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kosmogrl

did anyone else know that if you keep waiting for the right time you’ll end up waiting forever??

jehovahhthickness

You ate that. Thank you

robberofpearl

Iron Heart

Atelier Versace haute couture fw 97, Christian Dior haute couture ss 98, Jean Paul Gaultier haute couture fw 03, Enfants Riches Déprimés rtw fw 24

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her-written-thoughts

and then suddenly everything worked out in your favor.

brooklyntease

Always 😌

existing-caregiver

Dior by John Galliano F/W 1997

theambitiouswoman

Scarcity mindset extends to relationships and it sounds like

“I can’t lose this person”

“There’s no one better out there”

“I have to make this work no matter what”

“If this doesn’t work I’m a failure”

And it shows in your behavior more than your words. You tolerate disrespect because you’re afraid of starting over. You ignore red flags because losing them feels worse than losing yourself. You think the more you struggle and hurt the deeper your love is. You overgive, overexplain and overextend just to keep someone around

You feel anxious when they pull away because you don’t believe you’ll find better. You stay loyal to potential instead of reality. You chase consistency from someone who has already shown you inconsistency. You make excuses for things you would never accept if you truly believed you had options

Scarcity in relationships looks like holding on tighter the worse it gets. It looks like confusing attachment with connection. It looks like choosing familiarity over peace

When you believe love is limited, you start accepting less of it & when you believe it’s abundant, your standards naturally rise

theambitiouswoman

Your brain doesn’t get tired from doing things, it gets tired from resisting things. When you’re doing nothing your mind starts overthinking and carrying the weight of all the things you’re avoiding. That’s why you feel so tired. It burns more mental energy than simply taking action

Do the thing

theambitiouswoman

I want to add to this that the less you do, the more your brain starts to question your ability to do anything at all. Inaction slowly chips away at your confidence because you’re no longer proving to yourself that you can handle things. This is also true when someone else is doing everything for you like a partner or a parent. Momentum creates evidence. When you stop moving, that evidence disappears, and doubt fills the space. Over time, even simple tasks start to feel heavier than they actually are because you’ve trained your mind to hesitate instead of act

Avoidance creates doubt, and doubt creates more avoidance. The only way out is action, even in small doses

grrlmusic

Tom Ford

theambitiouswoman

Playfulness is the frequency of abundance btw

theambitiouswoman

Things you thought were personality traits but are actually trauma responses

Some things you call “just who I am”are patterns you learned to survive. Alot of what feels natural to you was actually built in environments where you had to adapt, shrink, protect yourself

Here are a few examples

You thought you were “independent” but you struggle to rely on anyone because depending on others never felt safe

You thought you were “low maintenance” but you learned not to ask for much so you wouldn’t be a burden

You thought you were “chill” but you avoid conflict because speaking up once cost you something

You thought you were “an overthinker”but your mind is always scanning for what could go wrong so you can stay one step ahead

You thought you were “a people pleaser”but you learned that being liked was the safest way to stay accepted

You thought you were “emotionally strong” but you’re actually used to suppressing how you feel because no one ever held space for it

You thought you were “private”but opening up has never felt safe enough to try. None of these are flaws. They were intelligent adaptations that helped you navigate situations where you didn’t feel fully secure or supported

But the problem is what once protected you can start limiting you. Because you’re no longer in the same place. But your nervous system still acts like you are. It’s important to separate who you are from what you had to become to survive. And slowly choosing differently. Cause you were never these things you describe yourself to be. You were just responding the only way you knew how