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@genderfluxsupport
would I be genderflux if I feel genderless and fluctuate to varying levels of male but never more than about 40% male??
That's certainly something that can describe it if you feel like it fits. If you decide it doesn't fit maybe demigender or another would fit better.
can you please explain genderfluid, genderflux, demiflux, boyflux?
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Genderfluid- a gender identity which refers to a gender which varies over time. A changing gender. A person may be fluid between any genders.
Demiflux- someone whose gender is partially fluid with the other part(s) being static; this differs from “demifluid” as “-flux” indicates that one of the genders is neutral.
Genderflux is a gender identity in which the strength or intensity of one’s gender varies over time. It can be seen as a form of genderfluid between being agender and one or more other gender identities
Boyflux is genderflux but with the base gender being boy specifically.
- Mod Waver
I'm afab, and some days saying "I'm a woman" feels true; others it doesn't. Most of the time I don't really care. Over longer stretches of time (like years rather than days) my comfort with strongly feminine presentation varies; atm I'm totally off skirts and dresses. Fine with being gendered as female and she/her pronouns; also fine with being gendered as male, though that's quite rare (boobs and long hair). Occasional very mild body dysphoria. What even is this??
Obviously I can’t tell you your gender, only you can, but it sounds like perhaps girlflux or greygenderflux might fit?
-Mod Waver
I've been wondering a while if I'm genderflux but I'm not sure. I'm afab but there are times when I'm strongly opposed to being feminine, don't like my breasts (REALLY want a binder), don't like being referred to as she/her and sometimes feel disassociated when my birth name (v feminine) is used and prefer a gender neutral version of it. Other times I feel absolutely fine with my body and have no issue with being identified as female or my name being used. Sometimes it's somewhere in the middle
Yep it sounds like genderflux fits!
genderfluxes who id as mlm, mlw, and mlnb + nblm, nblw, and nblnb? 😻💛
Any advice for an afab person who suddenly doesn't want to have people use she/her, but also doesn't want to use they/them? I've /very/ recently began to think I'm genderflux and everything is new and scary and I'm just really confused
Being confused or unsure is normal and fine. Try not to let it panic you. I would try to research and find some pronouns you like and would like to try going by and talking to your friends and/or family about what you’re thinking for gender and pronouns if you feel you’re wanting to. Sit on it for as long as you need to in order to feel comfortable speaking up. I know it’s scary thinking you might be wrong/alone/confused/etc but there’s a huge community and a lot of places to find answers if you get stuck. Don’t give up and good luck.
-Puck
hello I've got a tricky question! i'm genderflux for sure but have a female body... and i dont like it- yes i sometimes feel like a girl and stuff but i just... dont like the fact that i have a female body - so here comes My question: is it possible To do a "half transistion"? like i like my breasts but thats the only thing i like about bein a girl so yeah... is it possible to find a therapist who could help me to get it trough that i only change my genitalia? i'm 20 and from germany, thx
I have no idea what is or isn’t possible in Germany but in the USA I have heard of people who did the opposite of what many ftm trans men do and choose to keep their chest but change their genitalia. I know a few people who are thinking about seeing someone for it as well but I really don't know much about the process. I would find a gender therapist if possible and start seeing them / discussing this with them. I’m sorry I couldn’t be more helpful!
-Puck
Okay so I'm afab and like I think I may be genderflux but at the same time like that doesn't feel quite right and nothing makes sense and I'm confused the only thing I do know is I'm definitely not totally female and yeah
(2.2)I feel like this for weeks and then I go back to feeling like a girl and hardly think twice about it. I know that gender expression doesn't really matter when it comes to identity, but that's something I cling to. I think it's partly because I'm just so confused by the concept of gender. Yeah, I can say I'm a girl and I feel it, but yet, I don't know what it is. I just don't know how to describe how I feel about everything. I know girlflux feels the most right to me, but any advice?
Do you think you could be bigenderflux or a demigirl? There are tons of gender identities that might fit better for you but it’s perfectly okay if you don’t have one yet. I’ve known I wasn’t cis for almost 5 years and I still don’t have a definitive label for my gender. Use whatever fits you best for the right now and don’t worry if it changes. If you’d rather not deal with a label, don’t. I hope this helps and I wish you luck on your gender journey :)
-Puck
So there’s a term for how I feel... somehow, that makes me feel better. Thank you.
I’m glad you stumbled across it then! Thanks for the kind message.
-Puck
So I just realized a few days ago that it's been a year and around a week since I came out to my parents as Genderflux. I'm really glad they've been accepting, even if they don't quite get it. They unfortunately refuse to use my preferred pronouns because it's too 'complicated', but otherwise they've done things that I prefer they do! (1/2)
(2/2) Along the way, I've come out to most of online friends, and they're pretty accepting. At school, I've only told maybe like, 3 people, and they're also cool with it. I can't trust anyone else at school or the rest of my family, I know they won't get it or they'll think I'm making it up. But anyway, I believe this blog was the first time I've come across a term that fits me and has helped out many others. Thank you!
Thank you for taking the time to write us! I’m glad you’re having a relatively good time coming out and finding lots of support.
-Puck
Do I have to pick a label? Because I've been thinking about labels for a long time and it's lowkey been stressing me out, so I decided that it would be better for me if stopped trying to find one. Is that bad/frowned upon?
100% no! You can absolutely just... not pick a label. You don’t have to label yourself as anything that doesn’t fit, and if nothing fits, well then nothing fits. Labels are supposed to fit you, not the other way around.
I’m sure there are people with the opinion that not having a label is a bad thing but no, it's not bad or frowned upon to not have/want/be looking for a label. Do what feels right for you :)
-Puck
Hey, so I’m the same anon from earlier. I am now out to my mom! She was super accepting and tried her best to understand. I just get the feeling she fully believes that this is a faze and it will pass. Now, I know that is totally a possibility, but it doesn’t feel good. Since I’m AFAB and currently identify with the feminine side of the scale most of the time, i think she just doesn’t get that when I’m 70% feminine, I’m still 30% something else. It seems like she’s just rounding up. So yeah.
I’m glad she’s trying to be accepting and I’m glad it worked out for you. Give her some time, whether it ends up being a phase or not, you’re still feeling this way NOW. So don’t worry about later, if it changes, oh well. Iknow it doesn't feel good when someone doubts your identity but its not theirs to define, it’s yours. Don’t their doubt become your doubt. :)
-Puck
I have the perfect opportunity to come out to my mom soon and I’m really nervous. I know you’ll probably say something like wait ‘till you’re ready, but I don’t think I’ll ever be 100% ready for this. I’m already out to my friends and brother and I just got a gender neutral haircut which kinda shows how serious I am. Should I?
If this is as ready as you feel you’ll ever be, then i say go for it. If you have a solid opportunity to do so and support from others already that will have your back (looking at your brother here) then yeah go for it. Just make sure it’s safe to do so and that you do have / will have support from the others in your life you’ve told regardless of your mom’s response. Good luck 💜
-Puck
Hi so I feel masculine p much 24/7 but in varying intensities of sorts. When I feel lowkey masc idk if the rest of what I feel is girl, agender, or some internal transphobia of sorts. Any idea how to sort that out? I'm AFAB btw.
Just thinking about it really! I know that’s not very helpful, but there’s not any trick that I know of to become aware of your gender. If you find one let me know please! Remember that it’s ok to say you’re a trans boy or genderflux or anything without 100% fitting to that label. Labels are there to make us comfortable and communicate the general idea of our gender.
Hope this was at least little helpful.
-Mod Waver
hi!! i've always thought of myself as more of a tomboy, but reading about genderflux really has me thinking. i really am not sure what i am, but i think i'm definitely fluid. some days, i feel more rough and stuff, but others i feel almost softer or lighter? sorry if this sounds dumb i just want to find myself :(
No way to describe your gender is silly! It’s difficult to describe such an abstract concept.
I can’t tell you what your gender is, but it does sound like it’s fluid. Some questions to ask is whether you feel like you always have a gender, how you want to look that day if you could look any way you want, how you want to exist in the world at that moment, etc.
Good luck!
-Mod Waver
I'm 13 years old and I'm AFAB, and I've always felt comfortable being a girl, but a late last year I felt that the word girl felt too big of a word, and I thought that demigirl seemed to fit. But lately I feel like that the intensity it seemed to change, like sometimes I'd feel 100% girl but other times I'd feel less like a girl (not fully agender though). I think that I'm Genderflux, but I'm not sure. I'm AFAB and I'm still very young, so am I allowed or is it just a phase?
That does sound a lot like genderflux yes! And of course you are allowed to say you are, regardless of your age. Even if you find later that you are not genderflux and find that you’re agender or a cis girl or a trans boy or anything, you are still allowed to be who you are now. People change and genders can change, but that doesn’t mean people should be allowed to disrespect you now based on that maybe it will change. You should also be respected for any changes that may happen to your gender in the future. And your gender should be respected by others of course, but primarily it needs to be respected by you. Accept that you are allowed to be how you are now and that change is ok! But doesn’t diminish the present.
I hope this helps!
-Mod Waver
I'm AMAB genderflux I stay mainly between demigirl and agender. Can I be trans or am I not trans enough?
Of course you are!! Anyone who doesn’t 100% fit their assigned gender 100% of the time is free to say they’re trans, which definitely sounds like you!
-Mod Waver
