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saying "this guy is giving me insane molested vibes" and everyone looks at me like i'm crazy because they're apparently incapable of picking up on insane molested vibes

#Flug and Tsubaki both but like #so super scared of putting themes like that in my art cuz I personally don't want ppl to see it in a kink way #I will project this on literally every single one of my faves but in a “for some reason this thought brings me comfort” way #and nothing else... I'm interested in the psychology and recovery only #I mean. technically they both WERE molested canonically-#tw sa #tw sa mention #what else do you call it when Flug gets forced into a kiss that he didn't consent to enthusiastically and not like that at all #he hesitantly said “on the cheek” and Heed kisses him on the mouth. doesn't look like consent to me #the way he backs up from her stepping closer #and Tsubaki being an experiment victim implies it too idk idk I'm just sayinnn #how tf did they find out that vampires can't reproduce if not like that #oh yeah I'm DEFINITELY not tagging these fandoms #but yeee idk how to draw themes surrounding that and keep myself safe💔#idk if OP meant it like that but either way it's fine just saying how it is for me #I be coming off a lil obsessed with hcs bout that and I'm pretty sure ppl think I'm weird but.#just an interesting thing to explore in this specific way imo #I do pick up those vibes in characters frequently

advantage of being fat: belly acts as a cover in embarrassing situations like these

#why not post that here #flug #dr flug #villainous #kiwi's art #belly kink #idk which tag to use on tumblr no more. there used to be 2 separate ones for spicier and weirder stuff but nobody used those in years #suggestive text

yesornopolls

is kink always sexual?

Is kink always sexual?

Yes

Voting ended onJun 3, 2024

afloweroutofstone

Genuinely confused as to what half of this website thinks kink means

pawberri

People on this post are getting really vitriolic and it interests me so here's my attempt to present some examples of non sexual kink

A completely and sincerely asexual person has a fixation on vore specifically because it's a non-sexual form of intimacy. Outsiders view this interest as inherently sexual and there isn't a "safe for work" context for it, so it falls under the category of kink and fetish.

A person who likes the floaty high you get from engaging in masochism goes to a BDSM club to participate in a scene for the same reason you might go to the club to drink. They don't necessarily want to have sex or get horny, they just want to get kinda brainless from that specific feeling. Every once and a while I just ask my partner to slap my ass cuz the mental jolt feels good, but I don't want to do anything sexual.

An older person who has never heard the term age regression goes to "ageplay" events to participate in completely safe for work age regression. This is really common for people over, like, 30 and a lot of essential miscommunication happens because younger people hear an older person say ageplay is nonsexual (and mean it in a bdsm community context), when it really is true for them.

Someone goes to kink community events purely for the community, this stuff is sometimes purely sexual for them, but often they engage in it without sexual motives.

A person wears leather accessories because they view it as a proud part of LGBT history, but don't actually have any interest in leather as a fetish and don't intend to send a sexual message to anyone by wearing it

It's like how someone might go to shabbat or church while being an atheist. There's a spectrum from true believer who is doing everything in the name of god to person who enjoys an abstract feeling of spirituality to person who is genuinely just there because they're 65 and all their friends belong to that church or they want to talk to people and be social. You can say "well you must inherently be religious" but in practice people are really complex and do things for complicated reasons. If someone says "it's not sexual to me, but it's kink because that's what I've always called it" it's pointless to yell at them about how they don't understand their own feelings.

I think this becomes a sticking point because the "kink can be nonsexual" crowd sometimes insists that that also means "I don't have to tag this nsfw" online. Some extreme people might even be like "well I can do this whole bdsm scene in public because it's nonsexual." I think this is not right. In practice, all of these things should be tagged and done with regard to others' boundaries regardless of personal intent. They're intimate even when sincerely nonsexual. I mean, people should be allowed to wear their little collars and subtle kink stuff even in public, but you usually can't wear your collar to work at the office and you can't look at vore pics there either. Even when a tf of mine is meant to be comforting over being sexual I usually tag it adult because it's literally not safe for work.

pawberri

Idk if this is a hot take but I do feel like a lot of higher support needs or just "weirder" autistic people who have a fixation on something super specific get their interests scorned and end up considering their interest kink because of that. Like someone who is drawing every character from every cartoon they've ever liked doing something super specific really might not have any sexual intent, but the outside world isn't going to take that as a possibility. They probably gain more acceptance and support tagging it vore and joining vore discords and being in a vore community that includes lots of people doing it sexually than they would if they just insisted it wasn't kink and that kink only meant sexual activity. In practice, people see that the community they are accepted in is a "kink community" and then naturally say "well kink isn't inherently sexual" because they're sincerely not sexually into the thing they're really passionate about. Honestly this same thing happens with less niche stuff like bondage where some people just fucking love ropes and want to talk about ropes and tying things and are fine with doing it on a human body because you can have some rope community that way. Their interest in doing rope stuff sexually might even come AFTER the whole rope interest thing. Like the sexual part of the ropes can be a subcategory of their broader non-sexual rope fixation. Leather is even more broad where leather clothes were fet gear, but you couldn't possibly call them inherently sexual now.

pawberri

Tl;dr you can say "a nonsexual kink is just called an interest", but there are certain interests that are never ever going to be read by the average person as non-sexual. It's less work for more reward to say "I'm part of the kink community nonsexually" than to try to fight the uphill battle of getting normal people to accept your weirdo interest.

#I've literally wondered what my kink(?) interest(?) is called bc #I see others engaging in feedism with the end goal of arousal and having sex #but I don't want to #first of all it's not smth that works irl anyway #the thought of my fav fictional characters being well fed just makes me happy and calm and I get a weird giddy feeling in my body #I think I might be aroused but I do not want to think of the character doing anything to me nor do I do anything sexual myself #I think I just like to be a little horny and that's it. I don't wanna finish #I'm almost entirely sure this obsession just comes from my childhood experience with poverty and some trauma #like TW #how I was forced to eat things I didn't want to eat or my punishment for doing smth bad was not getting food #so now it's comforting to me to think my fav characters always go to sleep well fed with their fav food.#and as so often ig my brain connected a few weirdly sexual feelings with it #I just like to stare.#my mind connects being fat with beauty and good mental and physical health #just bc in my own experience being skinny is the opposite. I never liked it & people always made fun of me and I won't eat when I'm unhappy #I know that doesn't need to be true irl tho. but it's idealized like that in my brain #being super underweight feels miserable my heart is always racing and I'm anxious and cold and have stomach aches #it's such a desirable fantasy for my favs to live in luxury (not hungry not in pain🩷)#being fat reads to me “they're rich and either get loved by someone or they at least love themselves enough to take good care of themselves”#does any of that shit make sense and is this even sexual or nah #I am a “weirder” level 2 autistic also. I believe this is a nonsexual kink but I am not sure #either way I tag but I am slightly put off when scenarios go too much into a traditional sex direction

bc I read a few posts like that on my tl, I'll share smth weird and that's that I've always refused to draw any of my favs with circumcised dicks. when I do draw nsfw.

man fuck the censorship on this website bc I actually have so so much nsfw of Flug that I love. I don't even do anything crazy with him I kinda always liked to just draw him hanging out naked or smth.

anyway I used to have a friend who asked me for a tutorial how I draw dicks, and I made her one but made it clear I'll personally refuse to draw cut dicks, however she's free to google for references. I'm just not gonna do that to my favs.

it also doesn't make sense! Flug is german, or in canon icelandic. we don't really do that. my other 2 favs are also european and japanese so the chance is pretty low. it doesn't seem like any of them are religious now or have grown up like that. so nope for me

anyway for some reason she responded very passive aggressively "ok I'll draw all my favs circumcised lol" and I was like??? ok? weird flex to support genital mutilation without medical reason so adamantly but ok man, whatever...

#I know it sometimes has to be done later in adulthood bc there's an actual issue with the foreskin being too tight for some(?)#so that's fine. I'm also fine with people choosing to do so later for aesthetic or religious beliefs if they're an adult #like that's your body #do whatever you want ig #text post #ranting #I'm just really against it idk #I don't even understand the aesthetic argument bc... yeah I think fully intact penises look cooler to me #“it's more hygienic” oh for the love of god please just learn to wash yourself properly it can't be that hard #and under us...... “you last longer” well. perhaps I don't want my favs to last long in bed! have you considered that

well let me stop whining and show you some nonsense. I won't even tag the fandom but you can ig... anyway is this anything? I'm sorry I don't really fw this ship so I thought of ways I could rewrite it into Flug not ever having had a crush on Heed and rejecting her. she never seemed like someone he would be into imo

#kiwi's art #flug #that's all the tags you get good luck finding this

sometimes, online, I wish I was more into "yucky", "problematic" things, into toxic ship dynamics, and all... bc I feel like I'd have more options. I tried, I really did try to force myself into it, to just be fine with everything so I can easily get along with almost everyone. life is easier when you have few to no dislikes. I thought if I look at it enough and make enough art like that myself, eventually I'll just develop towards it. but didn't happen. I always felt like an imposter just trying on a costume and everybody can tell I don't belong. I can't shake that I'm stupidly boring. too simple and sensitive. I don't judge anyone, it just sucks that it's a fact that my type of interests are less popular. and I won't force myself into spaces. my very nature isolates me...

I've definitely noticed a lack of interest in my art and writing since I do what I love, but that no longer includes suggestive themes. I do hate that I'm that type of asexual sometimes. I wish I had a normal interest in this like everyone else. people only liked me bc I made sexual art. fine. but saddening, bc I unfortunately didn't have fun...

#text post #is it a crime to be gentle BOTH irl and in fiction...

am I wrong for being disappointed, sad and wishing a fandom was... less weird?

I mean I am weird and I love weird, but not that type of weird.

it's just not what I expected and it is basically entirely unsuitable for me. I really wish it was fun, I could make friends and talk about my interests and that more people would share those. I'm technically forced to keep to myself

I'm just icked by incest, not enough to block anything bc I don't care for any of the characters or ships so I'm more or less simply indifferent, but yeah. I just have completely different preferences than ANYONE. I almost feel like I'm "too young" in that space even though I'm one of the oldest.

I wish the topics were softer, less sexual and more wholesome and happy or I think funny is a very good description. I have to admit I mainly love the canon source for its humor actually instead of the serious plot although it is very good, but I don't personally like to make angst art or stories myself.

for some reason there are little to no headcanons around neurodivergency, and I feel a bit afraid and cringe of sharing my thoughts or my art. I've headcanoned one character to be autistic since over 10 years and I was always pretty sure about that, I feel like there are some signs, but I feel like I'm literally gonna get laughed at if I share it. now when I think about it, maybe it is a bit far fetched and odd. but ig it just comforts me to think all my favorites are autistic. it's also pretty supernatural, which makes sense, the canon source is, but I feel so cringe with my weird little realistic slice of life streetlife AU. I feel like there's very little whimsy in that circle. I kinda prefer comedy instead of angst and sexual topics. I lowkey hc a lot of characters to be repulsed/indifferent aroaces but maybe that is bc I've known that series for so goddamn long since my preteens so it's like a special exceptions. I don't mind seeing or even making nsfw of Flug for example, but smth in me doesn't want to think of my childhood comfort characters in any sexual way.

I believe my personal connection and backstory with them accompanying me throughout my horrific nightmarish highschool time may have just put some special mental blockages around certain topics involving them and that's too deeply ingrained in me. I mainly used them for comfort so I always wanted them to be happy in all art and writing and I have a lower tolerance for seeing them in traumatic or "gross" (from my view) situations. I literally used them to calm myself into a little escapist world where "everything is fine"

#text post #ranting #that's all I'll use this acc occasionally for idk

I have like... a consent kink. or smth. but also that's impossible bc it's the default. but like especially in fiction it's comforting to me to have explicitly stated enthusiastic consent, kinda gets me excited. the glow in their eyes, leaning towards each other more, grabbing and pulling the other so they don't stop, long drawn out whiny "yes"' and "more"s

when the focus is really in that yk, the body language and verbal shit, I kinda fw that.

the communication / negotiation part is more interesting than the sex, I usually stop reading before that

#I'm asexual and a level 2 autistic #so idk #I think people hating on this kind of thing don't realize that often times writers and artists like that are not cringy or nothin #they're also just survivors and cope in the exact opposite way #it's comforting to see it “done right” how it was supposed to go very realistically and gentle #I like when 2 characters are so madly in love and desperate for each other #the most normal Thing on the planet probably