There is nothing you can do to pay for what your Mother has done for you
A man came to ‘Umar [ibn al-Khattab] and said: 'I have an elderly mother who has reached such an old age that she cannot relieve herself except that my back serves as her mount. I perform her ablutions (Wudu) for her while turning my face away [out of modesty]. Have I fulfilled her right over me?'
‘Umar replied: 'No.'
The man said: 'Have I not carried her on my back and devoted my very self to her?'
‘Umar said: 'Indeed, but she used to do the same for you while she prayed for your life to continue, whereas you do this for her while you wait for her to depart [death].'
عن زرعة بن إبراهيم، أن رجلا أتى عمر، فقال: «إن لي أما بلغ بها الكبر، أنها لا تقضي حاجتها إلا وظهري لها مطية، أوضئها، وأصرف وجهي عنها، فهل أديت حقها؟ قال: لا.
قال: أليس قد حملتها على ظهري، وحبست عليها نفسي؟ قال: إنها كانت تصنع ذلك بك وهي تتمنى بقاءك، وأنت تصنع ذلك وأنت تتمنى فراقها
— البر والصلة لابن الجوزي – ابن الجوزي








