Why this fear?
Our society has engineered a whole generation driven by outcomes. We measure everything. Our addiction to results has led us to quantify even the emotions. And in all this, we made love measurable. What makes you happy? An extremely difficult question with weirdly complex answers. We all are so confused. We are calculating the confusion too.
We meet someone amazing, and immediately start deducing on what will be the results. What will be this relationship like? Can I settle down with this person? As soon as things get real, we run, we run so fast thinking we are protecting ourselves. We call it a practical approach. “I didn’t want to be vulnerable.” “I want this to work out but ...”. We are the loyal subjects of a treacherous world of what-ifs and buts. In our attempt to be as practical as possible, we have shut down our emotional side to take risks. This is the same generation of risk takers who would not be bound by stability of one job, who would go exploring countries rather than increasing the amount in their bank account, who would choose experiences, cultures over security of one place. Then why do we refrain from taking the same risk when it comes to love? What has made us so scared?