You touch a woman and she appears to like it.
Another time when you see her, you touch her again in a similar way and she finds it creepy.
You may be wondering why this is happening. She liked it at first. So what changed?
The difference is that the first time it happened, you were carefully trying to read her boundaries. You were slowly experimenting to find out what she likes and what she doesn't. You started out using the default setting of how people in general should interact with people in general, and you then slowly increased the physical contact while each time making sure she has a reasonable way out. You were paying attention to what she initiates in order to make sure it's not one sided. Meanwhile, the second time, you were just copying the parts that you liked from the first time. The first time, you were doing everything the correct way. The second time, you went in with expectations.
When something happens that feels good to you, it's natural that you'd want to recreate it. But you have to recreate the conditions that made her like it. You can't just recreate only the parts you like. You have to carefully read her boundaries again just like you did the first time. Also, you won't always be able to recreate it. It's possible that what happened is something that she only wanted to happen once. It's possible that she's not in a touchy mood this time. It's possible that she now has a romantic partner or is now looking for one. And there are many other reasons for someone's boundaries to change.
















