you're not a monster

INFJ, 6w5 | adhd, bpd neurodivergent | video games, animes, books, love to discover philosophical and psychological stuff

[meineluft]

“Learn to be alone, and to like it. There’s nothing more freeing and empowering than learning to like your own company.”

— Mandy Hale

[unwelcome-ozian]

[unwelcome-ozian]

[thezeroquotes]

“Be brave enough to be bad at something new.”

— Unknown

[chibird]

Please don’t feel bad for resting when your body or soul needs it! 💛

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[thehopefulquotes]

“The struggle you’re in today is developing the strength you need for tomorrow.”

— Unknown

[thehopefulquotes]

“Everyone you meet is fighting a battle you know nothing about. Be kind. Always.”

— Unknown

[thehopefulquotes]

“It’s funny how humans can wrap their mind around things and fit them into their version of reality.”

— Rick Riordan, The Lightning Thief

[zennou]

“You can only grow if you’re willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new.”

— Brian Tracy (via quotemadness)

[thehopefulquotes]

“Unless you try to do something beyond what you have already mastered you will never grow.”

— Ralph Waldo Emerson (via thoughtkick)

[thehopefulquotes]

If you want to choose the pleasure of growth, prepare yourself for some pain.

— Irvin D. Yalom

[tfw-adhd]

This ADHD and Autism Venn Diagram was requested even more highly than the ADHD and PTSD diagram, and I finally got round to making it…

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

Apologies for the difficulty reading this and the lack of text description (hands hurting too much atm and can’t find a version with text)

[failurebot]

I gotta say the executive dysfunction stuff on the ADHD side of this diagram should really be in the center because executive dysfunction is not exclusive to just ADHD. (coming from an autistic person who very much struggles with executive dysfunction and always has)

[13faeinapenguinsuit]

The reason it is not is because there are some very specific things that have been learned about ADHD impacting the frontal lobe - which plays a significant and outsized role in executive function. The same is not seen in autistics that do not meet the criteria for ADHD (and yes, this has been studied repeatedly, and no I do not have DOIs handy).

You are right that executive dysfunction is a large part of ASD for many of us. The difference is that with ADHD we know that there is a specific thing that is very likely causal. With ASD the most we know is that it happens; that a correlation exists but nothing to suggest causation. This makes it a symptom, yes, but not necessarily a clinical trait (though it wouldn’t surprise me if we did eventually find a causal source of executive dysfunction in autism, I wouldn’t count on it).

From a community perspective and a peer support perspective that is mincing words. From a clinical, Science! perspective it is an important distinction, I think. At least with our current understanding.

[thespilledquotes]

Accept yourself, love yourself, and keep moving forward. If you want to fly, you have to give up what weighs you down.

— Roy T. Bennett, The Light in the Heart

[quotemadness]

“My point is, there are a lot of people in the world. No one ever sees everything the same way you do; it just doesn’t happen. So when you find one person who gets a couple of things, especially if they’re important ones… you might as well hold on to them.”

— Sarah Dessen

[thezeroquotes]

I sympathise with everybody, damn it, and see why they are the way they are.

— Kurt Vonnegut

[thehopefulquotes]

Millions of people have decided not to be sensitive. They have grown thick skins around themselves just to avoid being hurt by anybody. But it is at great cost. Nobody can hurt them, but nobody can make them happy either.

— Osho

[stay-close]

And then I felt sad because I realized that once people are broken in certain ways, they can't ever be fixed, and this is something nobody ever tells you when you are young and it never fails to surprise you as you grow older as you see the people in your life break one by one. You wonder when your turn is going to be, or if it's already happened.

— Douglas Coupland, Life After God