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binder giveaway!

I got myself a binder, tried it on today annnnnd decided binding is not for me. so! if you are trans/nonbinary and can’t afford a binder rn, and you want a grey XL one from gc2b (and are comfortable giving me an address to ship it to), hit me up! first come first serve, priority goes to Black and/or indigenous people. feel free to reblog, I’ll delete this post once someone has called dibs!

the-punk-innovator

How to make a TuxDress guide zine (no sew project)

Hey y’all! I’m very happy to announce the launch of my tuxdress zine!! The purpose of the zine is to easily teach anyone who might want to put together a tuxedo dress for any event like school dances, formal events, or weddings. No sewing is involved, buy the zine to learn more!!

All of this started four years ago when pictures of my high school senior prom outfit went viral on tumblr and hundreds of you have been asking me how to make the tuxdress or inquiring if I could make one for sale. Unfortunately, I was 17 years old at the time when the tuxdress got popular so I had no financial way to do full production. Instead I have been directly Dming people over the years and guiding them on how to make their own at home. At age 21, I still do not have the means to start production on such a huge project as formal wear is very expensive and I do not trust my business skills to start a gofundme or kickstarter to make them on my own. Even if I were to make tuxdresses, the cost of labor would make the end product very expensive and I do not want to pose the tuxdress as an expensive or out-of-reach project as I am a transgender person with a deep understanding of how poor the queer community is due to marginalization. My hope is that this zine will make queer friendly formal wear accessible to all people. I wrote the zine itself with a queer, gender non conforming, and transgender audience in mind so it also includes a section of LGBTQ+ legal rights in the US for queer students who want to wear this outfit to prom.

PLEASE SPREAD THIS SO FUTURE LGBTQ+ PEOPLE CAN KNOW THAT THERE IS FORMAL WEAR OPTION OUT THERE FOR THEM. WE DON’T HAVE TO SUFFER UNDER THE BINARY OF TUXEDOS OR DRESSES ANYMORE.

Pictures of my tux dress have been stolen without credit and posted all over the internet and I have never received any money for creating this idea. I have turned down business offers in the past to create the tux dress as a luxury item that would sell for thousands of dollars. I never want the tuxdress to become something just for rich people. I want this to be for everyone so I have made this zine to be as cheap as possible. I have a thread here on what the process of making the zine was like. I love my Trans and Queer community so much and I hope that this zine can be my way of giving back to a community that has shown me so much love in return. Thank you for reading!

Please send any questions or business inquires to [email protected]

thesesummersonspoet

'X Marks The Spot' is an anthology of personal essays, poetry and art all by nonbinary creators about their experiences with gender.

‘X Marks The Spot’ gives a voice to nonbinary folks, who are all too often left out of the conversation. It shows how diverse our community really is and gives us a mirror to see ourselves in.

This is so important and by giving to this Kickstarter YOU can help make it happen.

For £25 you get a paperback copy as a reward ON TOP OF being an awesome ally. For £5 you get an ebook. Two of the former and one of the latter and we’ll hit halfway!

#this blog is still innactive. but we have quite a few followers and yall might enjoy this

nonbinarypastels

reminder @ queer folks that you don’t have to disclose why you identify as queer to anyone if you don’t want to, especially when it’s clear the person asking you is doing so in bad faith. you are not obligated to give out every detail of your gender identity or orientation to some stranger so that they can decide whether you have the ‘right’ to call yourself queer or not. 🌈🦄

genderfluid-youth-support

There are three more asks to answer, which I will use to see how any possible admins deal with them.

I will be going back and tagging what I just answered, sorry if I spammed y'all for a bit, I needed to do this while I had energy

Mod Phoenix

genderfluid-youth-support

Nevermind, I can't tag from mobile for some reason. I'll try to deal with that later

Mod Phoenix out, come talk to me at my main if you want to be the new admin of this blog

There are three more asks to answer, which I will use to see how any possible admins deal with them.

I will be going back and tagging what I just answered, sorry if I spammed y'all for a bit, I needed to do this while I had energy

Mod Phoenix

#update

Heyyo! I have very light and thin eyebrows (you almost can't even see them) but my hair is much darker. Are there any ways I can thicken and/or darken them to look more masculine without it seeming like TOO much and unnatural?

Light make up and not trimming (is that the word? Dont pull out the hairs when they grow, let them be kind of messy till they're thicker)If anyone has more advice, please share itMod Phoenix

Is it safe to use tights as binders?

No. They can constrict your chest and harm you.Try sports bras instead

beoll

how to look more masculine with long hair

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beoll:

in my time on the web ive never seen a single resource for genderwibbly people who want to present more masculine but who don’t want to chop off their billowing locks. so i’d figure i’d make my own. So i proudly present: DARCY’S NOT QUITE COMPLETE GUIDE TO LONG HAIRED MASCULINITY

okay so first thing you have got to realize is that (even tho it totally sucks) most people automatically see that short hair equals masculine and long hair equals feminine. i know its trash but that’s how it is. so what you want to do is try to break that frame of mind in half and make people question it by contradicting it.

YOUR FACE

contouring is the name of the game folks! you’ve probably seen a bunch of tutorials on this so ill just touch on it. The main focus is to shade your face with makeup to make it look less rounded and more angular. so after applying some foundation and concealer your gonna want to get some bronzer(or some dark brown eye-shadow is what i use) and shade these areas on your face:

blend the heck out of that till it looks more natural. next your gonna want to put some concealer on your lips to make them less pink and noticeable. and then THE most IMPORTANT part of this: DARKEN YOUR EYEBROWS im not talking fill them in or sharpen them up. im talking fur logs on your face. your can use an eyebrow pencil or some eyeliner that matches the color of your brows to give them a thicker and less curved shape(i already have kinda bushy, manly shaped brows so i just apply mascara to them to make them look darker and fuller). Then your face be lookin so super fine!

more refs on this: 1 2 3 (there’s tons of tutorials and refs on this if you do a simple google or youtube search)

YOUR HAIR

ALRIGHT! now here’s the fun bit. youve pretty much got two chocies: pull your hair up? or leave it down? i know somewhere along the line youre thinking “oh i’ll just push it up in a hat!” but i’m gonna be honest with you. its not like it is in the movies. in fact this almost never works. you don’t look like a dude. you just look like a girl with hair pushed up in a hat. if you can convincingly pull off a hat trick then right on for you!! but 9/10 times your just gonna look kinda dumb.

1) THE MAN BUN (aka the top knot)

honestly the man bun is modern society’s gift to long haired masculine people. its just growing and growing in popularity and so now guys with their hair up is a totally normal thing. its also super easy to do which is always a plus. this is pretty simple so i’ll just put some tutorials for it: [ 1 2 3 ] okay ive found that one of the main thing that sells this hair style as masculine is the placement of the bun on the head. girls usually where their hair up and the bun is in the middle of the back of their head. but a man bun is way up on the top of the back of the head like these:

2) LEAVING YOUR HAIR DOWN

okay so the main thing your hair does when its down is shape your face. and what youre trying to do here is to get your hair to reinforce a masculine shaped face. so check this out:

notice how the hair falls around their face? her hair swoops over her forehead and around the sides of her face making curves while his makes straight lines across his forehead and straight down the sides. now i know youre thinking “that’s just cause her hair is curly and his is straight” but the same thing applies with curly hair. it doesn’t matter what style of hair you have. what matters is how the hair shapes the forehead. you want your forehead to have that upside-down U shape going on

also notice the direction the hair is going on the top of the head

most of her hair is coming forward towards her face to make those curvy swoops while his is going straight back completely out of his face. as the hair comes down around their shoulders it does what it pleases but for a masculine hair style youre gonna want to have the top going straight back and away from your face.

okay so that’s all ive got! this is how i try to break the long hair equals femininity assumption. if youve got any other questions or anything i should add just shoot me a message. hope this helps!!

genderfluid-youth-support

Because a few people asked about this!

Any suggestions on how to hide a budge without going and getting a gaff? I was born male but on my feminine days it's really aggregating

Any followers out there with experience on this?Mod Phoenix

Hey there! The other day I told my cousin about me being Genderfluid, but he seemed to just brush it off, and continues to use she/her pronouns. What can I do to help him understand? Thank you!

Explain, send him links to lgbt+ pages explain gender fluidity, answer questionsRinse and repeat until your cousin understands or you decide it's a lost causeMod Phoenix

My whole life I've assumed that I'm a cis female, because that's what I was born as, be being gender fluid feels right. What if I experiment with it and I am just cisgender?

Nothing wrong with that, sometimes you have to try a label on to see if it's right. Like buying shoes, yknow? Maybe you'll wear them for a long while before you realize they're not the right size, but there's nothing wrong with buying new onesAnd if you do end up being genderfluid, welcome to the club!Mod Phoenix

Hi I'm genderfluid but I'm only out to a few friends not my family. I was wondering if you had any tips for a closeted genderfluid? I feel like my family will make fun of me if I try to look like a guy bc I dont think that short hair will suit me & whenever I wear 'masculine' clothes they either just laugh bc it's 'cute' or they just comment like 'are those guy's jeans' I guess I just dont know how to be around my family bc Ive explained gender fluidity to them before & they thought it was silly

I don't have much advice, other than to keep on doing what makes you feel better. And tell them when a comment makes you uncomfortable, if you can.Mod Phoenix

Hello currently I am kinda struggling with body dysmorphia as I am gender fluid but have female genitalia. It doesn't always bother me but when it does it really sucks and I wanted to know if it is weird for me to use a packer when I feel more male? I've considered it but don't want to be called transgender or offend anyone.

You could be cuz and wear a packer and no one should say anythingThey might, because people are awful sometimes, but they would be in the wrongMod Phoenix

Hi, my name is Hannah and I've never liked my name since birth because it sounded too girly for me. I was born female. Ever since I was five I have wanted to be a boy but then kept changing my perspective on it throughout the years. Sometimes I liked to go to Girl schools and other times I wish I could got to a boy school. I'm now in a mixed school, only having two years left. I'm now 16. I've been feeling like I need to be a boy and sometimes I'm happy with being a girl. Am I genderfluid?

You could be! You could also be a trans boy, or some kind of non binary gender other than genderfluidMod Phoenix

Hi, so. I've been questioning my gender for a few years now. I'm born female and am very curvy. I love wearing dresses and looking cute but there's days when I look at myself in the mirror and just wished I looked like a boy. It happens a few times per month and sometimes lasts days.(pt 1)

I dated someone who identified as fluid before and I remember them always talking about wishing they had different genitals but I dont really think about what's in my pants? I dont know if that makes this less valid.(Pt 2)I'm too scared to ask any of my friends for advice because im still not sure how i identify but I havent been able to explore this well because of my parents.(Pt 4, pt 3 i forgot to write but its that bs bout my hands and feet wich are tiny things)First of all, not having genital dysphoria doesn't make you any less trans, so don't worry.As for exploring this, all I can recommend is the internet, source checking, and self-analysisThere's plenty resources on how to deal with body dysphoria, and I do think there should be some on this blog if you look it upMod Phoenix

Hey there ! Do you know any blogs where you can get to know more people and connect with them, genderfluid people who are interested in getting friends and so on ? There used to be a genderfluid/trans blog where you submit your picture with your basic information and what are you looking for (friendship, romance, etc) and people interested would like your picture and stuff. I'm looking for somewhere like that but I can't find anything !

(sorry for the late reply)Can't think of anythingAnyone?Mod Phoenix

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