this, but weāve learned a lot about femdom by experimenting, reading, and talking to each other. A good portion of these ideas and suggestions were his idea, and many are mine. Some may think that this is topping from the bottom, but I donāt take it too seriously. This is all just in good fun for us.
Also, even though I talk about some of the stuff below being āforcedā, thatās not to imply he hasnāt consented. We always have a safeword, and we discuss generalities before we decide on trying something new (although I do definitely surprise him with new activities to push his limits). Also, keep safety in mind with any activity. Not all of this is safe for every couple or every person. So, with all that out of the way, lets get to it!
I approach femdom by classifying activities into 4 categories, then I put them together for an experience. The categories I use are: Degradation/Humiliation, Pain and Control, Frustration/Teasing, and Service. Iāll go over activities in each then describe how I put them together.
This is a very fun category and can include a lot of different things. Hereās a list of activities that I enjoy inflicting on him.
Forced feminization - I frequently make him wear womenās clothing during our sessions. This can include lots of different outfits. Feel free to mix and match to your taste. Amazon is great for getting lingerie on a budget. I like to go with really girly colors and patterns for my guy. My favorites are:
High heels. These are an absolute necessity. You donāt need to spend a lot of money on these, but you might want more than one pair if you insist his outfits match.
Lingerie. This can include teddies, stockings, babydoll, fishnet dresses, etc.
Just a pair of panties. This makes him feel very exposed. I like ones that ride up his little butt (cheekies, thongs), but still cover his entire penis. Donāt let him wear anything else.
Pasties. This is very, very fun. Pasties are cheap, and not something you ever see a man wearing. A pair of high heels, pink thong, and some pasties is great outfit for him to wear while he cleans the bathroom for you.
Schoolgirl outfit. This is a classic, and can lead to some incredible role-playing situations. The skirt should be short enough you can see his little white panties peeking out without even bending over.
French Maid. Another classic, useful for the Service category Iāll go into later.
Makeup. This is a favorite activity. I love giving him a makeover. Super slutty makeup is the best and can be combined with any outfit.
Tight jeans, yoga pants, leggings. Pair these with a skin tight top and youāve got a great outfit for lounging around the house.
Short shorts. These can be cut off jean type shorts, yoga style shorts, or anything you like. The shorter the better.
Corset. Use this to give him a girlish figure!
Womenās bodystocking. These are hilarious. They come in all kinds of patterns and colors, and are really cheap.
Halloween costumes. Great for any time of year! Amazon has cheap playboy bunny outfits, tinkerbell costumes, sexy nurse, etc. There are so many to choose from!
Pegging/dildo play - This falls into the pain category as well depending on your mood. I really feel that in order to make this act as degrading as possible, its important to get a dildo that looks and feels like a real penis. It should have balls and be a realistic skin tone. It should also be at least slightly bigger than his own penis (within reason). A big aspect that makes pegging so humiliating is the mental side to it. Obviously, thereās some physical to it as well, but just being forced to ādealā with a dick is mortifying to most straight men. Some activities involving your strapon or dildo:
Deepthroat training. Letās eliminate that gag reflex ladies! Seriously one of the most degrading things you can do to your man is fucking his face. I like to recreate positions from porn in this activity. Relax on the couch or chair while wearing your strapon. Put him on his knees and make him get to work. If heās not going deep enough grab his hair and force his face down on that dick! Trust me, he can take it. Donāt be gentle. Make sure he maintains eye contact like a good little porn star! I also like to have him lay on his back on the bed or couch, with his head hanging over the side and cram my dick down his throat. Do this until he gags, over and over, heāll be drooling all over himself soon enough. Have him lie down on his back, then straddle his upper chest/neck area so the only thing you can see is his face. Put your dildo in his mouth and jackhammer that thing down his throat. Donāt be scared of hurting him, even if your dildo is on the large side of realistic. heāll eventually be able to take it balls deep. He might complain that it doesnāt fit. Well, its your job to MAKE it fit. Yes heās going to cough and gag, a lot, yes heās going to have a lot of drool and mucus coming out of his mouth. Thatās OK. Donāt be deterred by any sounds, drool, or complaints. Also give him instructions and compliments when appropriate (āyeah, show me your tongueā āhands behind your back and open wide bitchā āgive me that throatā āthatās a good little cocksuckerā)
EDIT: Iāve received several questions about this point. Iāll clarify exactly what were doing here and why. When I make him suck my dildo, Iām not getting any physical pleasure out of it and neither is he. This is not meant to be physically pleasurable to us, itās meant to make him feel like my bitch. When you do this, make it an ordeal he needs to suffer through. When heās on his knees in front of you, fuck his mouth hard and fast. Really make an effort to get your entire dildo down his throat as you thrust in and out. Make him suffer here for quite some time, 5, 10, 15 minutes even. Donāt let him get away with pulling his head away or anything either. Make him keep your dick in his mouth, see how long you can keep it buried balls deep in his mouth, lock your legs around his head if necessary. His jaw and throat should be very sore after this ordeal, and his face should be a mess of slobber and spit. Once he can take your whole dildo down his throat without gagging, its time to upgrade to something longer and/or thicker. Your goal should be to have him performing at THIS LEVEL and he wonāt get there without proper training.
Butt fucking. Work up to this using your fingers, plugs (he should wear a large sized one for a while before a pegging session), and other toys, but eventually your goal should be forceful pounding. Make him feel what its like to really get fucked. While pegging him, yank his hair, push his face down into the bed or floor, slap his ass. Be creative with positions and locations. One of my favorites is the tile kitchen floor, he doesnāt have to be comfortable while getting fucked. Use lots and lots of lube here, it makes getting your dick in a lot easier on both of you.
Dildo masturbation. Make him suck and fuck himself with a dildo or other toys for your amusement. This one can be done with very minimal effort on your part. Just give him a toy, order him to the corner, and tell him to get it up his ass.
Using other objects to fuck him with. This can be a lot of fun, but be careful. Some items Iāve fucked him with: Beer bottle, drumsticks, vodka bottle,
Forced Nudity - This one is simple, but you can spice it up with toys if you like. Simply order him to be naked while you remain clothed. If you like, make him wear a butt plug that you can smack and wiggle around while he gets you a drink. Put a collar on him if you want, or combine this with forced feminization from above (for example make him wear only high heels, lipstick, and a chastity cage for the evening). Sometimes its fun to combine this with pegging. Iāll strap my dick on over my jeans, while heās completely naked. Its a very humbling experience for him. I also frequently have him sleep naked.
Forced Performances. This is very entertaining and again a low-effort humiliation. Sometimes I like to put on some music and have him dance for me. Iāll make him perform a little strip tease, twerk, etc. Sometimes I will have him masturbate for me. Iāll give directions. (these are great times for video recording)
Spitting. Weāre getting a little more extreme here. Donāt be afraid to spit on your male. This can be especially degrading during pegging, even more so during deepthroat training. While heās making eye contact, just launch a huge wad of spit right in his face. Heāll love you for it! It can also be degrading while youāre criticizing his performance to spit in his face.
Golden showers. We havenāt worked our way up to here yet, and to be honest, I donāt know if I want to. Something we have tried in this area though, making him lick me clean after I take a piss.
Verbal humiliation (Disclaimer: Talk to your partner about this first if youāre worried about crossing a line with him, because this can be emotionally charged.) I really like this, and to me, there are two components. 1. You degrading him with words. 2. Making him degrade himself with words.
Name calling. Call him degrading names. This can include the following: Bitch, sissy, cunt, slut, whore, piece of shit, stupid, worthless.
Penis humiliation/emasculation. This is common on femdom porn sites. Make fun of the size of his dick, his sexual ability, the things he lets you do to him, etc. Terms like shrimp-dick, bitch boy, butt boy, fuck-hole, cum eater, cum dumpster, cocksucker, limp dick. etc.
Combine insults. Example: āYouāre a little limp dick cocksucker.ā āYouāre a little cum eating bitch, arenāt you?ā
Being forceful and insulting with your directions. Example: Instead of saying āget on your knees and suck my dickā, say āGet on your fucking knees and get this dick down your throat you little bitch.ā Instead of using his name and telling him to bend over the kitchen table for his pegging, say something like, āHey shrimp-dick! Get in here, bend over the table and get fucked.ā Instead of saying come here and lick my pussy say āget over here and make me cum you little piece of shitā.
Tell him what youāre going to do to him later. Send him a text letting him know youāre going to make him eat your pussy and send him away hard and frustrated.
Order him to do things for you. *MOST IMPORTANTLY: Donāt be afraid to raise your voice, or even yell. Its encouraged in this situation that you will be very forceful with your voice. Yell in his face if he isnāt licking your pussy correctly. Yell in his face after you cum and tell him to get the fuck off the bed and do the dishes.
Making him degrade himself. This can be really fun.
Make him beg. Use this for anything, make him beg to fuck you, beg you to peg him, beg you to let him masturbate, beg you to let him eat his cum, beg you to spank him, etc. It doesnāt even have to be something he wants. The key to this though, is to make sure his begging meets your standards. If you donāt believe he really wants it, punish him and make him try again, and again until you really believe him.
Make him apologize. Maybe the orgasm he gave you was mediocre. Maybe he didnāt take your dildo up his ass with enough enthusiasm. Maybe when you told him to deepthroat your strapon, he couldnāt get his nose to touch your stomach like you insisted. He should be punished for such infractions, but he should also tell you how sorry he is first. (maybe after his punishment too.) Make sure he apologizes sincerely for any shortcomings. Shit, sometimes I make him apologize for having a small dick (even though he doesnāt).
Make him thank you. Did you let him have an orgasm? Did you fuck his little butthole really well? Did you let him lick your asshole? He needs to thank you for the privlege.
Make him confess. Make him tell you his fantasies. This works especially well if you have him on the edge of orgasm. Make him confess a deep, dark fantasy that heās never told anyone before. (Heāll probably run out of ideas at some point, you can punish him for that)
Public Play. There are some really fun ways you can take this play out of the house for some really great humiliation that doesnāt involve violating other people boundaries.
Clothes shopping. I enjoy taking him to stores, wal-mart, target, etc. and picking out some really girly panties and outfits for him to wear. If there isnāt anyone around, Iāll occasionally make him go try them on in the dressing room.
Wearing plugs or other toys in public.
And finally, for one of the most humiliating things a man can ever doā¦ā¦
Swallowing cum and/or getting a facial. He fucking hates this, which is why I love it. Any time he has an orgasm during any femdom activity, heās eating it or its going on his face. I donāt care where it lands, how he came, if it was an accident, or if he really doesnāt want to. That cum is going in his mouth and down his throat. There are a lot of ways to accomplish this, but I really enjoy planning ahead for it. Its also a huge turn on for him, knowing that heās going to be forced to eat it, even though immediately after he cums heās absolutely repulsed by it. Some of my favorite ways to do this are:
Make him cum into a condom, then empty it into his mouth.
Make him have a ruined orgasm (Iāll explain later) onto the tile or hardwood floor. Then make him lick it up. If he resists, shove his face in it. If you have carpet, that isnāt a problem. Make him suck the cum out of it until its all gone.
If you let him cum inside you or on you, make him suck the cum out of you or lick it off of you.
While heās wearing a pair of panties, rub his dick until he cums in them. Then peel them off and make him lick it out, or smear them all over his face.
Flip his legs over his head into the piledriver position (good for pegging also) and make him shoot his load all over his own face. This is a favorite of mine, simply because of the role reversal mind fuck going on in his head. I also like making him leave the jizz on his face for the rest of the day.
Make him cum into a glass and then pour it into his mouth, or pour it all over his face and/or hair.
However he gets the cum into his mouth, occasionally Iāll have him āplayā with it. Gargle it, show it to me on his tongue, drool it out and then suck it back up like a porn star.
EDIT: Ladies, heās going to be much more compliant with eating his semen if he has had a ruined orgasm instead of a pleasurable one. I mention this below but Iāll go into some more detail here. When your man has an orgasm his sexual desire drops off a cliff. He wonāt want to eat his cum and will resist. But if you give him a ruined orgasm, he doesnāt get much pleasure at all, and his sexual desire remains high, but he still can expel a good amount of sperm. The goal here is to make his semen come out of his dick without pleasure, but for most men, the pleasure and orgasm actually begins several seconds before he ejaculates. So I like to have fun with this. With him on his knees and his hands restrained Iāll stroke his dick until he gets very close to orgasm, and then when I think hes right on the edge, Iāll let go and watch. Iāll wait about 20 seconds and if no semen comes out, start again. If youāve done this perfectly, his semen will leak out about 10-15 seconds AFTER you stopped stroking it. Heāll be left sexually frustrated, but you actually DID give him an orgasm, its not your fault he didnāt feel it! Heāll be much more compliant in regards to consuming semen in this way. I like to combine this with chastity sometimes too. Iāll have him locked in the cage for a few days, give him a ruined orgasm and then put him back in. Its wonderful!
For added humiliation, I frequently take pictures and video of my pet during these humiliating sessions. I keep these and then use them later for addiitonal humiliaiton. Seriously, having a video of him, with his face covered in his own semen, apologizing for not deepthroating my strapon well enough, all while dressed in daisy dukes and a bikini topā¦.well thatās just good entertainment. Sometimes I make him watch some of the videos with me and laugh at him. It always results in a giant erection in his pants, haha.
DISCLAIMER: It seems online, many people are nervous about this category, and with good reason. Its sometimes hard to tell what your partner is comfortable with, and they may not even be sure of it themselves. So take all of this slowly at first until you and your partner can figure out what works for you. That being said, I seek to push right up against my boyfriendās limits here. This is where the āforcedā part of the humiliation listed above becomes more real.
There are several ways to inflict some pain on your male, here are some of my favorites.
Face slapping. I really enjoy this. Nothing gets his attention so quickly as a pop to the side of his cheek. Several (5-6) in quick succession create a look of fear in his face that I love. He can take a lot of punishment here too, just watch out for his eyes and ears. This is an especially good thing to practice while youāre fucking his face or heās licking your pussy and/or ass. Use your slaps to get his attention, give direction, and have fun. āI slap told slap you slap to slapfocus slap on slap my slap clit!! slapā
Hair Pulling. Grab his hair and yank his head around. Do this while pegging (in any position), while heās giving you oral (or sucking your dildo), to lead him where you want him, to hold his head in place while you slap him, to force his face into a puddle of semen, etc.
Spanking/whipping. The most common. I like to use a belt, flogger, occasionally a cane.
Cock and Ball Torture. Another common theme on femdom websites. Hereās a list of techniques I use.
Squeezing/Pinching. Grab his balls and squeeze. Pinch the head of his dick.
Slapping. Simple. To make it hurt worse, you can grab his balls into one hand and hold them tight and steady while you slap.
Punching. Same as above but creates a lot more pain. :)
Kicking. Kicking him right in the balls after you just fucked his ass can be quite the experience for both of you. Take this one more slowly haha.
Nipple Play. Most people know about this already. Use clamps, clothespins, pinches, flicks, twists, and scrapes to inflict some pain here. He can take more than you think.
Chemical Play. Ok, weāre getting to some more extreme areas here again. This is not to be taken lightly, as many peopleās bodies react differently. Hereās a list of things weāve tried.
Ice cubes. Rub on his penis, balls, asshole, and nipples. This can sometimes eliminate a pesky erection in a pinch. Iāve inserted cubes into his anus as well, he doesnāt like that lol.
Ben-gay/Icy Hot. Rub this on the penis balls, taint, and anus. This creates a very unpleasant burning sensation. My pet feels very intense pain for about 10-20 minutes. It then subsides to a mild cooling sensation.
Tabasco/hot sauce. Same as above, rub on genitals and asshole. Your manās experience will vary here depending on the type of sauce you use, the duration you leave it on, and the amount you use. I reserve this for serious punishment. I once poured some hot sauce on the dildo I fucked him with. Letās just say he didnāt have a great night.
Electricity. You need to be even more careful here. My only experience is a dog shock collar. I attach the collar around his penis and testicles. It has a vibrate function (for when heās been a good boy) and 8 levels of shocks. Weāve gotten up to level 6. He really hopes I donāt have to use 7 or 8 on him. You can experiment with the position of the collar on his genitals. If the contacts are touching his balls, heāll feel it throughout his sack and his perineum. If you flip it over and the contacts touch the base of his penis, shocking sensations will affect his entire penis, all the way to the head. Weāve experimented with different levels here, and it seems his penis is much more sensitive to electricity than his balls are. Your manās experience may vary. This collar also has a sound/beeping function that I use as a pager when I need him. If his balls beep, he has 10 seconds to be on his knees in front of me, regardless of his prior activity, or else heāll face punishment.
Bondage and Restraints. I keep this simple as I donāt enjoy taking the time to set up intricate bondage situations. Iām sure my BF would like it, but its just too much effort when I can use simpler items to accomplish the same things. I own a few types of gags, a collar and leash, handcuffs, bed restraint system and, my favorite, a spreader bar (bar with cuffs for hands and feet).
Control. A lot of the more severe pain and control items above are essentially just a method to get my guy to do what heās told. This is where the āforcedā aspect really comes into play. For example, he absolutely hates eating sperm. But if I want him to eat sperm, heās going to fucking eat it. So I use pain to get him to do it. One way I do this is with the electric dog collar and handcuffs. After he cums, and thereās a load of sperm sitting there on the floor, I give him a choice. Either put your face on it and suck up all that lovely sperm, or, get shocked in increasing intervals and strength. Eventually heāll do it. This is an area where weāve both agreed that he doesnāt get a choice any longer. He submits to being forced to lick his jizz off the floor.
Another example is dildo play. If i instruct him to deepthroat my strapon, and get the entire 7 inches down his throat while maintaining eye contact, thatās his job to do. If he doesnāt, I inflict pain. For example, I might start by slapping his face as a warning if heās disobeying, increasing the strength and quantity of the slaps as I try to work the dildo down his throat. If that doesnāt work, I move on to other means. I may whip him with the belt, or punch his balls a few times then give him another chance. I increase the pain until he obeys. Its really fun to give him tasks that are hard to acheive. I also use pain as punsihment for failure. If he canāt make me orgasm in a certain time period, or its less pleasurable than what I expected, I may attach the spreader bar to his ankles and wrists, gag him, slather his cock and balls with ben-gay, and then go have a glass of wine while he contemplates how he can improve his performance next time.
This doesnāt mean I need a reason to hurt my toy. When weāre playing, I may slap him for fun or for no reason at all. If heās getting pegged, he should expect to get popped in the face a few times just because I fucking feel like it. Maybe Iāll kick his little blue balls afterwards while heās still on all fours on the kitchen floor, just because I want to be a bitch.
This is really quite simple. When weāre playing, I cum when I want, he cums when heās allowed to. I enjoy making him suffer in this way, its honestly the most fun part of all this. There are a lot of ways I enjoy teasing and frustrating him and Iāll go over some of them now. There is one hard and fast rule in this game for us. He must always ask permission to ejaculate, no exceptions. Heāll be punished severely for an unauthorized orgasm or ejaculation.
Chastity. This is a must for us. While we donāt play 24/7, I enjoy making him wear a chastity device frequently when weāre apart. I work nights, so if Iām at work, chances are heās locked into āThe Viceā. This is a locking chastity cage, similar to others, only this one has an anti-pullout mechanism that makes it very difficult to remove without the key. Basically āThe Viceā (available at Ā www.lockedinlust.com ) is a plastic sheath for his dick that attaches to a ring around the base of his balls. It prevents erections and masturbation very well for the price. I donāt want my manās dick mangled by a piercing for this game we play, and some of the other devices out there require that to be secure. The Vice keeps it secure and out of his (or anyone elseās) hands. Its so empowering to be able to restrict access to his own dick. I have the power to grant him erections and orgasms, he canāt have them without me or my approval. The length of time he wears the device really changes, but is up to me. I usually donāt keep him in it for more than a couple days, but weāve had times that I left him in there for over 3 weeks. He really wasnāt happy about the time I had to leave town for 4 days and took the key with me, AFTER heād been locked up for a week already.
There are a log of fun chastity games you can find online. Some fun chastity games we play:
Try to cum. I enjoy leaving the device on him, and tell him to try to have an orgasm with it on (no vibrator allowed!). Its fucking entertaining to see him hump his hand, finger his asshole, shake the cage around, pinch his own nipples, etc. I like to offer some cheering words of encouragement here for him. Usually I have him do this on the floor in the middle of the living room while I sit on the couch and watch. He hasnāt been able to cum yet, but maybe one day heāll get there. (Another great video opportunity)
Coin flip. If heās been locked up for several days, Iāll strap him to the bed or handcuff him to remove the device.
Then Iāll start stroking his dick until heās very close to orgasm, right on the edge. Then I flip a coin, heads I finish him off. Tails, I immediately stop, put an ice pack on his dick and lock him back up once heās soft again. Better luck next time honey.
Roll of the dice. If he rolls a six, he gets to cum. If not, thatās the number of days he stays locked up until he gets another chance. This went on for over 3 weeks for us at one point. He was really on edge lol.
Chastity can also play into the control aspect as well. Sometimes when we play I donāt take the cage off. For example, he doesnāt need an erection to get fucked in his ass or to use my dildo and vibrator on my pussy, so why take it off? If he starts giving me a bad attitude, Iāll simply add another day or two to his lockup time. I use this as punishment for disobedience when playing, so it gives me more control.
One of the big things youāll notice if you start incorporating chastity into your sex life, is that he will become more and more agreeable and obedient as time goes on, if you restrict his orgasms. If weāre playing with chastity more seriously, I like to make him wait 1 to 2 weeks between orgasms. He has a high sex drive, so when I do this, he gets so horny heāll do anything to get out of his chastity cage. Its really entertaining to see what I can get him to do. Once, after 13 days locked into the Vice, I insisted he detail my car if he wanted out of the device. He whined and complained, so I told him that he just earned himself another 3 days in the device, and I still expected the car detailed.
The MOST IMPORTANT thing when incorporating chastity into your sex life is this. SAY NO. Donāt be swayed by his begging, whining, or complaining. Firstly lets get this out of the way, no one NEEDS to have an orgasm. He wants to cum, he doesnāt need to. So lets get that little idea out of the way immediately. We have a rule, when heās locked up, he gets to politely ask for an orgasm once per day. If I feel like it, Iāll have him earnestly beg me. This is great for extracting promises from him. But if I say no, he needs to shut the fuck up about it immediately. Occasionally Iāll say yes, but most of the time Iāll say no as Iāve already decided on how long heās going to be locked up. Do not feel bad about this. In fact, relish your power here.
I get off on having him go down on me right after I tell him āNo, youāre staying locked up.ā While we both agreed to incorporate chastity devices into our sex life, the lockup duration is my decision alone. Use the device to modify his behavior to your liking. If you want something from him, sexual or not, give him the order. If he doesnāt comply, add time in the device. The power is intoxicating.
Teasing. Sometimes he wears The Vice around the house, sometimes not. But regardless I like to wear skimpy clothing, rub up against him, feel and squeeze his balls, ass cheeks, and body just to see him get a boner (or try to, hehe). Iāll take this a lot further sometimes, stroking his dick until he starts leaking precum, getting him close to orgasm, only to stop and tell him to calm down. Sometimes I even let him fuck me until I have an orgasm or two, then tell him to stop. This is delightfully frustrating for him. Other times Iāll leave him in the chastity cage and masturbate right in front of him. One of my favorite teases is to use his mouth to make me cum and send him away completely denied. Sometimes I tell him Iām going to make him cum, only to stop at the last second and tell him I changed my mind.
Ruined Orgasm. By far the funniest aspect to this whole femdom thing. Its really an artform. The basic idea is that you get your man very, very close to the point of orgasm and then stop all stimulation. If you do it right, heāll just tip over the edge, and his semen will dribble out of his dick with barely any force, and next to no pleasure. This works best with his hands restrained so he canāt try to finish the job himself. I like to pair this sometimes with the shock collar to make it completely miserable.
So now we get to the fun part. A lot of the above is playing into my manās fetish, and thatās ok. I do love him, and I donāt have a problem doing stuff for his enjoyment. But you can be sure Iām going to be getting something out of all this! A big part of femdom is serving the woman in the relationship. And Iāll detail how that all works for us now.
Sexual Service. This encompasses everything. If I want my ass eaten out for 2 hours while I watch TV, he does it. If I want a full body massage from a muscled, naked man, thatās what I get. If I want to fuck and get off two or three times, I get that. If I want my nipples sucked while I use my vibrator on myself, thatās what I get. Nothing is off limits to me sexually. I speak, he obeys. Thatās just how it goes. I typically donāt orgasm from oral sex alone or penetrative sex alone, and sometimes it can take quite a while for me to get there. The point is, I get what I want. Not that I want him eating my ass for 2 hours necessarily, but Iāll make him do something like that sometimes just because I can. (Then sometimes make fun of him for it.)
Facesitting. I love sitting on his face. Its a great experience to cum all over his face. Sometimes I use just his tongue, while other times Iāll shove a dildo in his mouth and ride it while using my vibrator. I also have a gag that has a dildo sticking out of it. Whatever Iām using, its important that Iām only concerned with my own pleasure during this experience. Donāt worry about whether or not heās able to breathe, if his tongue is tired, if his neck hurts, etc. In fact, its quite enjoyable to put him in intentionally uncomfortable positions for this. We have a hard wooden chair that I like to use for this. Heāll be required to sit on the floor and lean his head back onto the seat of the chair. This hurts his neck and head when I really start riding and bouncing on it, but who gives a fuck? He needs to focus on my orgasm, not his temporary discomfort.
As part of the sexual service aspect of femdom in our sex life, weāve decided that he no longer decides when and where he gets to orgasm, when and where I get to orgasm, and he doesnāt decide on when or where any other sexual activity takes place. Thatās up to me now. This doesnāt mean that he doesnāt initiate sex any longer, far from it. But it does mean he doesnāt get to complain, and he doesnāt get to turn me down when I want it either.
The goal of sexual service is two-fold. One, for you to get all the pleasure you want. Two, for him to feel completely objectified. When you are using him sexually, think of him as just another sex toy, a dildo that you can use up and throw away when you are finished.
But this isnāt limited to sexual service only.
Domestic Service. Basics. When weāre in femdom mode, he does the chores. All of them. We get to spice up mundane things like cleaning the bathroom and vacuuming in easy ways. For example, if the dishes need washed, and the kitchen mopped, I tell my bitch to get his maid outfit and shock collar on and bring me the large butt plug. While he gets dressed I may watch TV, text friends, do some shopping online, or anything else I want. When heās ready, he lubes up the plug and I put it up his tight little ass. He then goes off to do whatever Iāve told him to do while I relax. After heās done I may or may not inspect his work, if he did a good job then he may get a reward. His reward may be the privilege of kissing my asshole for example. If its not up to par he may get punished. This can be implemented immediately, or added to a play session later. If you are going to go this route though, I would suggest using punishments he really wants to avoid (extended chastity time, severe spankings, etc.) or else you may find him purposefully messing up in order to get some āpunishmentā he wants.
This applies to any chore we need completed. My laundry, dishes, car washes, lawn mowing (its funny seeing him on a riding mower when I know thereās a plug up his ass), cooking, etc.
Personal Service. These are generally intimate things that I want done for me. They can really play up the tease element as well. Some examples:Ā
Shave me. In the shower or bath, I like to have him shave my legs and pussy.
Toenails/pedicure. I pick the color, then he massages, moisturizes my feet. Then polishes my nails for me. Heās also responsible for removing any old polish from my nails.Ā
Massage. Sometimes just a shoulder rub, other times Iāll be nude and he is required to give me a full body massage with oil. I like for him to be nude for this as well. Itās really torture for him to give me a few orgasms afterwards and stay denied.Ā
Body worship. It can be really relaxing to have him kiss and nuzzle my thighs, feet nipples, and pussy. I especially enjoy having my asshole worshiped though. Just light kisses, licks and nuzzles. Basically heās making out with my asshole. Itās a serious power trip to have him do this while I watch TV or play games on my phone, ignoring him except to give instructions if I want something done differently.
Iāve outlined several ideas and topics here, and now Iāll give an example on how Iāve put all of it together. Remember when reading this, its all in fun, and it doesnāt necessarily have to make a lot of sense. Remember, if your guy is into femdom, he likes a lot of this kind of stuff already.
I like to choose something from each category when we play, just to round out the session. Not always, but frequently.
For one session I decided we were going to do some pegging, so before I got home I told him to get himself cleaned up, naked, and get a plug in. I got home about an hour later, so heād been stretched out for a little while. I got home, grabbed him by the hair and dragged him into the garage. I told him to get on all fours in the middle of the floor and wait. He waited there for 20 minutes. I know he was scared, heād never been fucked on the garage floor before. It wasnāt clean, and he was completely naked except for the plug in his ass.
I came in turned all the lights on and started taking pictures. I was already wearing the strapon. I made him smile for the camera, and pose for me. It looked like a really trashy photoshoot. I took several pictures in varioius positions and then I told him it was time to get busy.
I lubed up my cock, slowly pulled out the plug and got to work. I fucked him on the floor of the garage for about 5 minutes, eventually really pounding him. I pulled him up by his hair, bent him over the hood of my car and pounded some more. I insisted he fake an orgasm like a girl. It was reallly funny listening him attempt to moan and scream like a woman orgasming.
Once he was done, I pulled him around by the hair and spit directly into his face. I told him that was the worst fuck Iād ever had and told him to āgo clean my fucking bathroomā. He stared at me dumbfounded, so I slapped him hard in his face and repeated it louder. He quickly scurried off to the master bath. About 5 minutes later I came in and threw the strapon and butt plug on the floor and told him to clean up my toys as well. When he came and reported that he was done, I went to inspect his work. It was spotless.
So I told him to get himself cleaned up and ready for bed. As a reward I let him go down on me for a while and then use my vibrator to give me an orgasm. He didnāt get to cum that night. (but we did cuddle and watch a movie)
There are many more ways you can mix and match categories, and many of them run together. For example, you can facefuck your man with your strapon, while you rub his dick. Once youāre satisfied heās learned how to deepthroat, pull him off and make him beg for the privilege of masturbating in your presence. You can record this on video if you like, then, make him eat his own cum on video. The possibilities are endless! Again, I know a lot of this isnāt āauthenticā if youāre doing it for your submissive partner, but that doesnāt really matter to me. What matters is that weāre having fun, and I get what I need out of it too.
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