Welp, I guess this sordid saga just keeps going…
For those just tuning in on raayllum-gate, refer to my prior posts here, here, here, and here. The short version: raayllum got called out for their harmful behavior, cried technical foul because apparently evidence of said behavior was meant to be kept secret, and after briefly attempting to frame themselves as the victim (which very few people actually believed, especially when raayllum started harassing individuals for following/liking the wrong people), everything pretty much died down.
Sure, their reputation collapsed, but things became quiet and it was clear everyone had moved on… everyone except raayllum, who not only brought up the whole issue unprompted and out of the blue—from a position where they should want this whole thing forgotten—but actually escalated their manipulative tactics with legal threats and intimidation.
If nothing else, this shows they’ve truly learned nothing. They’ve not only doubled down on insisting they’re the victim, but have now pushed into actual intimidation by threatening legal action against community members who documented their public behavior.
Let’s be clear: referring to the DMs showing their “breakdown” is designed to make people feel guilty for supporting transparency. However, those DMs primarily showed them acknowledging their problematic behavior before later denying it publicly, all while their identity was carefully protected. It wasn’t even until raayllum revealed that THEY were the BNF in question that anyone could connect the dots otherwise. This is all deliberate misrepresentation—people documenting public behavior and sharing evidence of manipulation isn’t stalking, it’s accountability. But the reality distortion doesn’t stop there. They’ve also weaponized their partner’s departure from fandom as emotional ammunition, essentially saying “look what you did to my innocent partner” to generate sympathy and deflect from their own documented behavior.
What’s particularly revealing is their post (below) where they mentioned giving people who are “weird and aggressive” with “3 chances” before cutting them off. This shows they see accountability as aggressive behavior that they’ll tolerate briefly, but they’ll never engage with the feedback meaningfully—they will always manage perceived threats to their comfort over addressing problematic behavior.
Perhaps most startling is how they enthusiastically agreed with a post about callout culture that perfectly describes their own behavior—warning about people who “require enemies,” shift targets, and make others “disposable.” They shared this as evidence they’re being victimized, apparently unable to recognize that THEY are the ones being described. They’re so deep in their victim narrative that they can read a perfect description of their harmful behavior and think “yes, this proves I’M the victim here!”
While basically everyone can see the red flags here, it does leave the question: why? Why now? The community moved on months ago. The fact that they’re still fighting a war nobody else is fighting tells us everything we need to know about who was actually the problem, but why bring it up again after months of quiet?
And here the story goes from problematic to just sad. Their posts went from hundreds or thousands of likes/reblogs to single digits, sometimes higher but never breaking triple digits. For someone whose identity was built on being a Big Name Fan, this loss of influence is devastating. Rather than accepting this new reality, they’re desperately trying different tactics to force the community to pay attention to them again.
The pattern suggests someone who cannot let perceived slights go, ruminates endlessly on conflicts, and believes if they just find the right argument or threat, they can “win.” They’ve invested so much into their victim narrative that stopping now would mean admitting it was all pointless. Each escalation makes it harder to back down because it would invalidate everything they’ve claimed before. They’re trapped in their own story.
Ironically, their biggest fear seems to be that this will all just fade away with them being seen as the problem. So they keep bringing it up, not realizing that each mention reinforces exactly why people distanced themselves in the first place.
This escalation validates exactly why people were concerned about their character in the first place. Someone capable of this level of reality distortion and victim manipulation was never going to engage with criticism constructively. Essentially, what we’re witnessing is someone who will escalate indefinitely rather than engage in genuine self-reflection, and would rather tear everything down than just be another member of the fandom with flaws to work through—because then they’d just be like everyone else. The tragedy is that if they had just stayed quiet, people probably would have forgotten about it over time. Instead, they’ve ensured this becomes their permanent legacy in the fandom by refusing to let sleeping dogs lie.
