Game of Nuns

Feminist, bisexual disaster, medievalist, Christian, cat person, geek, Ravenclaw (with a smattering of Slytherin) Expect posts about all the above. 

[straightpeoplereceipts]

new community proposition

TSIGAAG (This Song Is Gay AND About God)

[strangehorse]

my boyfriend and I sometimes struggle to be on the same page when it comes to comforting- often i just want to vent and don’t need advice, whereas validation confuses him and he wants a plan of action

to counter this, we’ve come up with a system where we ask: “do you want advice, empathy, both or neither?” 

if it’s just advice, i know to go straight to action points and not spend time on fluffy words 

if it’s just empathy, he knows i want to be reassured and comforted and that’s all

if it’s both, it’s time for advice that recognises how hard the situation is and is perhaps gentler in nature

if it’s neither, just a hug is really good

i recommend trying to use this in your lives! it makes sure you’re giving and getting what you need, and reduces the risk of resentment or similar

[gameofnuns-blog]

I really like this idea!

(although half the time I don't actually know what I want)

[blairsfelicity]

me @ life

[gameofnuns-blog]

When the only thing stopping you from having a bizarre inappropriate crush on a friend is that he's a Tory and he tweets saying he's getting more left wing and doesn't identify with the right anymore... Halp.

[gameofnuns-blog]

There should really be a setting on Twitter so you can stalk people without accidentally liking stuff.

[gameofnuns-blog]

I'm at home and my brother's girlfriend is over and they're so cute together it makes me happy and sad at the same time.

[gameofnuns-blog]

I suddenly feel like someone is sitting in my womb and ripping it apart from the inside. This is not a nice feeling, FYI.

[gelatins]

2012: nerd 2015: still a nerd but I dyed my hair

[gameofnuns-blog]

All the things I hate most about myself are rearing their heads at the moment so I'm trying to make a list of the things I like about myself. So far, the list is: - good at history ... One thing does not a list make.

[gameofnuns-blog]

I'm torn between pride in myself for turning down a booty call last night and horror that I let a conversation go that far. This week has been *weird*

[gameofnuns-blog]

Pushing through out of a sense of obligation goes from admirable to stupid at some point before your vision goes blurry at your desk and your heartrate goes off the scale, right?

[gameofnuns-blog]

Results of today's Twitter stalking: I am fairly sure my ex has broken up with his fiancé. This is a bad thing to discover when I am desperate for some form of human contact.

[sylvysparrow]

how hard does this damn tweet go though

[cute-and-happy]

[jack-the-lion]

*sonar pings*

[fandomsandfeminism]

The actual definition of Bisexuality, by actual Bisexuals.

I’m sure you’ve all heard the tired old “bisexual means you only like men and women!” or even worse, “only CIS men and women!” These definitions, as I’m sure we’re aware, are total bullshit. (And super problematic on top) 

Since I complied this list for a reblog, I thought it might be nice to make it it’s own post as well, so we can get it in the tags. Ready to learn how actual bisexuals actually define bisexuality? 

Here we go:

There you go. This definition has been in use by nearly all major bisexual organizations for decades. :) 

A few nice links:

Bi Resource.Net has a whole page on “what is bisexuality”, but the quote I like most from (from Robyn Orch) is “I call myself bisexual because I acknowledge in myself the potential to be attracted, romantically and/or sexually, to people of more than one sex, not necessarily at the same time, not necessarily in the same way, and not necessarily to the same degree.” 

The Bisexual Index likewise has a whole page on the topic. They conclude with “Bisexuality isn’t more complicated than that - “attraction to more than one gender”.“ 

Bialogue is much more to the point, stating:  "Bisexuals = people who can [love] people of same gender as themselves + can [love] people of different genders/gender presentations from themselves" 

The Bisexuality Report (Which was a collaboration between BiUK AND the Bisexual index) goes REALLY specific with “Bisexuality generally refers to having attraction to more than one gender. It is a broad term which may include the following groups and more: ●● People who see themselves as attracted to ‘both men and women’. ●● People who are mostly attracted to one gender but recognize this is not exclusive. ●● People who experience their sexual identities as fluid and changeable over time. ●● People who see their attraction as ‘regardless of gender’ (other aspects are more important in determining who they are attracted to). ●● People who dispute the idea that there are only two genders and that people are attracted to one, the other, or both" 

International Spectrum has a whole list of definitions and defines bisexual as "A person who is attracted to both people of their own gender and another gender. " 

The Bisexual Resource center says "The BRC uses bisexual as an umbrella term for people who recognize and honor their potential for sexual and emotional attraction to more than one gender”

[incendavery]

an open letter

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[incendavery]

an open letter

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