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Daisy | 22 | they/them | black | nonbinary | queer 🌱

[gf-enbie]

 I’m tired of seeing posts like “bi women can’t use butch/femme because they can’t understand the fact that its a complex identity and expression of gender outside of aesthetics” for me, being butch isn’t just “I’m a masculine woman uwu” and its irritating seeing people assume bi women can’t see butch/femme as anything deeper than aesthetic. It feels more comfortable to say “I’m butch” rather than “i’m a woman” because that’s how i see myself. People act like bi women can’t possibly understand the butch/femme dynamic because we’re inherently “heteronormative.” They act like we can’t have complicated relationships to gender and being a woman because we “perform for men.” They erase our part in butch/femme history because they look at us as being traitors to the sapphic community. Being butch is the only thing that makes me feel good about being a woman. The way i interact with people is different when i’m identifying as butch. The way I interact with WOMEN is different when I identify as butch. I feel more confident and comfortable, i don’t HAVE to perform femininity and i know that there are people who will be attracted to me for being butch. They love my body hair, my strong hands, my muscular arms, my short hair, my unwillingness to submit to men, etc. Growing up I felt “ugly” because all these traits are seen as unattractive but calling myself butch now feels like coming home, in a place where i’m allowed to be those things. Its a big “fuck off” to everyone who tells me how i should present my gender. Its a “fuck off” to men who think that because i’m attracted to them, i’m supposed to perform for them. Its who i am at my core, its putting my needs at the back burner for any woman, putting my safety on the line to protect people i love. Its embracing my strength and masculinity, knowing its okay to be butch. Any man who wants to be with me has to wholeheartedly accept that being butch is who i am, that i won’t water down my expression to make them more comfortable. I will reclaim my history and you cannot stop me from coming back home to my roots.

[fairycosmos]

my friend is very confident and free and i always want to know how she does it so once i asked her and she just said “the only difference between me and you is that when people treat you badly you think it’s because there’s something wrong with you but when people treat me badly i think there’s something wrong with them.” scalped

[liesandnights]

To lovely humans who were excluded from invitations, left behind when they tied their shoes, forced to walk in the grass when the sidewalk was full, spoken over when you tried to contribute, whispered about or laughed at, given side-eye when you tried to fit in…. you are so worthy of love.

[constellatedlove]

don’t be scared to live lovingly. compliment your friends on the little things and cheer for live bands in small cafes and leave tips when you can. tell the person you saw that you really like their shirt and write cards and letters to the people you love. make playlists for people and don’t be afraid to express your appreciation for others. life is so much better when you live it with love.

[maureen2musings]

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[spitblossoms]

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[gulistan-blog]

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dry flower studio..

[77ms]

[equatorjournal]

Rincon sunset, from the film Spoons

[almondfae-deactivated20220208]

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[aphrodisiacgoddessart]

[onlinecounsellingcollege]

“Healing is the unlearning of stories you’ve told yourself, about yourself, that destroy your spirit.”

— Rebecca Ray

[mysterium-solis]

Now Was the Day Departing by Gustave Doré (1890)

[chrispineofficial]

one of the biggest things i believe to be true about relationships is that you must make it feel safe for the people you love to call you out on shit. like obviously don’t let anyone emotionally manipulate or terrorize you but in general, in healthy adult relationships, there is always a pattern of rupture/repair. someone does something (unintentionally!) that makes someone else feel not great, and it needs to be addressed. the best thing you can do to preserve and improve your interpersonal relationships is to be open to these conversations. you have to be able to hear how your words or actions have affected someone, even if it absolutely wasn’t your intention, and you have to be able to simply acknowledge and apologize. it doesn’t matter if you didn’t see it that way. someone you love did, and they care enough to tell you, and that’s a gift. be grateful for the opportunity to do better.

[spitblossoms]

[slfcare]

i remember thinking that the only way to be loved was if i reinvented myself to be desirable. as it turns out, the person whose love i was seeking in the first place was myself, and the most desirable version of myself i could think of was a person who's happy, so i'm working on that instead.