Vague blogging & Why it is harmful (to everyone but especially those with anxiety disorders.) #ooc post
(Alternate title: Why I have a no tolerance policy on vaguing and block everyone who does it.)
Tbh I’ve wanted to talk about this for a while as an explanation as to WHY I have a no tolerance for vague blogging or people that pull me into ooc drama.This specific type of bullying (not pulling any punches here that’s what this is) has become popular and almost applauded on here. And even more so in the rp community.
I’m talking specifically ooc vague blogging.
Here’s the deal. I understand that you possibly may think that you are doing yourself or even others a service by “vauging” or being vague about someone but I am here to tell you that you look like nothing but a complete asshole. It makes you noting more than a bully. Sorry I don’t make the rules I just point everyone back to them.
If you are vauging about someone for some reason, I don’t care what it is about, you could just as easily go to that person and tell them to stop. It takes a few clicks, and even better you can send instant messages that are as a whole completely private and can’t be accidentally published. I know it’s hard but please don’t be “that person.” No one is comfortable or trusts “that person.” (To be clear if you “vague” you are the person I’m talking about. This includes mutual follows. This is me calling you out on behavior that can be and is bullying.)
Also to be clear I’m not talking about in character vague blogging. There are characters that are shady, disgusting, terrible and just don’t care about the mental and emotional fortitude and health of other characters. That’s understandable. If we didn’t have these deplorable elements there wouldn’t be a nice plot to rp right?
I’m talking specifically ooc vague blogging!
When you “vauge” about someone the possibility of every possible follower you have that possibly might have anxiety issues starts to question if it’s about them. It’s not something that you can avoid. It’s not something that they can avoid. It just happens. And this can cause severe anxiety attacks, things that can then cause extreme mental and emotional set backs for this follower.
Do you want to be the person that sends someone into an anxiety attack? Do you want to honestly give this person possible emotional damage?
Do you want to be the kind of person that when this follower looks back at this point of their life they only remember the passive aggressive hate they recieved from you?
Is what you are vague blogging about really worth the emotional turmoil you are going to put this real person through?
I really hope the answer to these is no! And honestly it’s easy to prevent this kind of thing happening.
Talk to the person. Just talk to them. Send them an ask that’s like “hey i’m no longer comfortable with this” “i don’t like what you’re doing can you stop?” or even “if you don’t stop doing this i’ll have to block you” 9/10 times the person will stop. Astounding I know. #sarcasm.
Use your tags. Tag your post with #not mutuals, #offline conflict or something like that IF it applies to that. Don’t lie to your followers, and if it is about a follower see #1. If you know you have followers that just cannot see vague blogging at all or it’ll harm them at least tag it #vague blogging or something.
Don’t even do it? This has got to be the easiest one to follow. Why even vague ooc on your rp blog when you can just as easily not. Talk to someone off tumblr about it. Send someone you know an im. Talk about it on your personal (if you have one). There are more than enough outlets for you to go to instead of publicly being a jerk on your ic rp blog.
TLDR: Vague blogging only hurts people (and not always just the ones you’re trying to hurt) don’t do it.