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I suspect it’s difficult for men to imagine a world in which their bodies have long been inextricably linked to their value as an individual, and that no matter how encouraging your parents were or how many positive female role models you had or how self-confident you feel, there is an ever-present pressure that creeps in from all sides, whispering in your ear that you are your body and your body defines you.

That’s really crux of it. You can be sad or anxious or upset when everything is good. And it’s okay if you can’t explain it and it’s okay if you can’t figure it out. It’s not a thing to be figured out. It’s just what it is. You are allowed to feel however you feel. That’s not to say you shouldn’t get help, or take meds or talk to someone. But the problem starts with denying myself the right to even experience what I’m experiencing. I shut down even further out of anguish that I’m weak or wrong for being upset.