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[diet-choke]

What did you think I meant when I said I felt like I was going to miss out on something incredible? I wanted to understand your soul, I wanted to know you. I wanted you to want to know me, know MY soul. I wanted a passion so fiery it could consume us, for you to ache for me as I ache for you. I wanted you to crave me, not my body. I feel as though I am nothing to you, a thought passing through your mind on occasion. Whereas you have taken up residence in mine, made yourself at home in the corners of my brain where my love for you lives. 

When you said you felt connected to me as well, how did you mean that? I felt a pull toward you, I needed to know you, to be near you, to be with you. You say you’re not looking for love, but if you found it, would you deny it? Or am I not someone you could love? I see your magnificent caramel brown eyes when I close mine. Your lips, addicting. I could kiss you for hours. 

I’ve always been good at beginnings. The thrill of the hunt, the intoxicating infatuation is my happy place. The sweetness of it, so sweet it’s almost sticky. The hope. Now crushed. You’re not looking for love. Have you closed yourself off? Or am I not someone you could love?

No longer at the beginning, I am drowning. I dove in head first to the possibilities. I saw what could be, I saw a love so incredible. I love quickly, deeply, passionately. I love those who do not love me. Once they know me I wish they didn’t. I’m too much, too intense, too forward. I care too much, I think too much, I talk too much. I give it all away until there’s nothing left of me. 

[logicversesemotion]

This is a chart that my chem teacher gave to everyone after our first exam. 

[emmastudies]

This is a really good step by step guide!

[gymsystapl]

[small-baby-butterfly-blog]

Goals for this month

Lose at least 5kg

Work well at school

Do more sports

Go running once a week

Start boxing

Have a flat stomach

Be skinnier

Stop binging

Eat more vegetables

Stop being such a mess

Stop feeling like a fraud

Fast more often

Stay under 700 cals a day no matter what

Be prettier

Take care of myself a little bit more

Do some face and hair masks

Be a good friend

Stop being so weak

Stop eating all the time

Drink👏more👏water👏for👏god👏sake

Ultimate goal for this month: be skinny.

[generic-shittyusername]

[hoetipsbyangel]

the “bad bitch mentality”👑

- don’t settle. ever. whether it’s people or things. know your worth.

- don’t be catty or messy. focus on yourself. getting into fights and having beef with other women/people is really tacky.

- being a bad bitch doesn’t mean you’re mean. keep it cute and be polite and respectful, even to those you don’t necessarily don’t care for. being rude is corny.

- pamper yourself always. keep yourself up, look good for your own damn self.

- don’t let anybody waste your time bc it’s precious and contrary to what you may think, you don’t have much of it. 

- YOU are your best support system. take care of yourself. be your #1 supporter.

- as a woman, you are often told to see other women as competition. stop thinking that way. look at the beauty in other women, and soon you will start to see beauty in yourself. build healthy relationships with women. sisterhood is so important.

- do not prioritize a man over everything else. a man is not your world. he just lives in it.

- success is the best revenge. 

- don’t catch feelings for just anybody. your love and care is sacred,and for you to take it there with somebody, they gotta earn that shit. don’t fuck with anybody who doesn’t respect you and see your worth. stop fucking around with bum ass people that don’t give af about you.

- don’t let ANYBODY disrespect you. don’t take shit from anybody.

- don’t let anybody play you like you’re stupid. trust your gut, if you feel like you’re getting played, trust your instinct.

- you’re not only that bitch, but THE bitch. 💋

[miss-atomic-bitchh]

Ideas For How To Level Up

- so here is just a list of ideas of how to improve your life and to ‘level up’.

- please send me some requests for topics to make posts about.

• change your hairstyle if you’re unsatisfied with it. think about what your ideal hair would look like + aim to achieve that.

• practice your makeup skills if you wear makeup - experiment with new colours, textures and looks.

• buy some new pieces for your wardrobe if you don’t feel like you’re in love with your current selection of clothes - invest in some key, classic items.

• if you’re unhappy with your body and you don’t feel like you’re at your healthiest, consider joining the gym or take up exercise at home or in your local area.

• aim to clean up your diet - cut down on processed foods that won’t benefit your mind + body.

• if you have any issues playing on your mind, try to resolve them or work on moving on - don’t be afraid to seek therapy + help from others.

• connect with new people that you vibe with - let go of any old friendships that no longer benefit you.

• think about any areas of your life that are dragging you down and find ways to eliminate them.

• think about your interests - for example if you’re interested in art, go out + buy a sketchbook and go to galleries.

• make goals + aim to achieve them.

• expand your knowledge - never stop learning.

[epicene-street-light-deactivate]

7 depression tips and why they work, from someone who’s been hardcore depressed for two years

hi so im recovering from a really mean depression and there are some things i learned and that i would like to tell you. 

1. you need to reappropriate your space and time. depression is lying to you and generally shrinks your living space (aka: you spend your time in bed/behind your computer/in your room…). visit and do something (even if its just scrolling down social media) in each room you have access to. expand your perception and space, you’ll breathe more easily.

2. plan depression outfits. a depression outfit is a comfy one you still can go out in. to me, it’s old ripped jeans and a turtleneck, my old work uniforms, sweaters. dressing up is one of the most important parts of managing depression. first of all, you’ll feel less like pathetic with proper clothes on (nothing worse than staying in your pj all day). secondly, and it’s a crucial point: it allows you to get out to run some errands. imagine you have to go grocery shopping or to the post office. if you’re in your unwashed pajamas you’ve been wearing for three days or more (been there done that) what you have to do is to undress, shower (if you can), and put on real, clean clothes. which is three things. depression messes wih one’s ability to start things, so it’s very likely you’ll drop your errands and just stay at home feeling like shit. but if you’re already wearing clothes, you just have to put on a coat and get out of the house. which is, trust me, 10 times easier than doing the whole dressing up thing.

3. it’s okay if you stay the whole day in bed but force yourself to get up in the morning (anytime before noon) and drink a glass of water/juice. again, depression messes up with your ability to start doing things, but if you concentrate your will to just get up and drink something before going back to bed, i promise you’ll feel less shitty and might actually end up getting up for good since you’ve been through the trouble of getting up. You’ll feel better (and also you need water!)

4. do one (1) physical, material thing that will improve your life conditions per day. aka: washing a single glass, scrubbing the mirror, etc. you’ll feel proud of yourself, and the tidiest your environment, the less shitty your brain will be. plus, again: if you manage to wash a single dish, maybe you’ll find yourself cleaning the whole kitchen without noticing. and thats a good thing. no pressure: just do one single thing. and don’t beat yourself up if you can’t, of course, but try, it’s gonna be better that way. 

5. open the window (especially at night, i personally find it very soothing) and just… breathe fresh air, looking at the horizon or closing your eyes, and breathe in and out slowly. it’s great to take fresh air. bonus if you have anxiety/ptsd, honestly. opening the windows is one of the easiest ways i know to stop a panic attack.

6. brush your teeth everyday, even if it’s the only thing you manage to do. i know every depression guide recommends it, but it’s really important. not showering for a few days is okay, you’re not gonna get sick that way. but dental hygiene is capital. not to mention you’ll feel less rotting in the inside if you’re less rotting in the outside. you can use your phone to schedule your teeth brushing of the day! really helps. 

7. think about your hobbies and force yourself to do something related to an old hobby of yours. i know it’s no fun. i know you can’t feel anything, so why bother? but really, do bother. do it and eventually as you recover it will be fun again. you haven’t lost your passion, your goals, your motivation. it’s still there, but depression is like a blanket that covers it all. forcing yourself to still act on your hobbies (especially if those are not screen-related: books, gardening, etc.) will help digging through the depression layers to expose your will to live again. trust me on this one. i really thought i was just an apathetic mess, but actually depression was just mean. i believe in you! 

and finally: hold tight and it’s gonna be okay! recovery is possible, and it’s gonna arrive sooner than you expect. energy and motivation are good things and they’re still around here waiting for you! 

feel free to add your own! you’re all gonna make it i promise.

[leitharstjarna]

The advice about dental care is really important. I’ve recovered from my depression, but I still have trouble remembering to brush my teeth because I got out of the habit while I was depressed.

[maigredoll]

THIS IS SO FUCKING IMPORTANT!!!

[thedailyreminders]

Self care isn’t just drinking water and going to sleep early. Self care is taking a break when things become overwhelming, saying no to things you do not want to do, allowing yourself to cry, asking for help from those around you, doing things that make you happy. 

[selfcareadvice]

✨💤

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Add some artwork to your walls, whether it’s your own or something you find in a store.

Reposition your bed.

Get rid of all the things in your room you don’t need.

Clean EVERYTHING.

Try to hide chargers and any cords.

If you can, get some new bedding.

Add some lights.

Add plants, fake or real.

Get a rug.

Organize everything so it all has a home.

Find some cute pillows.

Get posters.

If there’s any suggestions you all have, please, message me and let me know! 😊

____________________

I’ve made a few other blogs if you’d like to check them out!

@artblockhelp ( My Art Blog )

@storyrpinspo (Occasional Stories from me, as well as writing tips and even roleplay prompts )

@aestheticinsporation ( Room Decor and Inspiration )

[wildbpd-deactivated20200301]

Negative and Positive Coping Skills

Negative Coping Skills

Diversions

Procrastination 

Abusing Drugs and/or alcohol

Wasting time on unimportant tasks

Interpersonal (With Others)

Blaming

Isolating/withdrawing 

Mean or hostile joking 

Gossiping 

Criticizing Others 

Manipulating Others 

Refusing help from others 

Lying to others 

Sabotaging plans

Being late to appointments 

Provoking violence from others

Enabling others to take advantage of you

Cognitive (Of the mind) 

Denying any problem 

Stubbornness

Black and white thinking 

Catastrophizing 

Overgeneralizing 

Tension Releasers 

Tantrums

Throwing things at people

Hitting people 

Yelling at others 

Destroying property

Speeding or diving recklessly 

Intrapersonal 

Making fun of yourself

Self-sabotaging behaviors ‘

Blaming yourself 

Indulging 

Spending too much 

Gambling 

Eating too much 

Setting dangerous fires 

Positive Coping Skills 

Diversions

Write, draw, paint, do photography 

Play an instrument, sing, dance 

Take a shower or a bath 

Garden 

Take a walk, or go for a drive 

Watch television or a movie

Watch cute animal videos on YouTube 

Play a game 

Go shopping (but don’t over spend)

Clean or organize your environment 

Read

Take a break 

Talk with someone you trust 

Set boundaries and say “no”

Write a note to someone you care about 

Be assertive

Spend time with friends and/or family 

Serve someone in need 

Care for or play with a pet 

Role-play challenging situations with others 

Encourage others 

Cognitive (Of the mind)

Make a gratitude list

Write a list of goals 

Take a class 

Reward or pamper yourself when you are successful 

Write a list of pros and cons for decisions 

Write a list of strengths 

Accept a challenge with a positive attitude 

Tension Releasers 

Cry

Laugh 

Pray or meditate 

Eat healthy foods 

Get into a good routine 

Eat a little chocolate 

Limit caffeine 

Deep/slow breathing 

Get enough sleep

Enjoy nature 

Limit Setting 

Schedule time for yourself 

Prioritize important tasks 

[martinihomestead]

Basic Homesteading Skills

Crafts

quilting

embroidery

cross-stitch

knitting

crochet

sewing

Cooking and Baking

homemade bread

homemade butter

homemade extracts

dandelion jelly

Canning

26 canning recipes

canning jars 101

60 canning recipes

Gardening

edible trees to plant

what to plant to save the bees

cure and braid garlic

save seeds for next year

braid onions for long term storage

build a greenhouse

Animals

homemade chicken feed

raising mealworms for chickens

why to raise nigerian dwarf goats

Outdoors

starting a fire with sticks

trail signs

knotting

find true north without a compass

Medicine

homemade neosporin

all purpose healing salve

[hanging-ivy]

side note: be wary on that salve, id advise not using it on infants or young children, despite what it says. at the very least, please do not add the 10 extra drops they recommend for kids under 10. they are often much more sensitive to them, and allergies are fairly common (i have one to teatree!!!). i really recommend doing a swatch on your wrist or anyone else’s you plan to use it on to make sure youre not allergic before you try it out as a salve!

[herhighnessthequeen]

30 Glow Up Challenge

Day 1: Cut out all sodas/juices/energy drinks and switch for tea or water for better sleep, skin, metabolism, and to kill excess sugar cravings.

Day 2: Do 50 squats every day before your shower to get that ass🍑

Day 3: Do a face mask.

Day 4: Paint your nails/toes with a cute ass design💅

Day 5: Make yourself a bomb ass breakfast before starting your day.

Day 6: Clean out your closet and try on shit to configure some cute ass outfits for future reference.

Day 7: Take an epsom salt bath to detox and relax.

Day 8: Buy yourself a new highlighter. Even a cheap one like ELF or Makeup Revolution can ya shit pop✨

Day 9: Take a selfie. Take 10. Take 100. Do your makeup or go natural, and gas yourself up with as many selfies as your heart desires. Y'all have no clue how much this boosts your self confidence.

Day 10: Pick/buy yourself some flowers. Love thyself.

Day 11: Do something different with your hair. Part it a different way, straighten it, curl it, dye it, whatever makes you feel glammed up💆

Day 12: Go for a walk outside. Get that fine ass some fresh air and exercise.

Day 13: Get your eyebrows done, or do them yourself if you prefer.

Day 14: Trim your split ends💇

Day 15: Try out a new lip color💅

Day 16: Go through old makeup and throw out anything unwanted or expired. Keep that vanity fresh.

Day 17: Go to bed early for that young beauty rest💤

Day 18: Go through social media and your phone contacts. Delete/block people you don’t like or want to talk to. Cut that toxicity outta your life.

Day 19: Wear a new perfume, or one you normally don’t wear.

Day 20: Exfoliate ya face with your favorite scrub.

Day 21: Apply coconut oil (to lenghten) or castor oil (to volumize) to your lashes before going to bed

Day 22: Buy or make a lip scrub to get them soft kissers😘 (diy scrub: honey+sugar+olive oil)

Day 23: Buy yourself a cheap, fake little engagement ring to remind yourself that you are married to yourself. It also wards off fuckboys.

Day 24: Stretch properly after you wake up, and before you go to bed.

Day 25: Make yourself a lit ass playlist on spotify or your phone’s music to jam whenever you’re feelin down.

Day 26: Make a fruit salad and gobble that shit up for a healthy snack (melt some dark chocolate and drizzle over it for a little treat)🍎🍓🍇🍉🍍

Day 27: Do some yoga.

Day 28: Wing out ya eyeliner like a bad bitch💁 Use scotch tape as a guide for beginners.

Day 29: Buy yourself a new bra or pair of panties to feel sexy af in💞 Target has cute shit for cheap.

Day 30: Meditate to clear your mind and boost your mood.

[herhighnessthequeen]

💕A Glow Up Challenge💕

Day 1: Start reducing screen time at least an hour before you go to sleep. Read a book, do some drawing, take a bath, etc. You’ll sleep like a baby.

Day 2: Start moisturizing your face with SPF twice a day.

Day 3: Start using mouthwash BEFORE brushing your teeth; it helps get bacteria and other microbes off of your teeth more efficiently for a stronger clean👄

Day 4: Take 5 minutes to stretch right after waking up.

Day 5: Start drinking a glass of cold water before you eat breakfast to kickstart your metabolism.

Day 6: Start applying Vitamin E oil to your stretch marks right after you shower daily for smooth flawless skin.

Day 7: Start doing a mini 5 minute work out before your shower: squats, pushups, planks, whatever you like doing.

Day 8: Take a day off from social media to actually enjoy your surroundings🌅🌄

Day 9: Take an epsom salt bath for an overall detox (you can find bags of epsom salt at your local pharmacy).

Day 10: Start the day with a healthy breakfast. Scrambled eggs, a bowl of fruit, some whole grain toast, etc

Day 11: Switch from coffee to tea for a healthier caffeine fix☕

Day 12: Take a break from makeup today. Let ya skin breathe.

Day 13: Start applying SPF to your hands daily👐

Day 14: Go meatless for the day. You’ll really feel the difference in your body/energy throughout the day.

Day 15: Do a face mask today, whether it be a homemade one or that one with the pretty packaging that you always want to do but the time never felt right. Yeah, that one!!

Day 16: Create a “getting ready” playlist, put songs for the mood you want to be in, instead of the mood you are in🎶

Day 17: Four words: SEA SALT SCRUB DOWN. Mix some olive oil and sea salt and you got yourself a bomb ass body scrub.

Day 18: Declutter something today, having a more organized environment will help improve your mood.

Day 19: Go commando for today! You gotta let her get some air.

Day 20: Exercise, it doesn’t have to be intense at all. Go for a walk with your dog, for a jog, even a dance session in your room with your fave playlist🏃

Day 21: Clean your sheets today, especially your pillow case!!! There is all kinds of shit that could be on there rn, you should be doing this every 1-2 weeks.

Day 22: Wake up 2 hours earlier (okay.. 1 hour) Use this time to make your day less stressful.

Day 23: Spend your spare time reading or studying today📚

Day 24: Eat some chocolate; yes seriously. Dark chocolate is ideal but any will do. It’s great for your metabolism and your mood!

Day 25: Try something different with your hair today. Doesn’t matter if it’s just a new style or maybe something big like a new color, or cut. Even parting your hair a different way can transform your whole look💇

Day 26: Beat ya face, dress up real cute and take a bunch of selfies.

Day 27: Start flossing after every meal to avoid plaque building up on your teeth so you can strengthen and protect those pearly whites😀

Day 28: Delete old contacts of people you don’t fw anymore, and unfollow any people you don’t fw on social media. Cutting off dead ends clears your skin✨

Day 29: Splurge on some cute ass lingerie that makes you feel like a queen, whether it be for yourself, your mans, or ya lady. Having sexy lingerie on as you go about your day can boost your confidence for sure

Day 30: Apply a sugar scrub to your lips once or twice a week and moisturize them daily to keep your lips nice and luscious😘

[universtudy]

How to Never Fall Behind in Classes

Alternatively titled: How to Use Your Planner or How Organization and Discipline Will Get You Better Grades

This is my full guide on how to use your planner effectively and make sure that you are never missing deadlines or falling behind in classwork and homework. This is definitely more about the university level and works best with a dated planner, rather than a bullet journal. Let’s get started! 

Get all of your syllabi together and write down dates. Go through one class at a time and mark down all of your major tests and assignment due dates. I recommend putting these dates into the monthly and weekly views, and perhaps coming up with a symbol or other indicator that tells you they are of utmost importance. 

Make a weekly schedule of when to complete readings and do a weekly review of notes. Instead of trying to randomly decide when to do these things, assign a date for each task for each class. If you have a tutorial on Tuesday, do the assigned readings for it every Wednesday. I recommend scheduling one to two weekly tasks per day, and to leave a few days open, whether it be weekends or days when you have a lot of classes.

Make a master list of assignments. I find that sometimes, even having due dates in the calendar view isn’t enough, and they can still sneak up on you. The master list will be a good place to double check if you have any deadlines approaching easily. 

In the week or so before a due date, create a checklist of smaller tasks needed to complete the assignment. Set individual due dates for each smaller task by working backwards from the due date. Smaller tasks may include finding sources, making an outline, writing a rough draft, and editing and adding references to create a final copy. Write the smaller tasks into your daily to-do list. 

You can also do this with studying for tests, but the checklist would look slightly different. You could either sort by study method (first do flashcards, then do essay outlines, etc.) or sort by the topics you need to study. 

Stick to the schedule you have made. Obviously, if something comes up and you need to move your to-do list around, do so! But if you aren’t doing anything and you see readings on your list of daily tasks.. do them. Having the plan set out like this makes it easier for you to remain disciplined. 

Why use this method? 

By creating a schedule for repeated weekly tasks like completing readings, you make sure that you can’t repeatedly push off smaller tasks until you are weeks behind. I don’t think it is very reliable to just will yourself to do readings, or to keep up with them without tracking it. 

By writing down all of your due dates, you will never be shocked to find out something is due the night before. You will know and you will be prepared. 

By creating smaller checklists of tasks to complete before a major test or assignment, you will never find yourself in a situation where you have an essay due in a few days and haven’t even started. You will be following a timeline and making sure you don’t have to rush.

I know this system may seem rigorous, but planning is the only way you can keep on top of your workload in university! Falling behind is a lot harder if you are organized and disciplined, and being on top of your workload will help you a lot when it comes to exam times… no cramming and all-nighters if you have been consistent all semester! 

[naomiwithanovel]

english literature tip #4

always pay particular attention to figurative language (metaphors, similes, etc.) in the literature you read

whenever you encounter the use of figurative language, consider its meaning and purpose. chances are, it was included by the author for a specific reason―otherwise, why include it in the first place? you might find a metaphor, for example, and notice that it reinforces the overlying theme of the piece. talented authors can carefully weave different instances of figurative language (as well as other elements of writing) together to strengthen their work

basically, figurative language is rarely thrown into a piece of literature for absolutely no reason. look for a reason before assuming there isn’t one

[spacethots]

tips for gloing up

as someone who is continuously on the glo up journey this summer

moisturize

- moisturize your hair

- moisturize your body, especially if your climate is arid or your skin gets hella dry post-shower

- moisturize your face

- take care of your chapped lips ok

eat right

- eating right doesn’t mean just eating salads all day and forsaking junk food, it just means watch what you put in your body

- try to keep your meals well balanced through out the day, like make sure you get enough carbs and fruits and veggies and grains and proteins and fat everyday

- drink water!! your skin will be bomb and personally, it prevents me from being sick and stuck with a sore throat all the time

examine your thoughts

- try to think about all the things you have going for you

- learn to love yourself and accept your flaws

- set goals for yourself

- if people are being childish/petty, understand that it’s just them and let them be childish/petty

- if people are being mean and making your life hell, try to get out that situation or diffuse some of the tension

- discontinue to fuck with toxic people

- make plans and dream about the future, but don’t forget to live in the present