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Outside this window #58
Outside this window the moon heaves her waxy yellow self above the last chimney opposite our house and offers an audience. I lean out the kitchen window holding up my phone to capture this luna superstar. Instead of the usual images showing a far too distant and frustrating dim glow she dominates the sky as though lit up by a brand new bulb.
She is a supermoon, waxing ever closer and larger until last night, at her mightiest and closest, she rewarded B with a glow so bright, lighting his route from London to Nottingham. I ran downstairs to see for myself but she hadn’t yet cleared the rooftops and what with half listening to Bram Stoker having a writers’ crisis on BBC3, scribbling notes and editing, by the time I remembered and dashed down she’d cleared the houses and off out of view, vexed with my earthly prioritising. #damn
She’s too right to be in a huff. There was a time I couldn’t do anything if the moon was in the sky. What else could be more interesting to a curious mind than a giant white planet-thing gazing down upon us, all milky mystery and blueish light?
When I was little-er the moon was everything I loved about daydreaming. She was governed by laws I only began to understand the first time I remember reading a poem and wanting to dive into it and eat the words (Roy Campbell’s The Zebras). But that was in high school. I’m talking about being little enough to go to school and not have homework.
The moon blinked slowly back at me as I tried to hug her from where I was on the ground. At Rose Cottage she beamed across our backgarden transforming the bleak black Derbyshire skies. Sometimes I could see all the way from the bedroom window out to where the chickens were beyond the lawn and the tree with my sister’s swing. The flowerbeds became velvety cracks, as though we’d snapped the four corners off a large slab of chocolate; the roses were transformed into stalactites. The huge round circles of lawn connected by the stone bench looked like furry bellies in the blueish haze. Such was the moon’s command over my world, I would go outside and sing to her with Dad. He held me up off the ground and our voices floated up towards her inscrutable gaze, I see the moon and the moon sees me / God bless the moon / and God bless me
Sometimes I hum, sometimes I mutter and sometimes I sing the words quietly, when certain I am absolutely alone and only God can hear me. But I cannot ignore her; her pull both enticing and intimidating me — reassuring me too as she reminds me where I am: standing on on a tiny dot hurtling through outer space — and always calming me. At the sight of her, worry and concern grab their bags and head for the door. Because at the sight of her I am reminded these petty troubles I allow to nibble my nerves are man made — part of the world as opposed to of the earth — and that alone is enough to have these two shuffling and sidling from view like the demented town criers and harbingers of unsubstantiated destruction they are.
Outside this window is the infinite possibility of ourselves gazing back upon us. And, like all the best things in life, she keeps her own time. To see her every night would be banal — such is our nature. Our need to keep our nerves alight with discombobulated narration running like a hissing radio, until she appears to remind us. And we remember something about ourselves we can’t quite put our finger on. Time slips beyond a ticking clock and into the seductive pull of wonder. And we slip beyond ourselves and into this moment.
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Outside this window #57
Outside this window the garbage truck idles on glistening tarmac darkened by the shower early this morning. Sunlight floods everything in her path, beaming my world into bristling clarity. I have been housed in the shadow of this world for three days, dulled by a bout of flu that connected with the force of a sledgehammer seeking to destroy. A world listlessly punched and pummelled by a mind teeming with words, and a body too aching and tired to do anything with them other than read theory and make notes. The loss of my sense of smell made the world dull. Dullness is never good.
Working for studio time. In our bright breezy worlds my life is one forged — as an old friend of mine remarked to me on my good fortune — from “landing with your bum in the butter, hey Fran”. I’d rather have others think me lucky than a person dulled by fear, anxiety and the great creative What If. I work hard for my studio time and I have learned to do so with a clear precision and efficiency; in exchange my surgical dedication affords me anarchy on the page. But dullness muddies the mind. It renders cogs gloopy and full of swampy soup, each bucket of the water wheel tipping stagnant slimy liquid into a moat of stagnant slimy liquid where I drown slowly.
So I go to my usual Go-To’s. Cooking is a loyal companion to writing; the process of creating nourishment unearths treasures for the page. Pleasure glimmered in the ritual but the loss of being unable to taste a preview of what was to come left me blind to what I was creating. A very strong curry it turns out. A traditional recipe I grew up with. B’s visiting Italian friend is fascinated: they have curry in Cape Town? I show her the book I must return to my sister. She is fascinated. “In Napoli we have just opened our first Indian restaurant — our first! Can you imagine?” Her dark eyes burn. I sprinkle nutmeg and brown sugar, floundering in the dark with this blasted babotie, trying to temper flavours created when I forgot I could not smell a thing.
Dullness is a disease; an insidious bastard that creeps into lives on the back of jarring experience. When the 24cm chef’s knife entered my left thigh it felt like the dull thud of a hard punch. So convinced was I that I’d been hit I bellowed at the Chef before me, misreading his bulging eyes, and tried to thump him back. Difficult because I was carrying a heavy platter at the time, but I did it anyway; my temper overrode reality. I was brutal. Who does this guy think he is? What a fool. But his eyes. His eyes.
The light caught the blades glinting between us beneath the platter. There were two. One paring knife. One chef’s knife. “Please be the small one” my mind whispered, before I registered what had happened. In the background a dull NO grew louder and louder until the pressure inside my head forced me to see my blood on the larger blade. NO. The white tiles. White tiles. Nice white tiles. The night Chef pulling back the innocent looking flap in my suit trousers revealing the hole in my thigh.
Living with PTSD was a bizarre tripped out experience of dullness placing me at the pointy end of my life. Alice fell down the wrong rabbit hole. This one full of shadow and fear; reflections inverted, insisting whispers describing imminent danger, reliving the moment he removed the knife while I fold the laundry, when I turn to greet B…. My life left balancing on the lip of a bristling scream.
At first I had no idea. I felt great. I didn’t want to talk about what had happened and I wanted to return to work immediately. I jumped at the silly Playschool challenge B set me: if I can walk around Sainsburys then of course, back to work I could go. Easy. See? I’m doing fine. See? But the experience felt as though it was happening in another room. I could not put my finger on it. I didn’t like the way the shoppers felt, the way they converged on me, That one nearly knocked into me! The man helping at the self check out stood too close to me — what the hell is his problem? Stand back! Give me space! Why is everyone staring? Why am I crying. Why can’t I stop.
Limping to the car park. B telling me I’d be alright. The world rushing rushing up to meet me. I felt so unprepared; why won’t the rushing stop. This man I have been dating two weeks who I inexplicably phoned while on Park Lane waiting for the taxi to take me to A&E so no one would see an ambulance stopping outside this iconic address. I am terrible at asking for help. But that night I knew the truth, even if I was unable to admit it. And the next day in the carpark I wanted to cower in the sooty corner and scream until there was nothing left. I didn’t. What would people think? We walked slowly home. He switched off my phone. Tucked me into his bed. And I drifted between worlds, watching my old reassuring place in life drowning slowly beneath the waves of this uninvited experience. I watched it go under in silence. Someone else’s mistake costing me my place.
“Be nice Frances, he’s trying to apologise”. Shoving his face into mine as I stared down at the hole in my leg. The panic around me. No one knew what to do. I kept talking. My only goal to get out of that basement kitchen. Three weeks later I took the sleeping pills. Months of drifting suspended in a muffled reality interfered with by flash backs, nightmares, counselling and confusion. I didn’t believe for a moment I had PTSD. I felt I was hitching my sorry self to a bandwagon I had neither the right nor the experience to claim. I just needed to snap out of it. Or scream. I really wanted to scream.
I was referred to a PTSD clinic at St George’s hospital. I sailed through the assessment process, and was confused when they said they believed they could help me. Help what? That specific pang of fear that comes when one feels utterly alone. How wrong everyone is about me. How disconnected. So when I was offered the choice between a five day intensive clinic and a three month weekly session plan, it was a no brainer. I knew the five day intensive would reveal the obvious medical error with their diagnosis. I would be set straight by a team of two psychologists and I’d be able to return to my old life. Because I didn’t like this one. I didn’t like who I had become. I didn’t trust my aggression with crowds so I avoided them. I didn’t like how angry I felt at the supermarket so I went at odd times. I didn’t know what to say but I didn’t stop talking. This is the best thing that’s ever happened to me! It must be, right? It must be! The circumstances are so WEIRD — it must be the best thing!
I did not shut up. Get me out of here. Get me away from here. I was lost in a dull channel of blurred distorted truth. Whatever you do, don’t scream. You will not be able to stop.
Accepting my strange reality was a gradual sharpening of perception. Those five days with two psychologists was what it said on the tin; no words of mine could ever capture their dedication and fearless relentless gentle pressure nudging me towards clarity. The experience culminated in a return to the site of the trauma: me and two intrepid psychologists. In my case we were unable to return to the actual site, so we went to a similar five star establishment. They made the arrangements; all I had to do was show up. We met at Victoria Station and walked together in the sunshine. I had no idea what to expect. I wanted to be brave. I wanted to see this thing through properly. There’s no way I’m coming back here to do this again.
Three women watching a busy lunch service inside a five star commercial kitchen. No one, not even the Executive Chef of twenty five years, knew which one of us had experienced the trauma, nor did they know what the trauma was. At first, breathing was my focus. Breathing through the rage of all I left behind that night. Two pairs of eyes checking on me. You ok? I’m ok. How many? I shrugged. How many? Defeat. I know where they all are. All of them. My Bourne-like ability to know where every single knife in a room was at any given moment was a frustrating foray into the world of detail I had heretofore avoided.
Hypotheticals can be an inrresponsible and dangerous way to communicate ideas. This experience was my exception because it led me to truth. The Executive Chef had at some point made his way over to me, this redhead watching the pass like a hawk, like a professional yet jumping at anything and everything as though she’d never seen the inside of a commercial kitchen. Oh yes, he said, getting a word in through my hypothetical chatter. People do get stabbed. But then he described inexperienced chefs popping a paring knife into their pocket and crouching down to retrieve something from the regiment of steel fridges beneath the pass. Ouch.
No. I mean when someone is stabbed say, like over there where you have the stairs. His eyes narrow. Then widen. I don’t understand, he says. So I point. If for example, someone was walking down those stairs and then a Chef came round the corner —
A flurry of his incredulous questions discredit my outlandish suggestion. His eyes glare down at me. He is insulted. What is this woman on about? What sort of kitchen is she describing? Who would allow such a — She can’t possibly mean —
Our exchange was swift. We smiled at everyone as the kitchen wound down lunch service, and I quietly set out the facts of my hypothetical situation…. that became But What If when he challenged me… and became This is what happened to me when I knew I must travel beyond the scream, beyond those stairs spiralling down to a chef’s knife and beyond what anyone thought of me. The defeat and liberation involved in saying This is what happened to me…. To me. When I was coming down the stairs. When I was thinking of seeing B later after reading his text about a bottle of red. This is what happened to me — when I wasn’t looking. This man I had just met who made me so happy. Instead of all the fun and happiness I had worked for that night, I was left contending with someone else’s mistake.
The A&E doctor says, You’re lucky. This cut is surgical. Oh yes, my friend who is also a chef accompanying me, said. The knives were sharpened just yesterday. The doctors eyes swivel to mine. You are very lucky, he said. Yes, I am, I said. What’s that white stuff? I pointed at the hole, nearly glued closed. Fat, the doctor said. We laugh. This isn’t so bad, I thought. My only concern was the time. It was nearly 2am and I had to be back in the kitchen for a double shift starting at 10.
Its a stormy night. No taxis outside. We wait and walk and wait in the downpour and wind. And I catch the bus alone, because my friend the chef has work tomorrow and….you’ll be ok though, right? Me? Of course! But after a few minutes rocked slowly by the bus trundling through dark wet streets I don’t think I am. I stare down at Chelsea through the wind and rain, watching people running in their Saturday night finest to cars and taxis and doorways for cheeky cigarettes. I watch them and feel engulfed by this night. Going past Park Lane on my way home. Watching the place where I rang B just a few hours earlier. Seeing one of the waiters waiting for his bus looking up at me at the bus stop. His shock at seeing me. His eyes asking a million questions to tell others later. I try to smile from my seat up top. Not knowing what to say or do because there is this dullness wrapping everything. Wrapping my life in bubble wrap. Placing me on the shelf. Wrapping me up in a scream I am too frightened to make.
This is what I could have prevented if I was paying attention. Those words feel so true. The mountains I climbed towards accepting they could never be so was what the five day clinic was about — and this conversation with this Executive Chef was as authentic as I allowed myself to be.
When Chef replied it was after his eyes followed the path down the stairs I describe. We are no longer smiling. We agreed its uncanny how similar the two kitchens are. But mine didn’t have the mirror showing round the corner, I pointed. Chef shook his head. His attitude and choice of words allowed some light to return. His anger and frustration and sole intent was to make me understand just how unlikely and unfortunate my circumstance was that night. He described how ashamed and disappointed he would be in himself, the lord of his kitchen if his staff made such an error of judgement. My whispers of taking responsibility for everything began to lose their hold over me.
He walked us out. He hugged me at the entrance. I didn’t know how to say Thank You and nearly told everyone a secret he told me in the kitchen. That made him laugh. The three of us walked in the startling winter sunshine. I was elated, yes. I had Chef’s words and blazing eyes telling me what I knew to be true. I also felt hollow and alone and angry and ripped off. But alive. So fucking alive.
We walked to Victoria Station. I said Thank You over and over to the two women who now know me better than most. The crowds drove me mad and I was frustrated that this was now my experience doing something as ordinary as walk in a city, something I’ve always been able to do, something I’ve always loved to do— something I missed and was determined to do again; but I no longer needed to scream. The dull thump of fear had lost its grip of this clarified heart. Finally.
Dullness. Its like living your life from another part of the house. Losing my sense of smell may not seem like big potatoes to most. Rest up, get better, repeat. Simples. Surely? To work your ass off to get coveted studio time — three whole days of precious time devoted to being tucked away inside my favourite place in the world writing the pages waiting to be captured — and wake up stapled to the matress unable to breathe, drenched in that hideous cloak of dullness nearly sent me round the twist.
Nearly. But not quite. I explored a world I couldn’t smell or taste. I drifted into that uncomfortable rest involving the sudden inability to breathe, and remembered what life was like balancing on the edge of that shrill scream. Its been four and a half years. Three days blocked by flu put to bed eighteen months of muffled steps through a hell so personal and accidental four and a half years ago, most days my new life absorbs the experience so it barely makes a ripple on my surface. Perhaps we aren’t supposed to know how close we come to losing ourselves.
Outside this window the magpie makes her machine gun rattle, warning anyone who thinks of attempting to rile her to think again. The breeze has kicked up. I can just about smell the sandalwood drifting through the studio. I’m ready for more coffee. I’m ready to claim the new path I’ve trampled these past four years as indeed the best thing that’s ever happened to me. And B has just popped home, offering me tea.
Awake, dear heart, awake!
- Prospero, The Tempest
Long Beach, Cape Town 02 14
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Rathgar, Ireland
Outside this window #55
Outside this window a hawk rests on the smooth metal rail of a footbridge above the M40. Hooded eyes, hunched shoulders and hooked beak do nothing to capture her secretive stillness. She waits for the world to offer her prey and watches us hurtle after ours. Earlier we wriggled out of SW4 ahead of the 7am cowboys. Just after the bridge I pressed the button releasing my window. I asked the cyclist to steady his strobing white l-e-d front light blinding everyone in their side mirrors for the past couple of miles. “MOVE” he shouted. I laughed. White dots danced across wherever I looked. (We were at a red light and I was the passenger.) It took him a moment to realise I wasn’t swearing or hurling insults but that didn’t quell the rage steaming from his small blue eyes just visible over the balaclava type hankercief he tied to his face to help mask the noxious fumes he ingests while cycling to stay healthy. We stopped for coffee before dropping down into North Wales where the sea unfurled herself, all crushed velvet navy blues. Broad strokes of golden sunshine swept aside lingering mist hiding in nooks and valleys pocked with tufts of grazing sheep. Coffee was alright; I was distracted by a persistent wasp investigating the metal ring at the top corner of a plastic roadsign. “I’ve found it!” he’d shout when he arrived back at Wasp HQ, certain of his imminent promotion. “We’ll live like kings!” Three mothers with pushchairs filled with squawking toddlers chatted on the blind corner leading to the entrance of the car park. We avoided them as we drove past, we parked and ambled through automatic doors. Inside two children made me laugh. One little girl lay waiting to go home on a pile of large sacks I thought were full of spuds until I saw letters trotting out the word Tomatoes (can’t be, surely —tomatoes in sacks?); a little-er girl with two sprouty pig tails attached like anttenae pushed her thick rimmed purple glasses back to touch the bridge of her nose and tapped the stack of cupped cardboard boxes in excitement. “ETHS!” Her Mum grinned. “Yes…eggs”. At the port we were recognised. “Back again are yer?” the scouser port officer drawled as we pulled up alongside him. The crows gathered to snack on dismembered insects arranged like platters from heaven along front fenders of cars, vans and trucks. A collection of golden propeller blades slept like shells in the blustery midday sunshine. We watched Alec Baldwin capture Trump’s Chi-NAH, and a little old lady making her way across a zebra crossing smack the bonnet of a convertible with her walking stick deploying the driver’s airbag and bringing an abrupt end to his hooting that she move out of his way. I saved a bunch of articles to read tonight including Menendez brothers, Aleppo, Anne Coulter on Trump, an essay a grieving wife wrote about her husband Robin Williams, a famous blogger I’ve never heard of who wrote an extraordinary memoir, Gaiman on why we read, bits and pieces across the weekend including Trump’s leaked tax return. My feed is saturated with news of a woman tied up alone in her rented bathroom in Paris while masked gunmen stole her belongings. I don’t care how famous or rich you are. That’s terrifying. I pick through screaming headlines and whispered gossip. I choose stories. I wade through words, climb paragraphs and mark ideas glinting amongst narratives with flags made of post its. But that’s later. Right now we are chugging across belching water bound for Dublin. I am writing these words. I look up; I am in the shadow of a blonde woman related to Giant Haystacks clutching a pint. I did not notice her approach. I look up as she was about to sit on B who is fast asleep on the booth seat opposite me. Excuse me….that’s my partner…please don’t sit on him,” I said. My courduroy elbowed cardigan professor tone is a mystery to me. As it was a few years ago at 3am when the inexperienced bus driver and his lone passenger, yours truly, slid sideways down the snow covered hill in Dulwich. Bus driver gave up. I didn’t. That night I decided there is no excuse no matter how frightening the circs, to bellow,“Come on man, get a hold of yourself!” particularly when I don’t have a license but was prepared to take the wheel — and take us where, I do not know. I sounded then as I did just now as I imagine a royal would if she was directing traffic at Hyde Park Corner. At the sound of my Queeny tone B’s eyes snap open. The pitching tower of woman blinked at my words and sat with a thump anyway. She grinned down at B. I find it impossible not to laugh and use the rolling motion of the ferry to hide my shaking shoulders. We relocate to two sun filled recliners at the front; next to me is the gentle droning hum of a middle aged Irishman, and his meandering conversation to his sleepy wife as they gaze at sky and water before us. He wears a large solid gold ring; tiny diamonds trace the shape of a horseshoe. “His wife left him, his cat died, he scratched his car then got a written warning … he went downhill from there…” Outside this window we stumble from our beds and wake many times to discover an untamed ingenious self conscious world mirroring our conflicted, brilliant and absurd selves. If we have any sense, we smile. For everything else there’s coffee.
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Dublin 09 16
Outside this window 53
Outside this window today waits to surprise me.
I stumbled back to bed clutching coffee. My eyes felt grainy, like I’d slept on a beach. I wish. Instead I set my alarm for one hour earlier than intended. Confused questioning first thing in the morning is never good. Words are hard to form. Listening is a struggle. The world swims in and out of focus. Brain refuses to reason; instead it demands answers. Why is this happening? Circumstance has a dream like quality where the improbable is absolutely true until truth tunnels her way through to me and drags me into the light. Like the time I fell asleep, missed the end of a film and insisted to B that Home Shopping was part of the plot.
So when I stumbled back to bed this morning I was still fruitlessly wondering how, how did I manage to do this? We could have had a whole ‘nother hour of shut eye if it wasn’t for my stupid alarm. It’s all so important. Dramatic. Heightened. Urgent. Which is fundamentally strange because my functioning ability at that time is anything but ‘heightened’. I can barely speak. Likewise it’s odd I don’t have the energy to open my eyes yet I can be fully relied upon to have a dramatic response to any undesired situation first thing in the morning. My sense of urgency is devoted to going back to sleep. Coffee keeps tantrums subdued. Any undesired situation involves anything that does not involve coffee.
So it was later than usual when I yanked back the curtain. Usually I gather the spectrum of blues; the harder cotton at the back and the softer silk at the front. I gather them together and tie them to the side leaving the turqoise veil. While I am gathering and tying I am gazing at the world outside, orientating myself. Not today. I yanked the curtain to the side, spun around and schlumped back into bed. After yesterday’s dullness I was not expecting much. And I certainly wasn’t expecting a beautiful autumn morning. The sky is a perfect blue; leaves dangle and wag like lambs’ tails, and the sun casts her golden shadow across Friday.
Gazing at the changing light while sipping coffee from my bed. Gentle sunlight melted the grainy veil from my eyes. Reason shuffled back to take his place with the rest of my Advisors. Urgency parked his car and walked towards the house. And me — the person buried beneath the lack of sleep and the cups of coffee — breathed an ecstatic Thank you into the ether.
Outside this window are an infinite number of reasons to be tired. But just as I realised I could not write and worry about what was going to happen next, I know I am safer than most. Safe to hear the silence between birds calling to each other.
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South Kensington 09 16