How To Manifest Your Future Husband in 5 Steps
Manifesting love does not have to be difficult. In fact, once you know the formula, you can take back control and start having fun with it.
For me personally, it was the complete opposite for years. It was excruciating trying to find ‘the one’. But I finally overcame it when I realised that it was the inner work that was missing.
If manifesting your ideal partner has been hard work so far, then keep reading to find out my own story and how I manifested my husband. I will walk you through the steps that I took to make it happen.
When I was single, which was for most of my life, I often fantasized about meeting my future husband in the most ordinary places, like the supermarket or a shopping center, or even just on the street.
Hollywood had a big influence on me! I genuinely believed that romance movies were based on some sort of reality. Did I really think I could bump my head on the curb and Mr. Right would come rushing to my aid?
Every day, I was on the lookout for my future husband. I always dressed well, made sure I looked decent, socialized, mingled—basically, I did everything I thought I needed to do to meet someone.
But looking back, I see just how obsessed I was with the outcome.
In my mind, I had a certain type, which was probably my biggest stumbling block. I was always on the lookout for a specific kind of man, and at the same time, I was searching for an instant connection.
As I turned 30 and was still unmarried, I realized something bigger was at play. So, I decided to do some inner work. I stumbled across a book on Amazon called Calling In The One by Katherine Woodward Thomas.
It sounded pretty cheesy and desperate, but I didn’t care at this point. After reading the first few pages, I was seriously hooked.
It was like therapy in a book.
I examined my patterns, my fears, my behavior, and my expectations. I started to understand myself more deeply.
I realized the qualities I was actually looking for in a man—qualities that were more important to me than looks or his bank balance.
Then one day, I started to feel genuinely ready to get married. There was no fear of not finding him, no fear of being hurt, just excitement for my future.
I started a new job, and a few days later, a man walked into my office. As he spoke, I got butterflies. It was something I couldn’t explain. I felt an instant attraction to him.
He was not my type at all. Raised in a strict Muslim family, I always expected to meet someone with a similar background. He was white and definitely not a Muslim.
I tried my best to push away my attraction for him, but it felt like a huge magnet was pulling me towards him. After a couple of months, he finally asked me out.
We got married over a year later. We did face obstacles due to our different backgrounds, but that’s a story for another day.
Before this, I was chronically single, but I cannot tell you how much my life has changed since then. It is completely different and so much better than I ever thought it would be.
I will show you all the steps I took to manifest him into my life so keep reading.
STEP 1 - MAKE A LIST OF ATTRIBUTES
The first thing I did to attract my husband, was I made a list of 10 attributes that were important to me in a partner.
So get a pen and paper out and write down 10 things that are important to you in a partner.
Things that were important to me were attributes like, a great sense of humour, being financially independent, emotionally stable, to be taller than me.
Once you have written 10 attributes, go through your list and determine which ones are the most important. Cross out 5 of them that are the least important.
The 5 remaining attributes are the absolute dealbreakers, the things that you must have in a partner. If you are struggling to reach 5 then start to compromise with yourself a little.
So now that you have 5 remaining, this will help you to start seeing things differently. Stick this list up on the wall or on your vision board, or even on the bathroom mirror.
Remind yourself daily that your future husband is going to have these qualities.
STEP 2 - READ BOOKS ABOUT RELATIONSHIPS
The next thing I did was read. I read a lot of books about how people meet, what a healthy relationship looks like. I even read about divorce and the types of things that make people split up.
The best thing I read was a book called Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, about the attachment theory and compatibility.
They talk about different personality types that can be detected from childhood, and their emotional attachments as they grow up.
I began to understand myself more and the type of emotional personality I was looking for in a relationship.
For instance, I wanted somebody who was a healthy emotional type compared to me, who is more of an attached type.
Knowing this helped me to become clearer in my mind, which essentially helped me to manifest easier since I gained so much clarity about what I was looking for.
Go ahead and read books about relationships, that will be a massive way to commit to this journey of manifesting someone.
What do you fear the most about relationships? Whatever it is, there will be a book about it and how to overcome it. Read articles online as part of your education towards manifesting your dream man.
STEP 3 - FORGIVE PAST RELATIONSHIPS
Because I was able to understand myself more objectively, I was able to justify my past actions and why I acted the way I did. I was also able to justify the other parties’ actions too.
And because I was able to do this, it became easy to finally forgive myself. I forgave myself for being naive, for being so emotional and I allowed myself to move on and meet somebody better.
Go through your past relationships and see which emotions keep popping up. You don’t necessarily have to forgive the other person, but make a decision to put it behind you so that you can move on.
Forgive yourself for not knowing better, for doing all the things you did and for all the things you didn’t do.
If you are struggling with this, be sure to check out this video by Ashley Nord on how to forgive yourself.
STEP 4 - REMOVE ALL RESISTANCE TO FINDING LOVE
This one is a biggie and can singlehandedly change your life instantly. It goes hand in hand with the last step. But it is more about negative thoughts and removing limiting beliefs.
I had too many fears and I believed that I just wasn’t good enough. If you personally have this fear then be sure to read my blog post I Am Enough.
It will help you to start believing in yourself and realise that you are a better human being than you think you are.
I began to tell myself that I was worthy of finding love and that my future husband would love being with me.
I removed the image in my mind that he had to be a certain type, and instead I focused on meeting a decent man with a good heart, along with all my other attributes.
I didn’t care about the colour of his skin or his religious background anymore. If it mattered it would have been on my list, but for me personally, I realised that I just didn’t care.
So think about your fears and some of the things that might be stopping you from manifesting a relationship.
Is there an image in your mind about what your future husband looks like? Or are you holding on to a past relationship hoping that they will come back in your life?
If so, this may be the very thing stopping you from meeting somebody new.
STEP 5 - BE PATIENT AND WAIT
I have found that when I am patient, I tend to manifest faster. When I think about wanting something instantly, I usually somehow push the very thing I want, away from me.
Becoming too attached to the outcome is something I have struggled with my entire life. It is a skill to let things go and let it come to you.
I didn’t meet my husband for a year after I started my own journey, but that was because I was living in another country and I was in transition to come back.
When I did come back, I met my husband a few months later. It was as if I needed to be back here to meet him. But because I had so much going on, I was too distracted to think about being in a relationship.
They always say that you will meet somebody when you are busy doing other things. I tried to do this to the best of my ability, but in the corner of my eye I was always on the lookout.
And when you are holding on to a lot of fears and limiting beliefs, being busy will only attract the wrong person anyway.
There is a fine line between letting go and being open and receptive. By doing the inner work you are being open and receptive and by letting go you are allowing the universe to do its job.
